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could my husband be a pedophile?

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i came home from staying the night at a girlfriend's house out of town and couln't find my husband. he knew i was headed home. the house was quiet, so i finally figured he must have fallen asleep in the girls' room when he tried to get the to sleep. 

i found him between my two year old and six year old, uncovered and completely naked!! i smacked him and told him to get out. he was "shocked" that i was mad about that silly trivial thing after he cleaned the house for me! after him accusing me of being molested as a child, because that is the only reasonable explanation as to why i am this upset, and several other horrible insults, i told him i wanted to separate. 

he can't be here with my children if he thinks that is okay behavior. by the way, i have made it very clear, i am not okay with him being nude around my older daughter. After this incident, the same goes for both. 

he said he was half asleep, wasn't thinking. but, why be naked at all when you know you have to take care of the kids!! id have never thought he could do anything wrong to the girls, but he planted that doubt.. these are my children. i would rather him hate me for thinking such things than be someone who looks back and realizes that all the signs were riht there.

i cant believe this is my life now...

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 13, 2012 at 12:29 AM
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by Anonymous 25 on Nov. 17, 2012 at 3:43 AM

Quoting Anonymous:

Seriously dude if your not a caring enough mother to wake your baby girl up and rush her to the hospital to make sure no on has fondled or god forbid penatrated her..I mean she could have internal damage! Then I hate to say it but you dont need custody of your daughters..Yes its incovient to wake her up but Id rather inconvience myself then let my baby girl just lay their not knowing..Poor kid..Luckily I dont know you personally or you have the cops a ambulance and cps there as we speak!

It'd be pretty easy to see it on the sheet if he had penetrated or if she had internal damage.  Children that young can't really take a lot.  My niece has trouble going number 2 every once in a while.

Honestly OP you need to suck it up and take them to the ER.  Just deal with waking them.

by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 3:46 AM

D: I donno what to say hun, I'm sorry that must be really creepy. Hope everything turns out alright for you and your kids. Good luck

by Anonymous 26 on Nov. 17, 2012 at 3:46 AM
Where is he now? Away from the girls?

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting MumsTheWord571:

That's frightening. I'd definitely freak out. Especially since he was so defensive about it. I'm sorry.

I agree, except he is defensive about everything, I can;t ever bring up an issue. And I'd be defensive if someone implied I might be a pervert. But, I know he is full of it when he acts like he doesn't see why it's a problem. He knew he was in trouble! 

And yes, there are families who are comfortable with being nude around their children. Fine for them. But, not for us. Not for me. I have always been extremely clear about my feelings on that. He wears his underwear all day around the house. I have clearly not been tough enough about it, but he knows I think it's not appropriate. 

Regardless of wether nudity is seen as okay around the children or not, lying in the children's bed in the nude... that's taking it a HUGE step further.

by Ruby Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 3:47 AM
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Good god you people are ridiculous.

My 6.5 yo son is nude quite often. I'm nude regularly. In the summer I sleep nude, and sometimes he sleeps with me (night terrors). I don't put clothes on. 

Does this mean I molest my son?


by Gold Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 3:50 AM
Sounds like it. Get them checked!
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by Ruby Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 3:52 AM

Oh lord. My son wets the bed some nights. But I know why. He's in a deep fucking sleep. When he's crashed, he's crashed. This actually isn't too uncommon for 6 and 7 yos who are potty trained for waking hours.

Quoting Anonymous:

Well i'm concerned about her being 6 and still not being completely potty trained.... Especially recently, since he's been sleeping in the nude recently......catch my drift? Anyway, I wouldn't wake them, but you should go to the hospital asap

by *Angelicious* on Nov. 17, 2012 at 3:52 AM

Quoting mamaxkitty:

ewww i'd freak out too. I dont see a reason as to why he would be naked between them..........

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by Anonymous 26 on Nov. 17, 2012 at 3:54 AM
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Yeah, I call bullshit on this whole thing. What kinc of mother walks in on her husband passed out naked with 2 little girls, thinks he's a child molester, then doesn't do jack shit? Troll.
by Bronze Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 3:56 AM

Time for you to have that talk with your older daughter...i'd be freaked and he would have had to get his ass out my house!

by Anonymous 27 on Nov. 17, 2012 at 4:00 AM
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Crazy ladies in this group. Nudity isn't sex. 

I am naked around my kids all the time. If he sleeps naked and they called him the room he could have very easily gone in there without grabbing some shorts. Just because the OP isn't comfortable with her husband's nudity doesn't mean he's not. 

OP. chill out and talk to your daughter in the morning. I can't believe people think you should rush them to ER in the middle of the night. Talk about traumatizing them!

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