So my husband hasn't slept with me in 4 months. I'm not sure why. We've tried everything. We've discussed it like adults, I've yelled, I've cried, I've tried to be extremely forward, very clear about what my needs are (translation: I hopped in the shower and tried to go down on him-something I dispise doing, and he said "sorry... not today". And then I told him "I really need to be with you. I need to have sex. It's hurtful that you don't want to be with me." clear and forward. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to sleep with you.)
I don't know what else to do. I asked him to go to the doctor about it. Maybe it's depression, or a physical problem, or a side-effect of his daily medication. I'm not sure. But it just sucks. He won't go to the docs.
My sister just turned 21 and I took her out for her birthday. We went to Denver overnight and she had about 6 friends come up. It was really fun. I dressed up, we went dancing. Nothing happened that DH would have been upset about, but I started noticing other men while I was there. I felt sexy and attractive, and guys noticed me too. It was amazing to feel sexy and hott again.
I think the lack of sex is changing my thought patterns. I didn't used to CARE what other men saw. I had a hott husband at home who satisfied me. Now, I care.
I'm not saying it means I'm trolling for sex now. I'm not going to cheat. I don't want empty, stupid sex. I want to be with my husband.
I just don't know what to do.