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How can someone not "afford" Christmas? and yes, I'm broke as hell, before you even ask.

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I understand saying that you can't afford to "buy presents" for Christmas. I know it sucks, especially when you have excited little ones. Trust me, I know. But saying you can't afford Christmas is like saying you can't afford to breathe. Christmas doesn't skip you just because you're broke. No one ever dies from not getting presents. Christmas isn't supposed to be about gifts anyway, right? Bake some cookies, or vegetables for those moms out there that hate cookies, and just love your kids. Use Christmas as a way to enjoy your family and do something good for others. Volunteers rock!!!!


If you can't afford to give your kids presents, then at least be in a happy and loving mood for them. If not being able to buy gifts is ruining your Christmas and puttiing you in a shitty mood, then why even bother?

I should have expected the cattiness. I have been there...I have been that mom who couldn't afford presents...it is heartbreaking to see your kids have to go without while others get so much. But we, as adults, have to rise above it. if you can't change your situaton, then make the best of it. That's all I'm saying. And yes, I am poor for those of you berating me because you think I'm some rich well-to-do bitch.

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 13, 2012 at 10:53 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:15 AM

 

Quoting Anonymous:

Yea and dollar store has toys too.

 You need a dollar to shop at the dollar store

MomandWife6
by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:15 AM

My oldest sons first chrismas he did not get anything I wasn't working and my ex (we were married at the time, hadn't got his first paycheck  yet) and so we had a tree (which I got from my mom) We had a wonderful breaskfast (ds was only 3 weeks old so he slept through it) we had snuggle and nap time together as a family, and we just made the day super special without presents so yes it is possible. I add that I am glad that ds was too small to remember but it's the time spent together that counts, not the money spent on each other.

quickbooksworm
by Ruby Member on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:16 AM
I don't have an issue affording presents. But there are a lot of days off through the holidays and many companies don't pay those days. Also, the cost of daycare is higher through the holidays.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:16 AM
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Not everyone has pennies to pinch. My inexpensive gifts to my children are funded by mom skipping some meals. Some people really are that bad off and it has nothing to do with poor spending habits.

Quoting cLanief:

Its called saving every penny you have so you can spend 20$ on a gift and hit up the dollar store for some stocking stuffers. Its not that hard to give a gift... You just have to learn to pinch a penny here and there. If you cant pinch a penny here and there you have bigger issues with your budget.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:17 AM

No, this is not true. Our county does not offer too many of these programs - they get over 100 applications for 8 slots. Also right now we do not have a food bank. Yes, I live in Podunk, CA

Quoting 702girly:

I think it's just a way of fishing for sympathy and handouts. Anybody can go to a food bank and get some food to make Christmas dinner and sign their kids up to get at least one gift from charity.

Bam, free Christmas. Maybe not the fanciest, most awesome Christmas ever but Christmas just the same.


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:18 AM

 

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

 When people say they can't afford Christmas.. they mean presents, food, decorations, etc....


 You might think that baking cookies is enough but seeing the disappointment in your child's face when Santa filled his stocking with an apple and an orange is enough to make you want to crawl into a hole a die.


Especially when he has to go to school and hear his friends tell him Santa brought them an Xbox, games, toys, clothes, chocolates and money.


You don't get it. You must be able to give your children a great Xmas.


you can't always get what you want. This is when you explain not everyone can afford the same things.

 oh gee.. you think?

of course we do that.... we make the best of a bad situation.... and i never act sad in front of the kids.... we focus on good will toward men and being thankful... but they are still KIDS.....

 

wulfeyes05
by Ruby Member on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:18 AM

My mom wasn't always able to afford presents, but I understood. She made a good dinner and we had fun. I remember her saying how sorry she was she couldn't get us something and me and my siblings told her that it's not about the presents for us and that it was okay. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:18 AM
Nobody said you don't use the programs. However, the statement "I cannot afford Christmas" is completely accurate and that is depressing. Depending on charity for it is depressing. Faking the good time is necessary, yet depressing.

Quoting 702girly:

You still just had Christmas.

I spent eight years of my childhood in crippling poverty because my dad was injured in an accident and then fucked around by the people who crippled him.

If you cancel Christmas just because you're embarrassed, you suck as a parent. That's a shitty thing to do to a kid. Bake some fucking cookies and cook them a hot meal and man the fuck up.


Quoting Anonymous:

Do you have any idea how heartbreaking it is to have to rely on that? Yes, the kids will get a gift but it is humiliating to not be able to provide that yourself!



Quoting 702girly:

I think it's just a way of fishing for sympathy and handouts. Anybody can go to a food bank and get some food to make Christmas dinner and sign their kids up to get at least one gift from charity.

Bam, free Christmas. Maybe not the fanciest, most awesome Christmas ever but Christmas just the same.


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:20 AM
I've never heard of freecycle...is that a website?

Quoting 702girly:

A gift from Toys for Tots, a gently used gift found on freecycle... do I really need to keep listing these or do you get it?


Quoting Anonymous:

lets see.. out of each check i have for left over of all bills and food..

I have 12 cents..  you tell me what a 1.44 can get me...

Quoting cLanief:

Its called saving every penny you have so you can spend 20$ on a gift and hit up the dollar store for some stocking stuffers. Its not that hard to give a gift... You just have to learn to pinch a penny here and there. If you cant pinch a penny here and there you have bigger issues with your budget.



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 13, 2012 at 11:20 AM
If you dont even have a dollar then sign up for charity like toys for tots.


Quoting Anonymous:

 


Quoting Anonymous:

Yea and dollar store has toys too.

 You need a dollar to shop at the dollar store


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