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YOU'RE FIRED!!! **Why I am changing drs in red** **Why she needs to be "fired"**

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My son's dr is terrible. I have been interviewing and finally found a new ped, set up the appt, dealt with insurance and now I'm ready to fire his current dr. I can't decide how to do it. Should I be kind and gently explain the problems or should I storm up there like a raging bitch?? What do you thing would be the best way to handle this? We will NEVER go back there so I'm not above burning some bridges in the process ;)

 

**Why I changed Drs**

When ds was born I tried to bf but it was really painful. I ended up eping when I came home. At around 2 months I got baby back to the breast. I could tell something wasn't right so I tried to schedule a weight check bc I knew he wasnt gaining well but didn't really know why. The dr wouldn't see us and said for me to wait until my next appt (a month away).  I ended up taking him to a LC who immediatly caught the tt. She also weighed him and he had lost a lb between 2-3 months bc of the tie. I was very upset and called the dr demanding she clip baby's tie. She did and now he is gaining well. He is on the small side of the percentiles but now he  is gaining consistantly again.  He is still trying to play catch up from his lost weight. She diagnosed him with FTT at 4 months (he had his tie clipped at 3.5 months). Developmentally he is on target, even a little advanced in some areas. He is alert, active and happy. The dr has been sending him to specialists all over town bc of the FTT diagnosis. They all agree that he is doing fine and eventually his weight will catch up. This whole situation has made me very irate. That is why I really want to go in there and raise some HELL.

 

**Why I feel she needs to be "fired"**

I don't want to go quietly into the night because I want her to know why I am leaving. Maybe this will help her improve her bedside manner. She is young and inexperienced. I am hoping that some constructive feedback would help other patients and help her to be a more effective dr. I am not saying I need to storm in there like a bat out of hell (though I would like to) but I do feel like the problems need to be brought to her attention.

by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 8:51 AM
Replies (61-70):
jaydensmom1726
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 11:35 AM

ok. thanks

Quoting Eliots_momma:

His tongue tie. It is when that little piece of skin connecting your tongue to the floor of your mouth is too tight restricting mobility. It causes a lot of problem in bfing and can cause problems with speech later in life.


Quoting Anonymous:

what do you mean he didnt have his tie clipped?



purpleducky
by Ruby Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:21 PM

Then write a letter to the facility manager. Complaining to her or to the staff will do no good. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Nov. 17, 2012 at 1:11 PM
Contact an attorney.

Quoting mrssummerlin:

They are giving us crap about red tape and our insurance. We've already called our insurance company and they said there wasn't an issue with switching.



It's all crap and a major headache.




Quoting Anonymous:

Why?





Quoting mrssummerlin:

Not always.







We're fighting with my DDs pedi office right now about a transfer because we wanted an office closer to home instead of driving 60+ miles round trip for one visit.







They're having none of that and it's fucked up.








Quoting Dzyre1115:

 LOL, they don't care why you're not there.  Just simply submit your records transfer and it's all over!  They deactivate his file and move on!

othermom
by Ruby Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 1:14 PM


Quoting jaydensmom1726:

ok. thanks

Quoting Eliots_momma:

His tongue tie. It is when that little piece of skin connecting your tongue to the floor of your mouth is too tight restricting mobility. It causes a lot of problem in bfing and can cause problems with speech later in life.


Quoting Anonymous:

what do you mean he didnt have his tie clipped?


 


My son was tounge tied oo. Breastfeeding didn't work but he did fine on the bottle, never neededhis tounge clipped but did need speech for a while. I had my tounge clipped when I was 7.

othermom
by Ruby Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 1:16 PM

Have you tried speech classes, they really helped my son

Quoting loving_my2boys:

My boys have that problem but they won't do anything bc they ate fine. It affects their speech pretty bad though..


Quoting Eliots_momma:

 


Quoting allycally:

Clipped his tongue?


The skin under the tongue. It was out to the tip and it was too tight so ds didn't have good mobility. It causes problems with breastfeedimg and can cause problems with speech.



loving_my2boys
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 1:18 PM
We have a play therapist to help. The speech therapist said she didnt think they needed her since they were preemies and are on adjusted age. She'll check them again when they turn two and decide from there.


Quoting othermom:

Have you tried speech classes, they really helped my son


Quoting loving_my2boys:

My boys have that problem but they won't do anything bc they ate fine. It affects their speech pretty bad though..



Quoting Eliots_momma:


 



Quoting allycally:

Clipped his tongue?



The skin under the tongue. It was out to the tip and it was too tight so ds didn't have good mobility. It causes problems with breastfeedimg and can cause problems with speech.





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ihave1
by Platinum Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 1:20 PM

FTT & what do mean tie clipped? What are these things?  

Anyway go in like a raging bitch, she could have caused your baby harm or worse.

TurtleSquish
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 1:22 PM
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Way to stck with it on the bfing mama!
brettsmomma
by ~Tammie~ on Nov. 17, 2012 at 1:24 PM

My son was tongue tied(if that's what TT stands for in your post) his drs didn't want to do the procedure until he was older so I pumped and bottle fed him on a nipple made for TT babies. They finally cut his when he was almost 2 years old. 


hargonagain
by Silver Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 1:24 PM

When I got pissed at my Dr.'s office, I called and filed a complaint with my health insurance provider.  My health insurance gave me new doctor right away, with no waiting period and conducted an investigation.  A couple of months after I changed Dr's I got a letter in the mail from the insurance company saying that my complaint was found to be valid and that they made a record of it.  While nothing was actually "done", if the office gets more complaints the insurance will stop using them as a provider.

 

**In my case it wasn't anything really serious, more a case of the receptionist being extremely rude and condescending.  I would be pissed if my Doctor's action (or lack of action) caused my child any harm at all!   

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