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My step son broke my boys' XBOX 360 update with a poll

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Question: Which is better

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No Christmas presents for SS

Make him work it off over the next 5 months and until he works it off he may not use the xbox at all


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He was mad because when he came over the other day, my boys were already playing a game and didn't want to start over so that he can play (they said he could play next game). He got so mad that they wouldn't let him play that he picked up the xbox and threw it. It is now broken. I think that we should replace the xbox for my kids instead of buying SS's Christmas presents. DH thinks that we should just replace the XBOX and still get SS's Christmas and just get all the kids less for Christmas (so that we have the money to buy the new XBOX.) I don't think it's fair to my kids to get less for Christmas so that we can replace the XBOX that SS broke. What do you think?

Me and DH are currently talking and we are thinking that another idea might be better. Instead of not giving him Christmas presents make him pay it off buy doing a certain list of chores each time he comes over for the next 5 months (only a couple hours each since, understandable, DH does want to spend time with him). In addition to making him do the chores, he can't use the new xbox, which we will have to buy, until he pays it off. Then I am also thinking that even then, he should have to ask my sons if he may use it since it is their's.

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 15, 2012 at 10:19 AM
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Dewinter
by Silver Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 10:30 AM

 I would ground him from the new xbox until he  worked of the replacement amount, dishes , raking , sweeping, etc...  and I would also make him write an apology letter to each of your sons for his behavior.

Good Luck momma :)

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 15, 2012 at 10:30 AM

He is only here 4 days a month, that's not enough time for him to work it off.

Quoting Bethsunshine:


Quoting Anonymous:

here is the difference between you and me.  i wouldnt replace the xbox, i would make SS replace the x box by doing chores and earning "money" from you and dh so that HE can buy his brother a new one for christmas.


This. He broke it, he should replace it. Make him work it off.


indyb
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 10:31 AM
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I don't think taking away a child's Christmas is a good or fair punishment,  I would buy the Xbox and make him do chores around the house until it is worked off,  also I would make him give up his allowance if he gets one!

svolkov
by Emerald Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 10:31 AM
You should make him work off the money for a new one in chores etc. He should still get an xmas present as should your kids. Once hes workes off a certain amount then u buy another(say tax return time)
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by Anonymous 4 on Nov. 15, 2012 at 10:31 AM

right?  what lesson does he learn if you buy a new one (which he will get to play eventually) and then his only punishment is not getting stuff at christmas?  all that teaches him is he gets to break stuff and you will replace it.  oh and he learns to be resentful of his other siblings because he is a kid who will feel like he is not being treated fairly.  GREAT LESSON!

he should earn the money and buy his brother a new one.  this not only teaches him the value of hard work, but it also teaches him the value of giving to others.  win win.

Quoting Bethsunshine:


Quoting Anonymous:

here is the difference between you and me.  i wouldnt replace the xbox, i would make SS replace the x box by doing chores and earning "money" from you and dh so that HE can buy his brother a new one for christmas.


This. He broke it, he should replace it. Make him work it off.


wineisfine
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 10:32 AM
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 I would not get SS anything, and I would let him know why. There needs to be a consequence to what he did, and it appears there is no real consequence.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 15, 2012 at 10:32 AM

He ruined my sons' favorite thing, what about them? We don't have the money to just replace it and still get everyone the same Christmas presents we are planning to get.

Quoting Michellina11234:

I realize he was wrong, but you want to take Christmas away from a child?


b.futlz
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 10:33 AM

so make him use that or make him do extra work around your house to "pay" you off

Quoting Anonymous:

He is only here every other weekend so he doesn't get allowance here (he gets it at his mom's house).

Quoting b.futlz:

does he get allowance? i would replace the xbox and make him pay you back 



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Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Nov. 15, 2012 at 10:33 AM
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It is all so not fair that you expect your DH not to buy HIS son anything at all for christmas, but yet think it's ok for him to use HIS money to buy for your kids...You have to remember that your DH is your SS father...so while you may not think it is fair for YOUR children to get less it is all so not fair to expect your DH not to do for his son at all for Christmas...

Quoting Anonymous:

That doesn't mean that my kid's things belong to his kid. My kids shouldn't get less for Christmas so that we can replace something his son broke, that's not fair

Quoting BabyBrooke13:

 well when you married dh you married all of him including his son . . . his son became your son and the xbox was his too . . . I do not agree with his behavior, but i also don't agree with taking away something that only comes around once a year . . . if each kid got a little less they wouldn't make a big deal out of it unless you did . . . i would still make sure your ss got gift for xmas, but because of his behavior I also wouldn't let him play with the new xbox for a long while . . .



Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Nov. 15, 2012 at 10:33 AM

 That's ridiculous, I sure hope you're joking.

Quoting Anonymous:

I think birth mom should buy your son a new Xbox.

 

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