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Recently, my DH and I have been having problems with communication. I will say something, and later talk to him and he will ask about details that we already discussed. Example: Yesterday I told him I cooked 2 chickens in a stock pot on the stove and that we would be having chicken enchiladas tonight. Later I was doing the dishes and he came in and asked me WHY the stock pot was on the stove.... uhm. because I used it?? Then today I was making dinner and he asks me what I was making.... I told you yesterday that we would be having echiladas!
Then I am sitting at the table, right in front of him, and talking to him. I get NO acknowledgement. I get NO answers to my questions. I get NO response whatsoever. It hurt my feelings, a lot. I can't get him to HEAR what I say when he is "listening" and then I can't even get him to hear me half the time. He blows me off!
Then, to try to ease my feelings he said I could go have some alone time and take a bath. So, I did. I hopped into the bath and was relaxing with a book. When I was done I came downstairs and he had put the kids to bed. So I was feeling frisky. He came downstairs with me and I send him an email asking him if I can "bounce on his hard cock" (which he LOVES usually when I talk dirty like that). He reads it, says I'm funny and then says... well, I'm tired. I wanted to exercise, I was hoping to read. I want to work on... excuse after excuse. Then he asked if we could "do it later" and what was the rush. So, I do what would usually set him OFF! I put his hand on my vagina and show him I am so ready for him! he laughs, then says, later.
So 30 minutes later he says he is FINALLY ready.... but he is super soft. I have to WORK to make him hard. Then he decides he wants to sit on the couch. so we put down a blanket and he sits down. in the 30 seconds it took him to sit he gets all soft. I again work to get him hard and he goes soft again! I get him hard again and we start to go in his favorite position and he gets softish. Then he says he wants to sit on the floor. okay. we go down there- and it's just soft again. I was done.
the whole time we were trying to have sex he was making strange faces and looking away!
I am really feeling rejected. feeling that he doesn't think I'm attractive. feeling like he just doesn't care. I'm really upset!