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I think I made a nice offer and he is being greedy to ask for more~~ I just thought of something

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Me and my ex have a child together, he pays $750 and makes $3600 a month, this is according to the child support enforcement guidelines. We are both married to other people and have other children, I have 4 other children, he has 2 with one on the way.

He called me and told me that he might have a problem with paying his child support for a while because his wife lost her job. She used to be able to work primarily from home, now she can't and with 2 kids at home and one of the way, daycare would be really expensive so, for now at least, she will be staying at home.

I said that I didn't see how that would make a difference in child support because child support is based on what he makes, it has nothing to do with her income. Then he said that his hours will be getting cut at work as well so he will no longer be able to work overtime, well I pointed out that child support isn't based on him working overtime.

He said that he wanted to talk to me first because he was planning on talking to his attorney about getting a child support decreased but wanted to see if I would be willing to make an agreement on our own. I told him that since child support is based on what he is currently making, not overtime and not his wife's income, there is no reason that the judge would lower child support. I know some states will lower child support if the payer has more children but the state I live in does not.

I asked him what kind of break he was looking for and he said he wanted me to give him 6 months to a year off of the child support. I told him that I can't give him that much of a break but I can let him take $150 off per month for the next year and he doesn't have to pay me back until he stops paying child support when she graduated from high school. He told me that I that's not enough. I told him take it or leave it because that is what I can do. He said that am being heartless and that with him about to have 3 kids to support, he is trying to make something work. This pissed me off because apparently, his "way" to support them is to stop supporting our DD.


I just thought of something while I was typing. I told someone that child support is based on income and percentage of overnights, I had a feeling that I forgot something. I checked my order, child support is based on him having her 6 weeks a year, not 3 (he decided that he only wanted her 3 weeks a year) and yes, the change is in writing. So if he takes me back to court, he is going to owe me more money because he has her less time then the child support order says he does. Granted, it wouldn't be much, probably $45 a month but still, he would look like an ass.

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2012 at 9:47 AM
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by Anonymous 10 on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:13 AM
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Money hungry much?????

by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:15 AM
What the hell??? My ex makes about 2200 a month with no other kids and he pays 280 a month! I'm getting jipped lol.

Quoting sam12796:


Quoting Anonymous:

Oh, I know, I have a friend who gets about 1/4 of her ex's pay plus he has to keep the child on his insurance and has to pay 1/2 of all copays and the DD is with him EOWE

Quoting sam12796:


Quoting Anonymous:

He only makes 3600 and has to pay $750?  He needs to go back to court for sure, esspecially since he's got another one of his on the way, they will see that he needs to split his money between more mouths.

I'm not trying to be mean, but the more kids he has the less $$$ you will get.

 Some states make the non custodial parent pay25-30% of their pay. This sounds about right to me.


 Yes my sister is in Texas and she gets 29% of her Ex's paycheck. It is the law and you were being very fair in your offer to him.

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by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:15 AM
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You made an offer. You didn't have to make an offer. You are 100% right, CS doesn't care what his wife makes. Your DD shouldn't go without because of his life choices.

by Ruby Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:16 AM
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For all the ladies out there saying $750 is too much, that is 20% of his income. Many states can take up to 50%. This man chose to continue to procreate knowing he already had an obligation to an existing child. And seriously, if a mom.came in here wanting her support increased because she's having another kid with another man you all would rake her over hot coals and tell her to keep her damn legs closed. When a man tries to get out of a support order to free up money for another child he is doing the same thing - expecting someone else to pay for his child.
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by Emerald Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:16 AM

 guess he'l lahve to try and go to court to get what he wants but even the judge wont give him a years break. he wont get any break.

by Anonymous 11 on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:19 AM
Wow... are you financially supporting your kid at all?
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:22 AM
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Wow seriously, he wanted to stop paying for upto a year?? Glad you told him no.

by Gold Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:24 AM
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He's an ass and I would let it go to court...doesnt sound like he has a real "reason" to reduce cs

by Anonymous 12 on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:27 AM
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I think you're getting way too much money for one child honestly. You're both remarried with other children and you're getting $750 a month for one child? That's ridiculous. Some people are literally trying to raise a FAMILY on little more than what you are getting in child support.
Being that he came to you nicely and asked instead of dragging you to court, I definitely think you're in the wrong here. I wouldn't let him not pay anything, but you can't tell me that you can't cut his payment in half for 6 months.
by Anonymous 13 on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:28 AM
What state are you in?
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