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could my husband be a pedophile?

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i came home from staying the night at a girlfriend's house out of town and couln't find my husband. he knew i was headed home. the house was quiet, so i finally figured he must have fallen asleep in the girls' room when he tried to get the to sleep. 

i found him between my two year old and six year old, uncovered and completely naked!! i smacked him and told him to get out. he was "shocked" that i was mad about that silly trivial thing after he cleaned the house for me! after him accusing me of being molested as a child, because that is the only reasonable explanation as to why i am this upset, and several other horrible insults, i told him i wanted to separate. 

he can't be here with my children if he thinks that is okay behavior. by the way, i have made it very clear, i am not okay with him being nude around my older daughter. After this incident, the same goes for both. 

he said he was half asleep, wasn't thinking. but, why be naked at all when you know you have to take care of the kids!! id have never thought he could do anything wrong to the girls, but he planted that doubt.. these are my children. i would rather him hate me for thinking such things than be someone who looks back and realizes that all the signs were riht there.

i cant believe this is my life now...

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 13, 2012 at 12:29 AM
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by Anonymous 14 on Nov. 13, 2012 at 12:56 AM

I find that odd as hell. I don't know what to hink, bu tI would assume the worst until proven otherwise. 

Unless he has a sleepwalking disorder and everyhting checks out clear or something like that, then there is no excuse for him to be naked in their bed. I would ask my 6 year old what happened last night.

by Anonymous 15 on Nov. 13, 2012 at 12:56 AM

does he sleep naked?

I am not paranoid about the father of my children being obscene to my children, but then again, they are both boys. but on the same note, I have NO ISSUE with being naked in front of my 3 year old, though my 11 year old will only see me naked on occassion (i.e. he walks in to my bedroom while I am changing unannounce, but I would NEVER make a big deal out of it ... but nudity isn't an issue in our home)

by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 12:57 AM

Ask your daughters what happened. 

by Anonymous 11 on Nov. 13, 2012 at 12:59 AM
Obviously. I quickly read the OP and just saw that the 6 yr old was in bed.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

Oh hell no! Please check your daughter for any signs of abuse. Or call the police. Take her to the hospital. Anything. You need to do it now. Get off cafemom.

Quoting Anonymous:

Oh my goodness. This filled up really fast! 

He is my two year old's father, not my six year olds

You do know that being a bio child doesn't stop a pedo...Kids get molested by their father's all the time. 

by Anonymous 3 on Nov. 13, 2012 at 12:59 AM
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Going back and forth between potty training is also signs of abuse.

Quoting Anonymous:

I have checked them, I don't see anything. I have tried asking my oldest, but I don't wanna lead her.. 

She is six and has gone back and forth with potty training, but lately she's worse than ever. Now I am terrified!!! And he acts like I'm out of my mind! I'm taking them to a doctor tomorrow, then trying to set up something with a child psychologist. I don't think I can get much out of her. I figure a professional can.

by Platinum Member on Nov. 13, 2012 at 1:02 AM
I wouldn't wait til tomorrow to take them to the doctors... :-(
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by Ruby Member on Nov. 13, 2012 at 1:02 AM

Quoting lauren.m:

My dh wont even be in just boxers around the kids and has never slept in their beds. I would flip out if i came home to that!


by Platinum Member on Nov. 13, 2012 at 1:04 AM
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That's frightening. I'd definitely freak out. Especially since he was so defensive about it. I'm sorry.
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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 13, 2012 at 1:13 AM

Quoting MumsTheWord571:

That's frightening. I'd definitely freak out. Especially since he was so defensive about it. I'm sorry.

I agree, except he is defensive about everything, I can;t ever bring up an issue. And I'd be defensive if someone implied I might be a pervert. But, I know he is full of it when he acts like he doesn't see why it's a problem. He knew he was in trouble! 

And yes, there are families who are comfortable with being nude around their children. Fine for them. But, not for us. Not for me. I have always been extremely clear about my feelings on that. He wears his underwear all day around the house. I have clearly not been tough enough about it, but he knows I think it's not appropriate. 

Regardless of wether nudity is seen as okay around the children or not, lying in the children's bed in the nude... that's taking it a HUGE step further.

by Silver Member on Nov. 13, 2012 at 1:21 AM
Holy hell. I would be at the hospital now. That's not okay.
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