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I bought my 15 y/o DD a vibrater.

Anonymous
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We have always had a really open relationship about sex and her boyfriends. Shes been dating her current for abut a year and half, he is a a junior. Last week she went on a group date to our county fair. A couple days later she ask if she could be placed on the pill. I told her sure. I ask her why and if she was ready. She told told me at the fair she and her boyfriend "hooked up" (oral sex). She said after that it was kinda awkward and both of them felt weird about it. She said she doesn't think either of them are really ready to go there yet but that when they are together it's just kinda hard to stop (hence the want for pills).

 I told her that they both are probably not ready for sex but more sexually frustrated than anything else. I told her thats completely normal and that sex before both of them are really ready isnt the answer. She knows sex is a very emotional act, especially your first, and can't be taken back. I also told her there are things they an do as a couple and be herself to releave some of the tension. I talkedher about heavy petting and mutual masturbation and sex toys (for her own personal use). We talked about setting limits and protecttion a little more indepthly than before.

e looked up sex toys on amazon and I helped her pick something out small and talked to her about proper care for it when it get's here. We also discussed putting her on depo. We went and bought condoms for her room and purse, dental dams, spermacide from amazon.

I'm proud of her for being open with me. I would rather know and help than not know and pop up with a grand child or her being regretful for doing something she was not prepared for. I hope that when she really is ready she will come to me again.

How would you have handled it?

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2012 at 7:25 PM
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luvmymunchkins3
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 7:26 PM
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better then the real deal atleast she wont get pregnant
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 18, 2012 at 7:26 PM

Oh yea, DH agrees. Thank god!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Nov. 18, 2012 at 7:27 PM
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Good for you. I honestly think you did the right thing. I hope my relationship with my dd is that open and honest when she gets older.
ninjakids
by Christina on Nov. 18, 2012 at 7:28 PM
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Depo will make her miserable! Trust me.
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Retrokitty
by Jasmyne on Nov. 18, 2012 at 7:28 PM
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That's good she's super open about it. I also think its good you helped her though kind of super awkward.
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MrS.GiFFord
by Platinum Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 7:28 PM
Good for you!
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MamaSusieQ045
by Silver Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 7:29 PM
Good! You made a great choice!
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thefiregoddess
by Ruby Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 7:30 PM
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I would and will buy my child a masturbatory aid when they ask/if they ask, when they are mature enough to use it appropriately.

I realize some may think its sick, but I'd rather them get their rock off without teen pregnancy.

vrbtnseele
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 7:31 PM
This.


Quoting Anonymous:

Good for you. I honestly think you did the right thing. I hope my relationship with my dd is that open and honest when she gets older.

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Homeschoolmom99
by Silver Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 7:31 PM
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We bought our 12 year old son a Hustler and our 22 year old DD a toy all in the same day! We also got the son these rags at pride that said Cum rag on it.

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