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Just a rant about FREAKING DH!! ughhh

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I'm going to bash DH's face in I swear. Every FREAKING time we get into a fight he runs to facebook and posts our shit on blast for the whole freaking world to see!! WHY??? Why do that? What's the point?? We got into a huge fight this morning, and he posted a status about it, and everybody and their mama's have be texting me asking what's wrong, and of course all of his little friends and "girl"friends have been like " aww I'm sorry message me if you wanna talk" Ugh. I have facebook, but it's to keep in touch with friends and family, not to blast personal shit all over the Internet (which I'm totally doing now, I know, but none of us know each other lol) No one needs to know what we fight about. All his family and friends that I haven't met yet, must think I'm such a psycho bitch, because of course, he only tells one side of the story and plays  the victim game. Then he talks about how much he can't wait for me to meet them? Yeah your joking, I'm definitely not meeting them now after all the shit you talk. I'm so damn sick of it! I told him tonight that I was tired of people texting me and asking about our life because you want to go pout about it on facebook, and that there is no reason for him to do this, and all he did was shrug and say " Eh" ....That made me extremely furious!! But I left it alone...This is a high school girls game, and I've been over these kind of games for almost 10 years.

And before you girls say it I know all this sounds childish. I think it is too, but I can't help that I get pissed of because he totally blasts everything, and doesn't care what people think of me. I look over a lot of shit he does, and I try not to complain to much, but damnit I just can't seem to look past this..Ugh....Rant over...This is a long shot, but please no bashing...

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 16, 2012 at 12:34 AM
Replies (51-54):
by Ruby Member on Nov. 16, 2012 at 2:32 AM

Why don't you call him out with the things she was told on his status? 10 to 1 you get a bunch of likes! 

Quoting Anonymous:

Wow, I wish someone would talk like that to DH, thats a great way of talking to someone about something like that.

Quoting KelissaMaye:

He basically said that he knows that my dh isn't perfect, but that me belittling him all over Facebook doesn't make him look bad, it makes me look bad. That I sound like I'm spoiled and selfish. He said I wasn't being fair to dh by blasting everything on facebook. He said I needed grow up and start to acting like a married woman instead of a 10th grader.
I stopped immediately.
BIL and I have a great relationship now, I should add. I respect him greatly for letting me know what a selfish child I was being.

Quoting Anonymous:

Yeah some of his family has messaged him to stop that he shouldn't do it, but low and behold he's still doing it. What did his brother say to you?? Just curious...and you're right, he does need to grow up! 

Quoting KelissaMaye:

I used to do that when dh and I were dating and first married. It took his brother (whom i hadnt met) messaging me and telling me off that finally got me to stop. Your dh needs to grow up.

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 16, 2012 at 2:39 AM

That's a good idea!

Quoting rosemagic01:

Ask him how he would like it if you put all his shit out on disply for everyone to see. If he shrugs try it out once. Just once yes its high school but have some friends play along and play it up nice and good about 'oh you poor women' and "I can't believe him what a douchewad" Seriously maybe he'll get the hint?

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 16, 2012 at 2:41 AM

Exactly my thoughts. And honestly I don't know if he would care if I did the same thing to him. My dad hates his guts and he doesn't really care. lol. He has a major " I really don't give a rats ass what people think of me" it gets annoying. You should care at some point. There is a line to be crossed there.

Quoting MizzDeeDee:

Boundary issues. When he does that he is inviting others into your relationship. Any good couple therapist will tell you that. He needs to understand that your relationship is between you two only and he shouldn't be inviting others in. I would also ask him how he would feel if you did the same thing to people who he never met or didn't know him personally.

by *Angelicious* on Nov. 16, 2012 at 7:41 AM
This. Maybe he should deactivate the account until he's mature enough to not put your business out on blast.

Quoting rcmama10:

I would be pissed to, what happens in our marriage stays private. It just adds more drama bringing in other people who have no right to the inner workings of our marriage.
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