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Working moms are jealous of stay at home moms!

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okay maybe just I am lol.. This was my day... I worked from 4-12am.. come home.. haven't seen my husband since Tuesday because of his schedule (6am - 7pm). Crawl into bed.. try to sleep with two small children and two dogs.. up at 7:30am.. rush to get my son ready for preschool.. drop my 4 year old off at 8:45.. take my other son to Strong Start (mom and me program) .. play for 2 hours trying to stay awake..thank god they have coffee because I did not have time to make any or eat. Drag my son kicking and screaming away from his friends to get his brother at 11:15.. drag both of them hungry and whiney to the grocery store after stopping for a new cloth diaper and pants.. because my sons leaked and I forgot to bring one. Yes I was THAT mother.. stripping my kid in the parking lot because leaving my 4 year old strapped in his car seat was easier then dragging them both to the washroom. Feed them while shopping.. still haven't eaten myself.. Grocery shop.. load.. unload.. with two small children one of which has behavioral issues and takes off every two seconds or melts down entirely.. manage to get out of the store.. get home.. unpack groceries.. its now 1pm and I am finally eating..

then i get to clean my house.. get ready for work.. drag the kids to pick up my babysitter because she doesn't drive and she smokes in her house so she has to come to mine.. (she doesn't smoke in my house)..then run to work and deal with behaviorally challenged teens for 8 hours.. get home at midnight.. finally see my husband maybe?

oh and i have a birthday party, a retirement party and my brothers welcome home from Indonesia party to plan for this weekend.. guess where it is? My house.. guess where everyone is staying? my house..

fuck my life.. SAHM's yes I'm hating on you today lol PURE JEALOUS!!!

by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 3:14 PM
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by Metal Awareness on Nov. 15, 2012 at 3:56 PM
It sounds like you have a very demanding and stressful job. Sounds like you deserve a vacation.

Quoting acaisha:

Quoting olliesmommy2:

I sah, and my days get crazy too. We all have different lives, and we usually think the grass is greener. Some days I think I'd love to get to go to work, interact with adults, drink a hot cup if coffee, have a true 15 min break. Like just sit for 15 min. Pee or shower alone. But, I live doing it my way. Hope you get some sleep and to see your hubby soon. I know it's hard.

I wish I got breaks at work :/... we literally get paid for a full 8 hours .. we are *suppose* to get two 15 minute breaks but we never do.. some days I don't even get to pee.. then all hell breaks lose and some kid is in your face calling you a fucking cunt.. cops are called.. ugg.. crazy.. We also only work with one other adult.. and one hour of my shift I am alone entirely.. I guess the kids to sleep though.. but then its reports, plans of care.. trying to catch up on all the stupid paper work. We even eat dinner with the kids.

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by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 3:56 PM

Reading this I had to have a glass of wine...... hats off to you...Im a SAHM by the way .... 

by Kelly on Nov. 15, 2012 at 3:57 PM
I'm sorry :( I did this for a year and I feel like I missed an entire year of my kids lives as well. Dd2 was only 7 weeks when I went to work. I would do anything for that time back, but at the same time it helped us so much financially. I was/still am a student as well. I wish things were easier!

Quoting acaisha:

That is how it was with my older kids.. I went to work right after they were born.. sometimes work and school.. I hated it.. now they are 14 and 18 and I missed so much.. I really wanted to be at home with my younger two.. but it just wasn't in the cards for me.. my husband struggles with depression and its hard for him to keep a job.. so unfortunately it falls to me.. He does work but just casual.

Quoting RunningMommaof2:

Oh, I completely understand that!! I used to work 3rd shift and then come home and take care of the kids. Omg it was so hard and I hated it... But you do what you need to sometimes! I swear that time was so stressful that it took years off of my life. I used to just look at the pictures of my kids and cry while I was at work.

Quoting acaisha:

it has nothing to do with not feeling it necessary. Some times you have to work to support your family properly.

Quoting RunningMommaof2:

I guess it depends on the person and their situation. When I worked... I feel like it was killing me inside to be away from my kids. But, I know other people that absolutely hate being a SAHM. They don't feel it as necessary as I do to be with their kids all the time and prefer to work. It just depends. 

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by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 3:57 PM

Quoting 1L2CMommy:

Op-the week you described is unbelievable! I don't know how you do it! Really good luck, and I hope you get some time with your DH and to enjoy your out of town guests.
I've been a SAHM for 2 years, and I love it, but it's definitely not anymore relaxing! I love the women that claim they would be so bored being home. I wouldn't trade this time with my babies for anything, but it's 3:40 pm here and it's the first time I've sat all day. I have until 4 to relax. Let me tell you about my very normal, average day.
3 am- 2 year old up with a nightmare. She settled right back down after some snuggles, but I was awake until 3:30.
5 am- 11 month old up and ready for bottle. I give her a bottle, put her back in bed, and catch another hour of sleep.
6:30 am- everybody up.
6:30-8:30- hot breakfast for both girls, diapers changed, everyone dressed, load diaper bag, put a load of laundry in, and out the door.
9 am- Doctors visit for 2 year old.
10:30-12:30 am-back home, change pants, switch laundry, baby down for a nap, get something out for dinner, play with 2 year old, make hot lunch.
12:30-3:30- lunch, laundry, dishes, pull out Christmas stuff to put up tomorrow. Put 2 year old down for nap. Give baby a bottle, and put her down for a nap.
4:00- get me ready for 2 year olds Mommy and me dance class at 5.
4:30- 5:30- get DD ready for class, dance class, back home.
5:30-8- make dinner, clean up, baths, bed for kids, hopefully a shower for me, an hour of grown up tv, early to bed for me, or sex with DH, we'll see which one wins!

damn sex.. lol I miss sex I know being a SAHM is tough I have 4 boys and was one for a long while. I think its more the perceived idea you can take a break and watch a cartoon if you want lol

by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 3:57 PM
Same here. I've always been independent.

Quoting 702girly:

I'd be miserable if I had no income of my own. I just can't live off someone else. It's not in me.

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by Platinum Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 3:58 PM

Sounds like my life ... sending positive vibes your way.  Hope it helps with those walking zombie moments.

by Anonymous 5 on Nov. 15, 2012 at 3:59 PM

& you seriously need to get off ur high horse & stfu!

Omg.. sahm have it soo much easier than us working moms...

blah blah blah.. how the hell do you know who has it easier than someone else?

by Anonymous 1 on Nov. 15, 2012 at 3:59 PM
I love being able to stay at home and see ds firsts! But I don't like not having any money and having to stretch $200 for two weeks after every paycheck dh gets. I have my whole life ahead and ds starts school in 4 years. I think I may wait it out until then. Plus dh says I'm selfish for wanting to work and not stay home 24/7 with ds. But ur right. If something happened to dh I'd be sol! We don't have life insurance and would lose alot.

Quoting Anonymous:

If you really want to work, don't let dh stop you. Find a way to do it or you'll regret it later.

My dh had issues with me working to and I ended up listening to him. It's been 20 yrs since I've had a job and now it's too late for me. I wish I had the guts back then to do what I wanted to do. I now have nothing and if anything happens to my dh I will lose my home, income, all of it and no ability to work. How will I care for my kids? Harder still was giving up all my dreams and now years later realizing it's too late.

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm a SAHM and now that ds is getting bigger and more independent I get bored to tears. I think I am all tvd out lol it takes me maybe 30 min to clean our appt. I wish I could work! I can but dh has some issues with it. Since I'm mom it's my job to raise our child....


by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 3:59 PM

I have ZERO desire to be a SAHM - bash away

by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 3:59 PM
I loved working and i love (sometimes) being a sahm. Both are hard in their own way.
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