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She doesn't want the baby but doesn't want the dad to have it either.

Anonymous
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So my sister just recently got married, like 4 weeks ago. They only knew eachother/dated 6 months and 5 of them were spent planing the wedding. Well long story short, they wound up prego, she was about 7 weeks along on the wedding day. Day 4 of their 5 day honeymoon she decides she made a mistake, she doesn't love her husband and doesn't want the marriage or baby. When they got home he went back to his sisters house since she didn't want him to move in with her. He has since flipped out and taken all their money, they combined their accounts before getting married, she put over 11k in their account. He spent every penny she had, closed their joint account and opened up his own. He lies constantly and manipulates like crazy. His mother and sisters control him and they are crazy people and super vindictive. Of course my sister is no innocent victim in this situation, she definitely made a huge mistake going through with this marriage and she knows she broke the poor guys heart. But they are both wrong here. Neither one is innocent. Well now she has the dellima of the baby. She doesn't want it, she would prefer to give it up for adoption but her husband does want it. She doesn't want him to have it cuz he and his family are crazy and the baby will be brought up badly and taught lying, cheating, stealing etc are all ok if the ends justify the means. She does not want this for the baby, she wants it to have a good home. Is there any way for her to be able to adopt the baby out? She knows he will never consent to it being adopted so she is trying to figure out a way around it. She has already filed for legal separation and will be filing for divorce soon. She just really needs to solve this baby problem.
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 17, 2012 at 7:22 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 17, 2012 at 7:24 PM
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She needs to solve more than the baby problem... They both sound like whack jobs.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 17, 2012 at 7:25 PM
She has started counseling through church and an actual licensed therapist.

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She needs to solve more than the baby problem... They both sound like whack jobs.
Mommy2b2324
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 7:26 PM
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hp2011
by Ruby Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 7:28 PM

She'll probably have to give the baby to her husband. I don't know.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 17, 2012 at 7:28 PM
The baby deserves someone who wants it. If the babies dad wants it. He abound be allowed to have it. Some women are so fuckked up. she got pregnant, married him, decided she didn't like him anyone and broke his heart and is now denying him his child.
randi1978
by Murdoc's Mistress on Nov. 17, 2012 at 7:29 PM
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Doesn't matter, he has rights to that baby when it's born.  She can't just give it up for adoption against his will.  He may not be "fit" enough to parent in your eyes or your sister's eyes, but it's not up to you or her to decide this. 

She can either abort the pregnancy and wash her hands of him completely, have the child and raise it or have the child and hand it over to him.  Outside of termination, she will be tied to him.

ack86
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 7:29 PM
I honestly wouldn't know what to tell her. Sorry.
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notjstanothrmom
by Ruby Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 7:30 PM
No. If she doesn't want the baby then her husband will have rights to it no matter what. Maybe she should have thought before she did.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 17, 2012 at 7:31 PM

She does realize you can have an abortion up until 23 weeks right? She's only 11/12 weeks.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 17, 2012 at 7:32 PM
Yes, she isn't sure of she could do it. She feels badly she's let it go so long and it goes against everything she always believed in. But she is still considering it I think

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She does realize you can have an abortion up until 23 weeks right? She's only 11/12 weeks.

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