Recently my dd has been having contact with her bio family. she is 6 and we just really told her about her bio dad. Her bio dad and i have spoke a few times and he swore up and down he would be there as dd friend and work towards getting to know her and build their relationship. That its his fault that he doesn't know his dd and begged for a chance to know her. Ok dh and i talked decided (we did years ago as well) if her bio dad wants a shot, we would give him one. Her grandma even called her once weeks ago. And dd was pumped. Well the only communication I have received from them since that phone call over a month ago is an email saying that dd grandmas mom had passed away and they would get back to her eventually. Its been 2 weeks now. Nothing. Dd was suppose to meet them in December for the first time and was so excited now she doesn't want to meet them in fear they wont like her. I tell her over and over again how much they love her, but my words don't mean anything she wants to hear them from them. I get the whole grieving process and have been through it a lot but what i don't get is why ignore the granddaughter you have complained about not knowing and even bitched the mom out because "she cause so much pain"? I just want to scream look lady i understand you are hurting but ignoring my dd isn't helping her to adjust, in fact its making it harder for dd who wants nothing more than to be accepted by her family. AHHHHHH how do I explain this to a 6 year old... they want to be in your life but only when its convenient for them isn't the best explanation. But I want to be honest with her. Or do I email them demanding they pick what they want and stick with it or stay out of dd life? maybe all i need is other input.
I may have missed something i just needed to get this out. I already told her bio dad if he hurts her that's it, he wont see or speak to her until she is old enough to find him herself and he can then explain to her why he wasn't around.
on Nov. 16, 2012 at 3:55 PM