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Spin Off Post. Why do women always think their husband would never Cheat?

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They are so sure about it..

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 12, 2012 at 10:28 AM
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ecerka
by Platinum Member on Nov. 12, 2012 at 11:14 AM
This. My husband is a very wonderful man who values our marriage. If his needs are not being met in some way he comes and talks to me.

Quoting Anonymous:

Because there are men with values and morals out there that wouldn't cheat on the one they have committed to.
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momsince1989
by on Nov. 12, 2012 at 11:15 AM

 oh idk maybe "trust" and "security" I would never be shocked if my husband cheated because I am that cynical but I don't look for it and if you asked me I'd say he would never because I just trust and am secure that he wouldn't. Why does it bother people that someone has 100% trust in their man? Only asking because I see these types of posts all the time too:)

BeAuTiFuL.BLiSs
by Platinum Member on Nov. 12, 2012 at 11:16 AM

It's not just women. 

Men and women can be naive to cheating. Always think it will never happen to them. Have no reason to believe it will. They trust their spouse. Blah blah blah.

Funny how one of the first things that comes out of ones mouth who has been cheated on is, "I never thought he/she would do this to me, I trusted them!"

trailerrrtrash
by on Nov. 12, 2012 at 11:16 AM

Pretty sure he won't. I'll never say 100%, everybody has the potential to get sucked into something or let their guard down or make a bad decision. I'm pretty sure he wouldn't, though...we've both been cheated on in past relationships and we know what it feels like. Neither of us want to do that to each other.

Matriarch87
by Ruby Member on Nov. 12, 2012 at 11:16 AM

 I do not think the amount of trust relates at all to the acknowledgement that any human could cheat. 

I trust my husband with every fiber of my being as well, but I know that humans are indeed unpredictable. 

Quoting KairisMama:

That's cool. I don't even see mine capable if cheating. He felt guilty when a pretty girl at work was crushing on him. I laughed at his silliness and enjoyed the stories if her come ons. I just honestly trust dh more than any other human being on Earth. I cant help it. I don't fear him cheating, if locked in a room with a gorgeous naked woman and no chance of me finding out. I don't see it happening. What can I say. :) Hell I could have cheated on a few occasions honestly. Never happened. Its not my nature.



Quoting Matriarch87:

 Everyone who has ever cheated at one time or another has said "I would never cheat", "I have morals" blah blah blah... Fact is, none of us know exactly what we are capable of or not capable of.  None of us know how we will be in the future, what we will feel, how our lives change.  As humans we are merely animals, and we all know that animals are unpredictable...Lord knows what we are capable of when pushed hard enough.  So its easy to say, "id never cheat"...But id bet everything I owned that most cheaters have made that proclamation before. 




Anyone could cheat.  Anyone.  This doesn't mean I suggest women follow around their men and be suspicious, hell no.  I am completely about trusting your spouse 110%.  I am not down with that phone spy, on a leash, crap.  My husband can do whatever he wants, i do not care, I trust him totally.  He is a fantastic man, with rock solid morals, honest to a fault. 




Do I think he will cheat?  Fuck no. 




But am I so stupid to proclaim there is no way in hell he would cheat cause he is one of the "good guys"?  Fuck no.




Just because I trust and believe my husband will not cheat on me, does not mean he is not capable of cheating and very well may given whatever buttons are pushed that he would need pushed to act like such a fool. 




 




 




Quoting KairisMama:

There are just as many women married to men who will LITERALLY never cheat. Why is that so unrealistic? Will YOU cheat? I wont.







Quoting Anonymous:

There are a lot of women with their head in the sand and I believe will be shell shocked one of these days.






Quoting Anonymous:




Don't be so sure...




Quoting mom2monsterboys:

This!





My husband has very strong morals and he follows them to a T.









Quoting Anonymous:

Because there are men with values and morals out there that wouldn't cheat on the one they have committed to.







 

 

MrsRinehart2010
by on Nov. 12, 2012 at 11:16 AM

My husbnad has had many opporunities to cheat an never has . An in my oppinion these women were prettier then me but for some reasons he thinks im very pretty. But my husbnad isnnt the cheating type he would leave before he would cheat. Hes very point blank honest if he doent like something he will tell you if he likes something he will tell you. If he isnt happy he will tell you e've been there done that. He would leave before he would ever cheat.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 23 on Nov. 12, 2012 at 11:16 AM
Mine wouldnt because he's built our lives together in such a way that there wouldnt ever be an opportunity. There isn't one unaccounted minute in our day. Plus hes a terrible liar.
momsince1989
by on Nov. 12, 2012 at 11:17 AM
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 that sounds like me and my dh and he is always blabbling about his wife and kids lol...I hear it all the time when I meet people for the first time, they act like they already know me lol.

Quoting kidlover2:

I will never say my SO would NEVER cheat but I can say he would never cheat without telling me first. (Telling me he is unhappy, asking me to talk to him and fix things) we are 100% honest with each other. We communicate both good and bad feelings.... we both know that the other person can not fulfill all of our desires and have to find happiness outside of strictly our relationship. I've been cheated on before and I know this man is different because of his maturity and acceptance of himself. He is not looking for validation anywhere else. Besides, he never shuts up about me or my daughters so he cuts off any interest at the pass :)

 

MajorsMom8215
by on Nov. 12, 2012 at 11:18 AM

 So this sounds weird, but I know mine would never cheat because he did it once. Long story in a nutshell, we'd only been together about a month, I treated him like shit, he didn't think I was serious about him, I didn't think I was either, he cheated and it hurt me so badly I realized I cared more deeply for him than I'd thought, he realized the pain he put me through and what he'd lose, and it actually brought us together in a way we hadn't committed to before. Now I trust him implicitly; I know he'd rather die than hurt me or the boys that way ever again.

hollieh79
by on Nov. 12, 2012 at 11:18 AM
I think every person has it in them to cheat. It never starts out as sleepin with someone. Usually it is baby steps. Why live your marriage thinking negative is what most women think. They give their husband the benefit of the doubt, trust and honor. The truh will always come to light I it ever happened. Then either party can decide where to go from there


Quoting Anonymous:

They are so sure about it..


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