My DD is almost 16 yrs old and she hates me. She told me she has hated me since she was 9. She says I have no respect for her. This started because after me grocery shopping all and working all week I asked her to clean the kitchen today. She said " it doesnt need cleaned" I said that wasn't for her to decide and it was a mess. She said " fine goodbye" very mean like so I told her she needed to stay off the computer tonight and to not speak to me that way again. She now hates me because all I care about is the house. We had a long talk about how that is not all I care about but when I work 6 days a week I dont see anything wrong with expecting help. She is in her room sulking now. It was soo much easier when they were little. Any advice?