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The "N" word

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My husband calls black people that, it seriously bugs and offends me. I used to date blacks guys and so it really drive me crazy when he says it, not only that it's just so very offensive. I've told him numerous of times how awful he looks and sounds when he says this but he just won't stop. It's a constant thing and I'm kinda at my wits end here...
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2012 at 12:49 AM
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eve210
by Platinum Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 1:56 AM
Sarcasm or not, it wasn't funny at all.

I feel sorry for you.


Quoting BabiiYarellie:

And you're an idiot for not understanding sarcasm. ")t




Quoting kblossom20:

You're gross.



Quoting BabiiYarellie:

I dont say "Nigger" or "Nigga" I use a much more offensive term, Negro.... but thats just how you sy it in Spanish. Lol




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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2012 at 1:58 AM
Then they are not friends and is otherwise void of an example.


Quoting kblossom20:

Yes, a racist would have black friends. I've seen it first hand. My old best friend married a racist, and he hung out with black people whilst calling them "niggers" and other derogatory names behind their backs.


Quoting Anonymous:

A racist wouldn't have black friends though...





Quoting Anonymous:

Yeah. No. Sorry.

Considering OP admits that it isn't just to his Black friends, it's to ALL Black people, then social acceptance, context, and intent doesn't matter here. He refers to ALL Black people with this word. He is racist.

Quoting Anonymous:

Your bio is there for what reason? Oh yeah, to be READ. Just because someone calls a black person n*gger does not make them racist. It is socially acceptable within the black community to call your friends that, even if one friend is of a different race. As long as it doesn't offend the people he's saying it to, then there's no problem. The problem is if he's disrespecting his wife and child(ren) by saying it in front of them, but it does not make him racist. Like I said, you are naive and judgmental.








Quoting kblossom20:

Lmao! You read my bio? You have too much time on your hands. How pathetic. Naive & judgmental because RACISM pisses me off and I said something about it? Alright then. Whatever you say, ya creepy annon.




Quoting Anonymous:

Lol, your profile is right. You are truly 22 years YOUNG. You're very naive and judgmental. You joined the perfect group for you.











Quoting kblossom20:

STFU unless you wanna come off anonymous. LOL. Call me a bitch, I just say it like it is. I may not be a mother YET but it's only COMMON SENSE. 





Quoting Anonymous:

Damn, you're a bitch. And not one to judge someone's parenting as you're not even a mom yet. Smh














Quoting kblossom20:

Your husband sounds like an ignorant piece of shit. You're equally as much as a lowlife for being married to such a PIG. Honestly, I hope you don't raise kids around that filth. If you do, you should have them taken away. 




















LadyDIN
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 1:59 AM

True and fair. Thank you for clarifying.

I feel that hating some one for believing in gay rights is rather different than hating someone for believing people with different skin are less human than them. 

Quoting katiehopson:

Murder. I don't throw the word around like it doesn't mean anything, and if I don't agree with someone for how they think for feel, I just disagree with them. I don't catch feelings. I'm not racist, I'm not defending racist people or actions done out of racism. But hating someone for their beliefs, and I'm not referring to racism in this situation, is a waste of passion. 

Quoting LadyDIN:

I think hateing some one for how they conduct themselves around others is better than hateing them for how or where they were born. Under what circumstances is it ok to hate someone in your opinion?

Quoting katiehopson:

Why is woman in quotations? She is a woman. That isn't debatable. But besides talking shit on your grammar, I'll talk shit on your attitude. To hate someone because of how they conduct themselves around others is simply disgusting. I have little tolerance for ignorant fools like yourself and I really hope your child doesn't adopt the same personality as yourself. 





BUFFIE.the.BODY
by Ruby Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 1:59 AM
You sound stupid, NEXT!

Quoting A.B.C.brown07:

Calm down girl. Lol I think she was saying the word "negro" in Spanish is black. So If she was speaking Spanish and Said "negro" ppl

Outside may think she was being offensive, but really she was just saying "black"




Quoting BUFFIE.the.BODY:

Stupid bumass bitch! I'd love to smack the shit outta you but really I wouldn't even stoop DOWN to your POOR level, bum. And racist comments normally doesn't piss me off but yo ass smh girl you better be lucky you're on line internet bitch!





Quoting BabiiYarellie:

I dont say "Nigger" or "Nigga" I use a much more offensive term, Negro.... but thats just how you sy it in Spanish. Lol



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kblossom20
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 1:59 AM

Obviously we're not from the same parts.... Where I live, the word isn't acceptable. Period. I think it's pretty obvious that the "N" word refers to none other than the obvious "n*gger". If her husband was going around saying "Nigga" I don't think she would have created this post in the first place. 

Quoting Anonymous:

I am hardly old, just have more of an open mind then you do. Where did she say n*ggER? She said he calls them the "n" word. So how do you know what context she's using it in?
Please... A majority of our friends are black and Hispanic. Our black friends are not at all offended by it. I grew up in a predominantly black high school and heard it all the time by many people of different races. They were never offended either. (Though I don't use the term myself.)


Quoting kblossom20:

LOL.

Alright Anon, you MUST be an old crotch because you're obviously out of touch, and misinformed. Having grown up with black friends, it is MOST DEFINITELY an insult to them. Yes, they do say "Nigga" but that is different than being called a "Nigger". The word Nigger is derogatory. Plain and simple. 


Quoting Anonymous:

Your bio is there for what reason? Oh yeah, to be READ. Just because someone calls a black person n*gger does not make them racist. It is socially acceptable within the black community to call your friends that, even if one friend is of a different race. As long as it doesn't offend the people he's saying it to, then there's no problem. The problem is if he's disrespecting his wife and child(ren) by saying it in front of them, but it does not make him racist. Like I said, you are naive and judgmental.





Quoting kblossom20:

Lmao! You read my bio? You have too much time on your hands. How pathetic. Naive & judgmental because RACISM pisses me off and I said something about it? Alright then. Whatever you say, ya creepy annon.



Quoting Anonymous:

Lol, your profile is right. You are truly 22 years YOUNG. You're very naive and judgmental. You joined the perfect group for you.








Quoting kblossom20:

STFU unless you wanna come off anonymous. LOL. Call me a bitch, I just say it like it is. I may not be a mother YET but it's only COMMON SENSE. 




Quoting Anonymous:

Damn, you're a bitch. And not one to judge someone's parenting as you're not even a mom yet. Smh











Quoting kblossom20:

Your husband sounds like an ignorant piece of shit. You're equally as much as a lowlife for being married to such a PIG. Honestly, I hope you don't raise kids around that filth. If you do, you should have them taken away. 















Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2012 at 2:00 AM

Did he not use that word before you married him? If so,why is it bothering you so much now?

BUFFIE.the.BODY
by Ruby Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 2:00 AM
Sure bitch.. Lol fuck outta here

Quoting BabiiYarellie:

The fuuuuh???? Omg lmao. Bitch please buy a book and study sarcasm. I was referring to the color black in spanish its pronounced negro. If a black person heard me say "negro" they would be offended little do they kow its just a color.

Me- says something and says word negro

person of color- what did you say? Did you call me a nigger?

Me-No I said how beautiful this black shirt is.

Now off you go.. -.-t




Quoting BUFFIE.the.BODY:

Stupid bumass bitch! I'd love to smack the shit outta you but really I wouldn't even stoop DOWN to your POOR level, bum. And racist comments normally doesn't piss me off but yo ass smh girl you better be lucky you're on line internet bitch!





Quoting BabiiYarellie:

I dont say "Nigger" or "Nigga" I use a much more offensive term, Negro.... but thats just how you sy it in Spanish. Lol




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kblossom20
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 2:00 AM

Well if you're going to get technical, then no, they're not truly friends... but I'm sure you understood the point.

Quoting Anonymous:

Then they are not friends and is otherwise void of an example.


Quoting kblossom20:

Yes, a racist would have black friends. I've seen it first hand. My old best friend married a racist, and he hung out with black people whilst calling them "niggers" and other derogatory names behind their backs.


Quoting Anonymous:

A racist wouldn't have black friends though...





Quoting Anonymous:

Yeah. No. Sorry.

Considering OP admits that it isn't just to his Black friends, it's to ALL Black people, then social acceptance, context, and intent doesn't matter here. He refers to ALL Black people with this word. He is racist.

Quoting Anonymous:

Your bio is there for what reason? Oh yeah, to be READ. Just because someone calls a black person n*gger does not make them racist. It is socially acceptable within the black community to call your friends that, even if one friend is of a different race. As long as it doesn't offend the people he's saying it to, then there's no problem. The problem is if he's disrespecting his wife and child(ren) by saying it in front of them, but it does not make him racist. Like I said, you are naive and judgmental.








Quoting kblossom20:

Lmao! You read my bio? You have too much time on your hands. How pathetic. Naive & judgmental because RACISM pisses me off and I said something about it? Alright then. Whatever you say, ya creepy annon.




Quoting Anonymous:

Lol, your profile is right. You are truly 22 years YOUNG. You're very naive and judgmental. You joined the perfect group for you.











Quoting kblossom20:

STFU unless you wanna come off anonymous. LOL. Call me a bitch, I just say it like it is. I may not be a mother YET but it's only COMMON SENSE. 





Quoting Anonymous:

Damn, you're a bitch. And not one to judge someone's parenting as you're not even a mom yet. Smh














Quoting kblossom20:

Your husband sounds like an ignorant piece of shit. You're equally as much as a lowlife for being married to such a PIG. Honestly, I hope you don't raise kids around that filth. If you do, you should have them taken away. 





















BabiiYarellie
by Silver Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 2:01 AM
Look. I already explained it like twice -_- feel as sorry as you want to for me. I wasn't being racist and obviously you have no idea what I meant by this. Sigh
**if person of color hears me say negro he/she would be very offended.
Me- says something and includes word negro
Personof color- what did you say? Did you call me a negro?
Me- no I saud how beautiful this black blouse is.
Negro is black in Spanish.
I was not being racist Im of color too. Okay =).


Quoting eve210:

Sarcasm or not, it wasn't funny at all.



I feel sorry for you.




Quoting BabiiYarellie:

And you're an idiot for not understanding sarcasm. ")t






Quoting kblossom20:

You're gross.




Quoting BabiiYarellie:

I dont say "Nigger" or "Nigga" I use a much more offensive term, Negro.... but thats just how you sy it in Spanish. Lol






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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2012 at 2:01 AM

my bf has a swastika tatd on his leg but hes gettin it covered up for me he say he use to be sorta racist but that was a long time ago i told him that it offended me as i have 6 African American siblings

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