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Do I even have the right to be pissed?

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I've always told my husband that I didn't have a problem with him watching porn as long as the kids weren't exposed to it and he said that he had no interest and it wasn't sexy to him. Today I found several movies on his computer and I got real pissed off. I feel like such a hypocrite but it really hurt my feelings. I know that this is what men do and I guess it was naive for me to think that he was different somehow. I guess I can kind of understand because I am very pregnant and huge. Our sex life has always been good and that hasn't changed, so why does he feel he needs more than that? Am I making too big of a deal out of this? Should I talk to him about it or just let it go? I could really use some advice. I think I would have taken it better if he had been honest instead of sneaking around behind my back.

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 15, 2012 at 5:47 PM
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Sanctimommy
by Platinum Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:13 PM
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I'll bet he just felt awkward about saying, "Well, Honey, that was an excellent meatloaf. I'm off to the den, now to watch 'Skanky Biker Hoes 4' and beat off. Say, have you seen the Kleen-Ex and lotion? I can't find it.".

Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:15 PM

Well I don't feel like it's just what men do, or that it's naive to assume he wouldn't, when he clearly said he had no interest in it. Obviously you told him in the beginning that you didn't care, and so to him he may feel there was nothing wrong with it, but if you have a problem with it, that needs to be addressed. Because it wasn't something that had come up before you couldn't have known how you'd feel about it. I've never specifically told my husband that I didn't want him smoking crack, but if it came up I feel I'd have every right to tell him I wont allow it in my relationship.

armstrong7984
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:15 PM

 I know that this is what men do and I guess it was naive for me to think that he was different somehow.

Uh no not all men look at porn..

sounds like you need to have a sit down talk with him.

nocalmegan
by Ruby Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:16 PM
If you told your dh you didnt and that it wasn't something you were into and then did it behind his back then yes. If it's out in the open and he knows then no of course not.


Quoting BEXi:

Am I acting like a jackass when I watch porn?

Quoting nocalmegan:

Agreed. I feel sad for those women who think

It's totally normal and acceptable for their men to act like jack asses





Quoting UgtaBkdnMe:

Too many women think crappy behaviour is normal. It's not, and men who say "it's a guy thing" are full of it.

Quoting nocalmegan:

This. No wonder some men are such pigs. Women are constantly making up excuses to justify why their dh/SO is a pig. "oh its just the way men are". Um no its not.








Quoting UgtaBkdnMe:

No it's not "what men do"

And he shouldn't have lied.









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BEXi
by BEXi on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:16 PM

Okay yeah, he doesnt care and vice versa.

I just dont understand why her SO lied about it if she said she was okay with it? Id be more upset about the lying.

Quoting nocalmegan:

If you told your dh you didnt and that it wasn't something you were into and then did it behind his back then yes. If it's out in the open and he knows then no of course not.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 10 on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:18 PM
The only thing I really see as a bit wrong is him telling you he had no interest in it, then watching it and not telling you he changed his mind.
mandy18192
by Gold Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:18 PM
Not all men do it.. I would be mad too it's disgusting in my opinion I feel it's disrespectful towards woman. Thank God my man does not do that. He feels his eyes shoud be for me and me only.. Lol he changes the channel when a Victoria's Secret commercial comes on the tv lol :)
I'm pretty lucky :)
sweetnsassymami
by Ruby Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:20 PM
You need to be honest. Don't say you don't care then get mad when he does.
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nocalmegan
by Ruby Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:21 PM
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Yeah. He was still technically doing it behind her back because he specifically told her he wasn't. So thats what makes him a jack ass. We don't do porn in our relationship but that is us, if you do that's fine but why lie about it after your SO already said it's ok. Weird.


Quoting BEXi:

Okay yeah, he doesnt care and vice versa.

I just dont understand why her SO lied about it if she said she was okay with it? Id be more upset about the lying.

Quoting nocalmegan:

If you told your dh you didnt and that it wasn't something you were into and then did it behind his back then yes. If it's out in the open and he knows then no of course not.




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BEXi
by BEXi on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:24 PM

I would be mad about the lying, not the fact that he watched porn. Was he too embarassed to tell you the truth?

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