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I think my bf of 8 years just broke up with me... *UPDATE*

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by text. It's somewhere around 8:30am and I woke up noticing that he wasn't in bed. I text him saying "where are you?" He texts back with " Things just aren't working out between us, so I decided to move to Atlantic City last night." So, because I had just woke up and not fully awake, ny reply was "what?" He then texts back, "I just decided to leave. To many bills, too much stress, and the kids were driving me crazy." It was at that point when I realized that in all our eight years together, he has never NOT come home and that he just might be telling the truth. I sat and thought for a minute and started to get highly annoyed and disgusted. He has the audacity to say how stressed out and tired he is. All he does is work a 9-5 job. He comes home and relaxes. Me? I got to school FULL TIME, run our business FULL TIME, run the household FULL TIME, and take care of the kids FULL TIME. I am exhausted! So after realizing that he no reason to say how tired he is, I text him back "Enjoy. I hope you find what you're looking for." If he did go, I'm not going to sit here and whine and cry, begging him to come back. Nope. I'm going to wish him well. Does it hurt that he broke up with me and this way? Honestly, no. He was an extra thing that I had to deal with FULL TIME so he just actually cleared up my plate a little.

Oh, for those of you wondering why he picked AC, he has family that lives out there. We are about 3 hours from AC.


11/19/12

Sorry I haven't been on a lot, just had a lot on my mind for the last 24 hours. So I spoke to him this morning. He said that he didn't really go to AC. That he was at a friends house and just needed to "get away". Said that he was tired and had a lot going on. I told him that unless he was secretly sick with cancer, that whatever he had going on, I am going through it too. That for him to just up and leave without so much as a word and then to text me was childish and irresponsible. I asked him why he felt the need to tell me that he was basically gone and never coming back? Why he just couldn't have said " I need some me time". I would have even understood that. He said that he doesn't want to leave and that he apologizes for doing that to me. That he loves me and his family and that he wants to make things right and that he still wants to get married (he was in the process of getting a ring and proposing). I told him to stay at his friends house for a while, that I needed some "me time". I'm hurt that he would do something like this. I'm not saying that we had the world's best relationship. but at least one good enought to where this sort of thing wouldn't happen. If I allow him back, who's to say that he won't do it again, and be for real next time? I do love him and I know he loves us, but he really needs to get his act together. This is something that I need to sit and really think about. *sigh* He is going to come over after work so we can talk. I will update more then. 

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2012 at 8:50 AM
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1plustwinsmommy
by Platinum Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 4:01 PM
Wow. That's still a terrible way to do it. What a spineless jerk. Good luck getting things settled/figured out.
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LovelyMommy24
by Ruby Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 4:03 PM

Wow, I'm sorry. Really happy to hear about a strong ass woman though. You've got your head on straight, that's for sure! Good luck to you, from what I just read, I'm sure you're going to have a future filled with lots of happiness. 

mom18103
by Bronze Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 4:08 PM

 Good for U you rock keep up the positive attitude & hang in there you'll ne just fine!!!! I did it for 17 years by myself & raised two kids!!!

CutieCrab
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 4:09 PM
Yeah no need to cry over spilt milk.
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MizzDeeDee
by Gold Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 4:11 PM

Fuck that coward! Good for you for sending him that text message. I assume that unless there is someone else that he'll try to come back.. and I would tell him to suck it.

Good for you! You deserve better then that little boy.

smurfbitebug
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 4:19 PM
Good for you, OP. You should be proud of yourself for handling this so well. As for everyone trying to dissect her post like it really matters how the hell she put it, yank your head out of your ass and look at what she was trying to say. She was and still is a busy, BUSY woman with no help from him. I also want to add that the fact that he didn't say goodbye to ANY of the children, even if he had issues with you and wanted to sneak out like a coward, says a LOT about him. I agree with others that say hit him for abandonment to get custody and hit him with child support. Good luck, mama. *hugs*
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sonnyswoman75
by Malisa on Nov. 18, 2012 at 4:20 PM
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Very well said...sounds like he is more the problem than the solutions.

Quoting smurfbitebug:

Good for you, OP. You should be proud of yourself for handling this so well. As for everyone trying to dissect her post like it really matters how the hell she put it, yank your head out of your ass and look at what she was trying to say. She was and still is a busy, BUSY woman with no help from him. I also want to add that the fact that he didn't say goodbye to ANY of the children, even if he had issues with you and wanted to sneak out like a coward, says a LOT about him. I agree with others that say hit him for abandonment to get custody and hit him with child support. Good luck, mama. *hugs*
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marinenonstop
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 4:20 PM
Stay positive!!! You dont deserve anyone who will just bail on you like that. I'm in Jersey.. about three hrs out of Atlantic city..border of nyc. If you need to talk you can pm me.
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Mrs.Winchester
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 4:23 PM

I'm sorry that happened but good for you for keeping your head up and not letting him break you down!  He probably expected you to be upset and that's why he went about it the way he did.  It says a lot about him for going about it the way he did-  and a lot about you for how you handled it!  Good for you!  And I hope that things stay positive for you.

AtillaTheHun
by facta, non verba on Nov. 18, 2012 at 4:24 PM

BUMP!

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