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A Teenager is NOT a CHILD...

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I have a teenager she is seventeen, she will always be my child even as an adult. However...

She is not a child. I do not allow my young children to drive cars, work, make decisions that require maturity and ability to think about your decision. She is a teenager, neither a child or an adult (yet).

My job is not to baby her like she is five years old. My job is to PREPARE her for the adult world. She is a Senior in High School not a first grader in Elementary school.

I honestly cannot figure out why any rational woman thinks that a teenager is a "child" and treats them like one.

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I'm not the cat lady type. I'm more like an actual cat. I want affection when I want it and on my own terms. The rest of the time I want to claw out your eyes and piss in your shoes. 

by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 12:21 AM
Replies (31-40):
spooky415
by Ruby Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 12:31 AM
YOU'RE OLDER THAN ME.


Quoting FooLynRoo:

you breast fed me until i was 39

shut up!



Quoting spooky415:

You're not still breastfeeding her? I'm calling CPS.



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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 15, 2012 at 12:31 AM
LMAO 32? Older than that honey.

Quoting thetrollcat:

I dont give a damn you burst my bubbles your so called I know it all didnt change my mind she is nto a child.

So how old are you talking? 32?

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but yea, a teenager is a child! When you get to be my age, you realize that they are still kids. Shit, even a 21 year old is still a kid to me even though they are legally an adult at age 18.


purplerobin
by Silver Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 12:32 AM
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Quoting thetrollcat:

whatever. Im sorry but my daughter is not a CHILD, she is adolescent she is a teenager.

Quoting ElitestJen:

A child is someone under 18.  An adult is someone 18+. 

Treating someone like a "child" can be age appropriate.  Obviously, a 17yo has different needs and expectations than someone who is 6yo.  The 17yo is still a child.

Biologically, there's an argument that one is a child until their brain is fully developed at around age 25. 


One word:dictionary.

FooLynRoo
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 12:32 AM
Age appropriate rules, Age appropriate expectations. What those rules and expectations are for their ages will vary from parent and household. But I don't think you're doing your teens a favor by restricting their independence and limiting their decisions. The time to learn from your poor choices are while you're still within the support of your parents. Ie teenage and early adulthood.
TrouserMouse
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 12:32 AM
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 My 19 year old is pretty naive when it comes to the world and is still a child imo.  He is allowed to make adult decisions because of the age the government states is an adult, but he is still very young minded in many ways.  I know I have done more growing up since my mid to late 20's than I ever did during my teen years.

AllofFive19
by Ruby Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 12:32 AM

I never said that a 17 year old should be treated as a 5 year old or a 12 year old. In fact I specifically stated that you can treat a child as an adult (ie, allowing them to be responsible for certain things in their life, having them drive places, placing responsibilities on them that you would not place on a younger child), but still require that they follow the house rules, because they are, in fact, a child.

Quoting FooLynRoo:

It doesn't matter what you call them

a 17 year old is not the same as a 5 year old or 12 year old and shouldn't be treated as such.

No matter what WORD you use to describe their age.


Quoting AllofFive19:

A juvenile is just a fancy word for "child".

Quoting thetrollcat:

in my state they are called juvenile or adolescents. Obviously some states are hooked on broken phonics.

Quoting AllofFive19:

Until a person is 19 (in my state) they are a child. An older child, but nonetheless a child. You can treat a child as an adult and still ask that he or she follow the rules of the house because they are not yet an adult. 





thetrollcat
by Meow on Nov. 15, 2012 at 12:33 AM

haha

Quoting FooLynRoo:

you breast fed me until i was 39

shut up!


Quoting spooky415:

You're not still breastfeeding her? I'm calling CPS.



~~~~~         =^..^=        ~~~~~
I'm not the cat lady type. I'm more like an actual cat. I want affection when I want it and on my own terms. The rest of the time I want to claw out your eyes and piss in your shoes. 

ElitestJen
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 12:33 AM


Quoting thetrollcat:

I dont compare my 6 year old with my seventeen year old and my six year old is certainly no where close to having some o fthe same ability as a 13 year old. So um just because it is TEENAGER doesnt mean they are a CHILD. My six year old is a child, my seventeen year old is a teenager. Different stages in life.

Quoting ElitestJen:

Adolescence is just another phase of childhood (and technically ends with puberty). 

And if teenager is such a catch-all term....do you believe that a 13yo is equal to a 19yo?  Since they're both "teenagers"?


I didn't ask you to compare a 6yo to a 17yo. 

And why do you call a person 'it'?

Very strange.

Your six year old is a child.  Your teenager is a child.  If you had an infant, he/she would also be a child.  There are different stages in life (childhood, adulthood).  And different stages within those stages (infancy, adolescence, elderly, etc.)

So...is an elderly person not an adult?

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 15, 2012 at 12:33 AM

17 is considered a minor.  Yes, a teenager, yes an adolescent...but, still a child.  Same difference, if you ask me.

FooLynRoo
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 12:33 AM

Which makes it REALLY creepy

put your boob away!

Quoting spooky415:

YOU'RE OLDER THAN ME.


Quoting FooLynRoo:

you breast fed me until i was 39

shut up!



Quoting spooky415:

You're not still breastfeeding her? I'm calling CPS.




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