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How can someone not "afford" Christmas? and yes, I'm broke as hell, before you even ask.

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I understand saying that you can't afford to "buy presents" for Christmas. I know it sucks, especially when you have excited little ones. Trust me, I know. But saying you can't afford Christmas is like saying you can't afford to breathe. Christmas doesn't skip you just because you're broke. No one ever dies from not getting presents. Christmas isn't supposed to be about gifts anyway, right? Bake some cookies, or vegetables for those moms out there that hate cookies, and just love your kids. Use Christmas as a way to enjoy your family and do something good for others. Volunteers rock!!!!


If you can't afford to give your kids presents, then at least be in a happy and loving mood for them. If not being able to buy gifts is ruining your Christmas and puttiing you in a shitty mood, then why even bother?

I should have expected the cattiness. I have been there...I have been that mom who couldn't afford presents...it is heartbreaking to see your kids have to go without while others get so much. But we, as adults, have to rise above it. if you can't change your situaton, then make the best of it. That's all I'm saying. And yes, I am poor for those of you berating me because you think I'm some rich well-to-do bitch.

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 13, 2012 at 10:53 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:11 AM
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That is not the case. There are few that can't. I CAN afford ONE small gift per child, but that's only because I've been skipping meals to make it happen.

Quoting MichelleSw:

Obviously, They mean the toys.... BUT, I disagree. Anyone can afford 2-5 bucks at the dollar tree. 

702girly
by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:11 AM
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You still just had Christmas.

I spent eight years of my childhood in crippling poverty because my dad was injured in an accident and then fucked around by the people who crippled him.

If you cancel Christmas just because you're embarrassed, you suck as a parent. That's a shitty thing to do to a kid. Bake some fucking cookies and cook them a hot meal and man the fuck up.

Quoting Anonymous:

Do you have any idea how heartbreaking it is to have to rely on that? Yes, the kids will get a gift but it is humiliating to not be able to provide that yourself!

Quoting 702girly:

I think it's just a way of fishing for sympathy and handouts. Anybody can go to a food bank and get some food to make Christmas dinner and sign their kids up to get at least one gift from charity.

Bam, free Christmas. Maybe not the fanciest, most awesome Christmas ever but Christmas just the same.


wicked_tink
by twinkie humper on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:12 AM

I agree...I told my kids i cant get much this time because we just recently moved but they are fine with that :) they know some how i make it up to them and they are just as happy thinking of others so that is what matters to us.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:12 AM

lets see.. out of each check i have for left over of all bills and food..

I have 12 cents..  you tell me what a 1.44 can get me...

Quoting cLanief:

Its called saving every penny you have so you can spend 20$ on a gift and hit up the dollar store for some stocking stuffers. Its not that hard to give a gift... You just have to learn to pinch a penny here and there. If you cant pinch a penny here and there you have bigger issues with your budget.


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:12 AM
Yea and dollar store has toys too.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:13 AM
And nobody said others wouldn't. But yes, that humiliation and depression pretty much ruins the Christmas spirit. Having to fake a good time really sucks.

Quoting MichelleSw:


Quoting Anonymous:

Do you have any idea how heartbreaking it is to have to rely on that? Yes, the kids will get a gift but it is humiliating to not be able to provide that yourself!



Quoting 702girly:

I think it's just a way of fishing for sympathy and handouts. Anybody can go to a food bank and get some food to make Christmas dinner and sign their kids up to get at least one gift from charity.

Bam, free Christmas. Maybe not the fanciest, most awesome Christmas ever but Christmas just the same.

I would rather feel humiliated then allow my child to go without.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:14 AM
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Quoting Anonymous:

 When people say they can't afford Christmas.. they mean presents, food, decorations, etc....


 You might think that baking cookies is enough but seeing the disappointment in your child's face when Santa filled his stocking with an apple and an orange is enough to make you want to crawl into a hole a die.


Especially when he has to go to school and hear his friends tell him Santa brought them an Xbox, games, toys, clothes, chocolates and money.


You don't get it. You must be able to give your children a great Xmas.


you can't always get what you want. This is when you explain not everyone can afford the same things.
Lizardannie1966
by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:14 AM
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Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting Anonymous:

Meh. Its depressing when you know your kids will be the only ones in class disappointed because Santa forgot them.
No. It's not about the gifts entirely. But they are nice to receive. And if your in a position where you can't afford them, it gets ya down.

Oh I know. I've been there. But if you can't change the situation, just make the best of it. being angry and bitter won't make it any better.

Believe it or not, kids *get* that it's more than just presents IF the parents teach them that.

If the family starts building Christmas and other holiday traditions early and recognize that Christmas (and others) are FAR MORE than the pretty packages under the tree, your kids will see the holiday far clearer and will have cherished memories.

Good point, OP!

702girly
by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:14 AM

A gift from Toys for Tots, a gently used gift found on freecycle... do I really need to keep listing these or do you get it?

Quoting Anonymous:

lets see.. out of each check i have for left over of all bills and food..

I have 12 cents..  you tell me what a 1.44 can get me...

Quoting cLanief:

Its called saving every penny you have so you can spend 20$ on a gift and hit up the dollar store for some stocking stuffers. Its not that hard to give a gift... You just have to learn to pinch a penny here and there. If you cant pinch a penny here and there you have bigger issues with your budget.



Keara20
by Platinum Member on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:15 AM
Thankfully our kid is only one. we cant afford much. we're buying her a little slide. Greatful for grandparents!
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