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He doesn't think I'm Sexy anymore.

Anonymous
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Recently, my DH and I have been having problems with communication. I will say something, and later talk to him and he will ask about details that we already discussed. Example: Yesterday I told him I cooked 2 chickens in a stock pot on the stove and that we would be having chicken enchiladas tonight. Later I was doing the dishes and he came in and asked me WHY the stock pot was on the stove.... uhm. because I used it?? Then today I was making dinner and he asks me what I was making.... I told you yesterday that we would be having echiladas!

Then I am sitting at the table, right in front of him, and talking to him. I get NO acknowledgement. I get NO answers to my questions. I get NO response whatsoever. It hurt my feelings, a lot. I can't get him to HEAR what I say when he is "listening" and then I can't even get him to hear me half the time. He blows me off!

Then, to try to ease my feelings he said I could go have some alone time and take a bath. So, I did. I hopped into the bath and was relaxing with a book. When I was done I came downstairs and he had put the kids to bed. So I was feeling frisky. He came downstairs with me and I send him an email asking him if I can "bounce on his hard cock" (which he LOVES usually when I talk dirty like that). He reads it, says I'm funny and then says... well, I'm tired. I wanted to exercise, I was hoping to read. I want to work on... excuse after excuse. Then he asked if we could "do it later" and what was the rush. So, I do what would usually set him OFF! I put his hand on my vagina and show him I am so ready for him! he laughs, then says, later.

So 30 minutes later he says he is FINALLY ready.... but he is super soft. I have to WORK to make him hard. Then he decides he wants to sit on the couch. so we put down a blanket and he sits down. in the 30 seconds it took him to sit he gets all soft. I again work to get him hard and he goes soft again! I get him hard again and we start to go in his favorite position and he gets softish. Then he says he wants to sit on the floor. okay. we go down there- and it's just soft again. I was done.

the whole time we were trying to have sex he was making strange faces and looking away!

I am really feeling rejected. feeling that he doesn't think I'm attractive. feeling like he just doesn't care. I'm really upset!

WWYD?

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 11, 2012 at 3:46 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Nov. 11, 2012 at 3:49 AM

Yikes...do you trust your hubby that he's not sneaking around?  I'm getting a bad vibe.

Post a pic and we'll compliment you!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Nov. 11, 2012 at 3:49 AM

I would think that he's cheating and feeling guilty or I would think he's watching porn and attracted to those women instead. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Nov. 11, 2012 at 3:49 AM

I'm getting a bad vibe too! Post a recent pic and we can do readings, or one of you and him would work the best. I'm really sorry hunny. 

BUFFIE.the.BODY
by Ruby Member on Nov. 11, 2012 at 3:50 AM
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He probably is just tired or thinking of someTHING esle, men have their days too. They have periods as well lol! It could be a # of things
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Nov. 11, 2012 at 3:51 AM

 Bad vibes comin from that one

Is he on medications? Stress? Job issues?
If its not those things.....Id suspect cheating. My DH has issues in the sex department, but its from medications. Sometimes we need medical help (pill) for him to get goin. 

I hope ya find out the issues...Sounds like maybe its time for a major talk, or counseling

Good luck!

3_girls_86
by Ruby Member on Nov. 11, 2012 at 3:52 AM
I would ask him what is wrong. Why he's not listening to you when you talk to him. And why he doesn't stay hard when you have sex. I'm sorry that would piss me off.
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MamaSwan001
by Gold Member on Nov. 11, 2012 at 3:52 AM
I would feel very bad and think he was cheating I'm so sorry
Twix.Leigh
by Platinum Member on Nov. 11, 2012 at 3:53 AM
Maybe he's insecure cause he can't stop what's happening? What if its not you?
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NBean311
by Chivette on Nov. 11, 2012 at 3:53 AM
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ED, cheating (I hate to even suggest that), emotional issue, physical issue? When was the last time you had normal sex? I don't expect you to actually divulge- just thinking maybe something has happened between then and now?
momoftwo0406
by Ruby Member on Nov. 11, 2012 at 3:56 AM
Talk to him about it. It may not be you at all he may just be having erection issues
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