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could my husband be a pedophile?

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i came home from staying the night at a girlfriend's house out of town and couln't find my husband. he knew i was headed home. the house was quiet, so i finally figured he must have fallen asleep in the girls' room when he tried to get the to sleep. 

i found him between my two year old and six year old, uncovered and completely naked!! i smacked him and told him to get out. he was "shocked" that i was mad about that silly trivial thing after he cleaned the house for me! after him accusing me of being molested as a child, because that is the only reasonable explanation as to why i am this upset, and several other horrible insults, i told him i wanted to separate. 

he can't be here with my children if he thinks that is okay behavior. by the way, i have made it very clear, i am not okay with him being nude around my older daughter. After this incident, the same goes for both. 

he said he was half asleep, wasn't thinking. but, why be naked at all when you know you have to take care of the kids!! id have never thought he could do anything wrong to the girls, but he planted that doubt.. these are my children. i would rather him hate me for thinking such things than be someone who looks back and realizes that all the signs were riht there.

i cant believe this is my life now...

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 13, 2012 at 12:29 AM
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by Anonymous 28 on Nov. 17, 2012 at 4:01 AM

 Being molested and being raped are two different things.  He may not have full on raped her.  I don't want to paint a picture. :(  And if I were OP I would be pissed the fuck off.  And I completely agree about taking her to the hospital. 

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Quoting Anonymous:

Seriously dude if your not a caring enough mother to wake your baby girl up and rush her to the hospital to make sure no on has fondled or god forbid penatrated her..I mean she could have internal damage! Then I hate to say it but you dont need custody of your daughters..Yes its incovient to wake her up but Id rather inconvience myself then let my baby girl just lay their not knowing..Poor kid..Luckily I dont know you personally or you have the cops a ambulance and cps there as we speak!

It'd be pretty easy to see it on the sheet if he had penetrated or if she had internal damage.  Children that young can't really take a lot.  My niece has trouble going number 2 every once in a while.

Honestly OP you need to suck it up and take them to the ER.  Just deal with waking them.

by Anonymous 29 on Nov. 17, 2012 at 4:04 AM
Omg.. mom? I've been telling you for years he was.
by Ruby Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 4:05 AM

I'm not sure what's more hilarious.

The over reactions to nudity presented in this thread (although sad, simultaneously) or the AFV episode I'm currently watching.

by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 4:18 AM

 omg... so sorry you are going thru this. I for one am very comfortable with nudity so I can see how something could have caused him to run in there maybe not purposely naked. But again I dont know ur husband, if you doubt him them do what you feel is right.

Get the answers you need as soon as possible and good luck. hugs. If you feel you have to talk to to someone plz feel free to message me. again good luck and I hope it is a misunderstanding and nothing happened.

by Ruby Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 4:19 AM
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by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 4:23 AM
Wtf. That's so weird. HOPEFULLY it was just that and not actually something bad. Keep us updated!
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by Anonymous 30 on Nov. 17, 2012 at 4:25 AM
Do your daughters share a bed ?
by Anonymous 31 on Nov. 17, 2012 at 4:27 AM
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If he did anything to them do you HONESTLY think he'd be stupid enough to fall asleep in bed with them? Come on, predators aren't that stupid! My dad molested me for YEARS and knew damn well how to cover his tracks.
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 4:28 AM
Time for a lie detector test and a divorce. Hopefully that would be it.
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by Anonymous 29 on Nov. 17, 2012 at 4:29 AM
I say 1st stop freaking out. That will make it worse. Sencond. Does he sleep naked. Maybe they woke him up. 3rd. If he's acting like your "insane" instead of leaving quietly he might be innocent. Any molester caught would flee the sene I think. 3rd. jus take them to the dr. DON'T FREAK OUT

Quoting Anonymous:

I have checked them, I don't see anything. I have tried asking my oldest, but I don't wanna lead her.. 

She is six and has gone back and forth with potty training, but lately she's worse than ever. Now I am terrified!!! And he acts like I'm out of my mind! I'm taking them to a doctor tomorrow, then trying to set up something with a child psychologist. I don't think I can get much out of her. I figure a professional can.

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