About money. It's stressful this time of year, and I always want to give the kids a decent Christmas (not buy out Toys R Us, but at least be able to give them each a few things). He's yelling at me for spending money for their birthday (both bdays between halloween and Christmas) when I'm the one who budgets for food, bills, and extra splurges. He forgets to pay bills, forgets to pay DD's lunch money, all that. I am the one who does all the grocery shopping, all the shopping for necessities such as his shampoo and shaving cream, kids' stuff, my stuff, household products. I don't spend on things I don't need. I'd LOVE a new pair of headphones, to go get my hair cut, some makeup, and I have only three pairs of jeans and all three are very loose because I never eat, so Im dropping weight. Yet, it's all MY fault because I spent $170 on the kids birthday party (that was BUDGETING, he wanted to do it at the indoor play area, which would've cost near $300 for the amount of people we had, booking fees, and cake, etc). He yells at me for wanting to spend a little extra money to take DD#1 to see the Nutcracker, yet he is fine with spending money on tickets for DD#2 to go see Rudolph at the puppet center with her school (her tickets are slightly cheaper than the nutcracker but close in price).
If he would pay the bills ON TIME, we wouldn't have late fees, which is extra money. If he would sit down and budget with me, we could save, and still be able to afford extra. If he would take his lunch to work with him instead of spending $10 a day on fast food or going to restaurants for lunch, he'd save a ton of money. He thinks he makes a shit ton of money (42000 a year) but he doesn't. We have more money than some, but we still need to budget, and still need to be able to purchase things we need, and be able to afford a little Christmas. He has made bad life choices in the past that has us in the financial position we're in, and continues to make poor choices, but blames me.
So I'm the bad guy that has to tell the kids "sorry, no nutcracker" when DD has gotten her hopes up, and "sorry, no christmas". It sucks.