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so powerless.. want to cry

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My stbxh won't pay cs and keeps giving me the run-around. I've tried to talk to the cs office for 3 months about doing something about it but they keep telling me they can't do anything yet. I've tried applying for jobs online but no response and we can't afford childcare for me to go to school. Cs is the only way ill be able to afford their christmas presents but now I might not even be able to do that (and im not asking my df to pay for them either bc its not his responsibility). I have this sinking feeling he's going to keep the money and buy the presents he wants but won't pay me until after. I'm a wreck, I can't stop crying and feel like such a piece of sh** bc I probably won't be able to give my kids the Christmas I want them to have.
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 17, 2012 at 11:46 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:11 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:18 PM
What a ass! Gah that makes me hate him and I don't even know him lol.

Quoting Anonymous:

Im applying for any job I even remotely could fill. I quit college when I got prego bc he promised marriage and to care for me (lasted all of 2 months before I found out he was cheating)




Quoting Anonymous:

Number one rule about getting child support, never expect, or depend on it because sadly some men are just like you ex and don't take care of their responsibility. I got pregnant as a teen and my mom told me those exact words. I took them in and got a education in nursing because I knew it would always be in demand. My son gets child support but it goes directly in to a savings account for him. I didn't want to relay on anyones money, because things like this happen and kids miss out.





Are you applying for jobs in your career field? Or do you not have a education.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:23 PM
Hes amazing *eyeroll* wouldnt visit our boys in nicu, sent us all to live with my parents barely a month after they got out. Fucked his exf and lied while I was in the hospital bc of a breakdown he caused, now hes living with the girl he cheated with before our wedding and (as you can tell) won't pay cs or even try to see them...


Quoting Anonymous:

What a ass! Gah that makes me hate him and I don't even know him lol.



Quoting Anonymous:

Im applying for any job I even remotely could fill. I quit college when I got prego bc he promised marriage and to care for me (lasted all of 2 months before I found out he was cheating)






Quoting Anonymous:

Number one rule about getting child support, never expect, or depend on it because sadly some men are just like you ex and don't take care of their responsibility. I got pregnant as a teen and my mom told me those exact words. I took them in and got a education in nursing because I knew it would always be in demand. My son gets child support but it goes directly in to a savings account for him. I didn't want to relay on anyones money, because things like this happen and kids miss out.







Are you applying for jobs in your career field? Or do you not have a education.


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:41 PM
That's disgusting. Want me to give him a call and act like your lawyer? We can scare him a bit lol.

Quoting Anonymous:

Hes amazing *eyeroll* wouldnt visit our boys in nicu, sent us all to live with my parents barely a month after they got out. Fucked his exf and lied while I was in the hospital bc of a breakdown he caused, now hes living with the girl he cheated with before our wedding and (as you can tell) won't pay cs or even try to see them...




Quoting Anonymous:

What a ass! Gah that makes me hate him and I don't even know him lol.





Quoting Anonymous:

Im applying for any job I even remotely could fill. I quit college when I got prego bc he promised marriage and to care for me (lasted all of 2 months before I found out he was cheating)








Quoting Anonymous:

Number one rule about getting child support, never expect, or depend on it because sadly some men are just like you ex and don't take care of their responsibility. I got pregnant as a teen and my mom told me those exact words. I took them in and got a education in nursing because I knew it would always be in demand. My son gets child support but it goes directly in to a savings account for him. I didn't want to relay on anyones money, because things like this happen and kids miss out.









Are you applying for jobs in your career field? Or do you not have a education.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:44 PM
Nah, lol
He has no job, got booted out of the military for "medical" reasons, lives off of other worthless ppl. I wish he would drive off a cliff.


Quoting Anonymous:

That's disgusting. Want me to give him a call and act like your lawyer? We can scare him a bit lol.



Quoting Anonymous:

Hes amazing *eyeroll* wouldnt visit our boys in nicu, sent us all to live with my parents barely a month after they got out. Fucked his exf and lied while I was in the hospital bc of a breakdown he caused, now hes living with the girl he cheated with before our wedding and (as you can tell) won't pay cs or even try to see them...






Quoting Anonymous:

What a ass! Gah that makes me hate him and I don't even know him lol.







Quoting Anonymous:

Im applying for any job I even remotely could fill. I quit college when I got prego bc he promised marriage and to care for me (lasted all of 2 months before I found out he was cheating)










Quoting Anonymous:

Number one rule about getting child support, never expect, or depend on it because sadly some men are just like you ex and don't take care of their responsibility. I got pregnant as a teen and my mom told me those exact words. I took them in and got a education in nursing because I knew it would always be in demand. My son gets child support but it goes directly in to a savings account for him. I didn't want to relay on anyones money, because things like this happen and kids miss out.











Are you applying for jobs in your career field? Or do you not have a education.



funnymom32
by Bronze Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:55 PM

That sucks, sorry!  They are young enough right now where it won't be too big of a deal.  When my kids were both under 3, neither my husband nor I had jobs and it was a rough time for us.  I went to a consignment shop and gave them their old toys to sell.  I had enough "money" to buy them "new" toys at the consignment shop.  The kids were happy and they didn't know the difference that the toys were used.

november117
by Silver Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 1:43 PM
I understand. But you aren't a bad parent. Go to Goodwill or Salvation Army and wrap up little things. I promise, they won't know the difference. Our boys are 4.5 and 3 and we are taking the Thomas the Train set/tracks from 3 years ago that they forgot about (it has been at my parents) and rewrapping that as one of their presents. :)


Quoting Anonymous:

They're turning 2 in February. I know my family will make up for my lack of gifts in what they'll give the boys but I feel like ive failed as a parent bc I can't find a way to get them something for christmas...




Quoting november117:

How old are your kids? At our house Christmas is more about family and togetherness than presents. I mean they get presents but we don't emphasize it. I am not criticizing just suggesting maybe go that route this year if they are young enough to not realize the difference. :)


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1plustwinsmommy
by Platinum Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 1:45 PM
Contact a local church.
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mommy_me
by ~The Three B's~ on Nov. 17, 2012 at 1:46 PM

Oh good grief

momo3fgr8tteens
by Ruby Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 1:49 PM

Don't focus on the gifts. Your kids are only two. They won't remember. Focus on enjoying the time with them and trying to find a job that will help you take care of them. Take your ex to court. Go down file something in court. You don't need a lawyer. Go to DCSE and get them to help you obtain the support. Use the angel tree to help with gifts this year. I always give a lot to the angel trees and I am more than happy to know there will be kids enjoying those gifts so it is not something to feel bad about. You gotta what you can right now to take care of your kids. Focus on that, everything else will work out. 

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