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I think my bf of 8 years just broke up with me... *UPDATE*

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by text. It's somewhere around 8:30am and I woke up noticing that he wasn't in bed. I text him saying "where are you?" He texts back with " Things just aren't working out between us, so I decided to move to Atlantic City last night." So, because I had just woke up and not fully awake, ny reply was "what?" He then texts back, "I just decided to leave. To many bills, too much stress, and the kids were driving me crazy." It was at that point when I realized that in all our eight years together, he has never NOT come home and that he just might be telling the truth. I sat and thought for a minute and started to get highly annoyed and disgusted. He has the audacity to say how stressed out and tired he is. All he does is work a 9-5 job. He comes home and relaxes. Me? I got to school FULL TIME, run our business FULL TIME, run the household FULL TIME, and take care of the kids FULL TIME. I am exhausted! So after realizing that he no reason to say how tired he is, I text him back "Enjoy. I hope you find what you're looking for." If he did go, I'm not going to sit here and whine and cry, begging him to come back. Nope. I'm going to wish him well. Does it hurt that he broke up with me and this way? Honestly, no. He was an extra thing that I had to deal with FULL TIME so he just actually cleared up my plate a little.

Oh, for those of you wondering why he picked AC, he has family that lives out there. We are about 3 hours from AC.


Sorry I haven't been on a lot, just had a lot on my mind for the last 24 hours. So I spoke to him this morning. He said that he didn't really go to AC. That he was at a friends house and just needed to "get away". Said that he was tired and had a lot going on. I told him that unless he was secretly sick with cancer, that whatever he had going on, I am going through it too. That for him to just up and leave without so much as a word and then to text me was childish and irresponsible. I asked him why he felt the need to tell me that he was basically gone and never coming back? Why he just couldn't have said " I need some me time". I would have even understood that. He said that he doesn't want to leave and that he apologizes for doing that to me. That he loves me and his family and that he wants to make things right and that he still wants to get married (he was in the process of getting a ring and proposing). I told him to stay at his friends house for a while, that I needed some "me time". I'm hurt that he would do something like this. I'm not saying that we had the world's best relationship. but at least one good enought to where this sort of thing wouldn't happen. If I allow him back, who's to say that he won't do it again, and be for real next time? I do love him and I know he loves us, but he really needs to get his act together. This is something that I need to sit and really think about. *sigh* He is going to come over after work so we can talk. I will update more then. 

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2012 at 8:50 AM
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by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 2:39 PM

wow i couldnt imagine, but then i again i couldnt imagine not being married to someone who i have children with, own a business with and live with.


by Anonymous 23 on Nov. 18, 2012 at 2:39 PM

any updates?

by Bronze Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 2:43 PM

Any man who walks out on his kids is no man at all. I'm so sorry for you and for your children.

Quoting Anonymous:

My oldest is not, he has been in his life since he was 5months old (he is now 9) and the youngest two are his.

Quoting Mrs.Blake12:

Are the kids his too?

by Platinum Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 2:55 PM

Seriously. No discussion. Just text that last night he decided to move? Um, you don't need that in your life. 

by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 3:01 PM
Online schooling, possibly? She didn't say what type of business it is, maybe she takes care of it from home?

I have a friend that is a sahm and she runs an online store. She drops her daughter off in a program for 2 hours twice a week.. Other than that she takes care of her child, the business and the house FULL TIME.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting babyblue415:

 i am not here to bash i just wanted to clear a few things up. first. i'm so sorry he did u wrong. second ... how are you working and going to school and taking care of kids full time? that doesn't work unless you bring your kids to work and to school with you. i dont know there ages but if they are not in school yet then u aren't

 takin care of them full time. ... full time is twenty four seven three sixty five .... other than that. its not full time.

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by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 3:04 PM
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The only thing wrong is that at the end of 8 years the loser left you. You should have kicked his lazy butt to the curb a long time ago.  File for CS asap. He cannot skate on his financial responsibilities to your children. 

by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 3:05 PM

 what an ass! I'm glad you are taking it so well. Best wishes for you and the children.

by Anonymous 24 on Nov. 18, 2012 at 3:08 PM

If those are his kids I would go after him for child support. WTF?! I can't believe he just left you like that. I'm sorry. Nobody deserves that. 

by Anonymous 25 on Nov. 18, 2012 at 3:08 PM

sucks for the kids though...thats a long time to have someone in their life :(

by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 3:10 PM

Wow, I was born and raised in Atlantic City.  Crazy!  I wonder if I know your BF from high school?!

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