yup. I include my child in everyting that I can, but there are some things I enjoy that are not child appropriate, and I dont feel like I have to give it all up just because Im a mother. (By 'things' I mean dinner just my husband and I, or a concert or a not-child movie in a theater, etc.)
I think it's vitally important to a mother's mental sanity to have a life outside of their child. For me that is my career, for other it can be a simple as weekly get together with friends or volunteer work, as long as its something. 24/7 of anything is never good.
Of course. I think alot of the self-sacrifice that is championed on this site places an undue burden on the child to BE their mother's whole existence. That's just too much pressure. My mom did that - she worked but was injured and had to retire early. She lost contact with her friends, and there was a time when she rarely left the house except to run errands. I love her to death but she turned into a miserable woman and I used to wish WISH that she had a life of her own or someone to talk to. I was tired of being her daughter and her best friend.
What kind of life? I'm sorry I don't understand those words put together in the same sentence.....??? LOL
Yep! I enjoy grown up time without kids, mine are teens so it's different, but I did have a life without them even when they were little.
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