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I think I made a nice offer and he is being greedy to ask for more~~ I just thought of something

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Me and my ex have a child together, he pays $750 and makes $3600 a month, this is according to the child support enforcement guidelines. We are both married to other people and have other children, I have 4 other children, he has 2 with one on the way.

He called me and told me that he might have a problem with paying his child support for a while because his wife lost her job. She used to be able to work primarily from home, now she can't and with 2 kids at home and one of the way, daycare would be really expensive so, for now at least, she will be staying at home.

I said that I didn't see how that would make a difference in child support because child support is based on what he makes, it has nothing to do with her income. Then he said that his hours will be getting cut at work as well so he will no longer be able to work overtime, well I pointed out that child support isn't based on him working overtime.

He said that he wanted to talk to me first because he was planning on talking to his attorney about getting a child support decreased but wanted to see if I would be willing to make an agreement on our own. I told him that since child support is based on what he is currently making, not overtime and not his wife's income, there is no reason that the judge would lower child support. I know some states will lower child support if the payer has more children but the state I live in does not.

I asked him what kind of break he was looking for and he said he wanted me to give him 6 months to a year off of the child support. I told him that I can't give him that much of a break but I can let him take $150 off per month for the next year and he doesn't have to pay me back until he stops paying child support when she graduated from high school. He told me that I that's not enough. I told him take it or leave it because that is what I can do. He said that am being heartless and that with him about to have 3 kids to support, he is trying to make something work. This pissed me off because apparently, his "way" to support them is to stop supporting our DD.

Added:

I just thought of something while I was typing. I told someone that child support is based on income and percentage of overnights, I had a feeling that I forgot something. I checked my order, child support is based on him having her 6 weeks a year, not 3 (he decided that he only wanted her 3 weeks a year) and yes, the change is in writing. So if he takes me back to court, he is going to owe me more money because he has her less time then the child support order says he does. Granted, it wouldn't be much, probably $45 a month but still, he would look like an ass.

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2012 at 9:47 AM
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Eyelashes23
by Silver Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:04 AM
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What an idiot. He wants to stop supporting his daughter for a year? He shouldn't be having more kids and his wife should work. That isnt your problem. And 750 out of 3600 sounds reasonable. Here in NY its 17 percent of the income so that sounds about right. Let him take you to court
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:04 AM

Oh, I know, I have a friend who gets about 1/4 of her ex's pay plus he has to keep the child on his insurance and has to pay 1/2 of all copays and the DD is with him EOWE

Quoting sam12796:

 

Quoting Anonymous:

He only makes 3600 and has to pay $750?  He needs to go back to court for sure, esspecially since he's got another one of his on the way, they will see that he needs to split his money between more mouths.

I'm not trying to be mean, but the more kids he has the less $$$ you will get.

 Some states make the non custodial parent pay25-30% of their pay. This sounds about right to me.


LamiavitaDivina
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:06 AM
What a douche face...
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sam12796
by Platinum Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:06 AM

 

Quoting Anonymous:

Oh, I know, I have a friend who gets about 1/4 of her ex's pay plus he has to keep the child on his insurance and has to pay 1/2 of all copays and the DD is with him EOWE

Quoting sam12796:

 

Quoting Anonymous:

He only makes 3600 and has to pay $750?  He needs to go back to court for sure, esspecially since he's got another one of his on the way, they will see that he needs to split his money between more mouths.

I'm not trying to be mean, but the more kids he has the less $$$ you will get.

 Some states make the non custodial parent pay25-30% of their pay. This sounds about right to me.

 

 Yes my sister is in Texas and she gets 29% of her Ex's paycheck. It is the law and you were being very fair in your offer to him.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:06 AM
Perhaps both of you should consider how much you will end up paying in court and legal fees when you are factoring in costs. If he can afford an attorney's retainer, he can afford support. If you have to engage an attorney when he gets one, you can afford a bigger cut. Really try to work this out - I think both sides have more room for compromise.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:08 AM
I know. I think I'm being jipped big time. Lol


Quoting Anonymous:

Well, it's based on income and how many nights each parent has with the child.


Quoting Anonymous:

Well holy shit $750 a month for one child? I would never see that kind of money. I should be getting $200 a month for 2 kids. But im not getting a dime right now.



msjaxon
by Platinum Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:09 AM
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He's an idiot. Guess its time to work at MccDonalds on the weekend.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:09 AM


Quoting Anonymous:

I think so, I mean in this economy, who wants to just give up money?

Quoting Anonymous:

Wtf!! You were being nice...


And I bet he is thinking the same thing..He has 4 kids now.. 1 with you and 3 at home. I would bet he will get it lowered. The state says so much, but..

The other thing is he makes $3600-$750= $2850 for a now family of 5 to live on. He will fight it tooth and nail if you let him take you to court. 

seriously consider dropping it further to prevent any court time. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:11 AM
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Don't give him any breaks.
Mamasgirl524
by Platinum Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:12 AM
Damn! That's a lot of support for his income. Does he also have her on his insurance? I think if he took it to court he'd get it lowered.
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