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I don't understand why they're letting her bleed to death... *ETA*

My aunt has had an almost continuous AF for three years (she'll bleed for about three weeks, then stop for about a week, then it starts over)- it wasn't as bad the first year but started getting worse last year.
Her doc said the only way to fix it is to remove her ovaries.
The hospital cost is $29,000, which doesn't include the doctor fees, and numerous hospital fees (tools, anesthesia, etc.).
She is now anemic, has very low iron, and faints more often.
She has no medical insurance and can't afford any. Her and my uncle filed for bankruptcy last year and are still trying to build their lives back up while also trying to get two kids through college.
The hospital told her she would have to make a downpayment before they'd do the surgery, but my aunt can't even afford that upfront cost.
They told her to get on Medicaid and let the government pay for it, but my uncle makes "too much money" for her to use that option.
Isn't there another option that doesn't require my aunt to slowly bleed to death?
I don't understand the ideology behind not helping those who need important medical services.

*ETA* Thank you ladies for all of your ideas. I have passed all of them on to my aunt. I will continue to pester her with these ideas until she realizes that she has to put her health first.
  I know that some of you think she is "martyring" herself and many of you think she is doing it to herself, but she is one of the kindest people I know, and no matter how many times her kids screw up or her husband thinks of himself before her, she continues to love them and keep their interests ahead of her own. That's probably causing all of her problems, but she doesn't know any other way to be.

by on Nov. 7, 2012 at 6:43 PM
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jean_marie1987
by on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:13 PM
True, but she doesn't want her husband to have to deal with the talks at work- again putting her family before herself.


Quoting Anonymous:



Quoting jean_marie1987:

They could "separate" as long as she files for child support, but that would be lying.



Quoting Anonymous:

Is divorce an option? On paper only.



Lying is better than dying.


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emilysmom8
by Platinum Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:13 PM

 I thought it was a law that hospitals can NOT refuse to treat someone just becasue they have no insurance... its a law called EMTALA

silverdawn99
by Ruby Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:13 PM

how would he be paying for child support? how old are her children? after 18 they are adults

Quoting jean_marie1987:

They could "separate" as long as she files for child support, but that would be lying.


Quoting Anonymous:

Is divorce an option? On paper only.


silverdawn99
by Ruby Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:13 PM

in a emergency

Quoting emilysmom8:

 I thought it was a law that hospitals can NOT refuse to treat someone just becasue they have no insurance... its a law called EMTALA


littlesippycup
by Ruby Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:13 PM

It's where the laser the uterine lining. My bff had it done. It really helped. 

Quoting jean_marie1987:

I have no idea what that is.


Quoting bjdmom:

Won't an ablation help?


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:14 PM
That's America for you. It's only going to get worse with obamacare. If the surgery costs too much, the government will say "too bad."

I agree with the legal separation. Yes it may be lying, but lying is a hell of a lot better than dying.
momof2little1s
by Silver Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:14 PM
She should get some insurance.
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littlesippycup
by Ruby Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:15 PM

o_O that's just stupid.

Quoting jean_marie1987:

True, but she doesn't want her husband to have to deal with the talks at work- again putting her family before herself.


Quoting Anonymous:



Quoting jean_marie1987:

They could "separate" as long as she files for child support, but that would be lying.



Quoting Anonymous:

Is divorce an option? On paper only.



Lying is better than dying.



FL2AK
by on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:15 PM
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She has options she just chooses to not use them. Paying for college for two kids is ridiculous when you need surgery.
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silverdawn99
by Ruby Member on Nov. 7, 2012 at 7:15 PM

quite honestly tell her its either her or her childrens education

they are grown. if she dies well what good will she be to them?

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