I bought my 15 y/o DD a vibrater.

[Anonymous]

We have always had a really open relationship about sex and her boyfriends. Shes been dating her current for abut a year and half, he is a a junior. Last week she went on a group date to our county fair. A couple days later she ask if she could be placed on the pill. I told her sure. I ask her why and if she was ready. She told told me at the fair she and her boyfriend "hooked up" (oral sex). She said after that it was kinda awkward and both of them felt weird about it. She said she doesn't think either of them are really ready to go there yet but that when they are together it's just kinda hard to stop (hence the want for pills).

 I told her that they both are probably not ready for sex but more sexually frustrated than anything else. I told her thats completely normal and that sex before both of them are really ready isnt the answer. She knows sex is a very emotional act, especially your first, and can't be taken back. I also told her there are things they an do as a couple and be herself to releave some of the tension. I talkedher about heavy petting and mutual masturbation and sex toys (for her own personal use). We talked about setting limits and protecttion a little more indepthly than before.

e looked up sex toys on amazon and I helped her pick something out small and talked to her about proper care for it when it get's here. We also discussed putting her on depo. We went and bought condoms for her room and purse, dental dams, spermacide from amazon.

I'm proud of her for being open with me. I would rather know and help than not know and pop up with a grand child or her being regretful for doing something she was not prepared for. I hope that when she really is ready she will come to me again.

How would you have handled it?

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

 What do you suggest?

She is kinda forgetful and i'm worried she wont remember pills :/

Quoting ninjakids:

Depo will make her miserable! Trust me.

 

[Anonymous]

i gotta ask wtf is a dental dam

[TiffanyRose06]

Sounds like you two have a great relationship and you've handled the sexual aspects well.

[circle_of_life]

 Terrible choice. She needs to be shamed and made to feel very very dirty. You should have told her that sex is evil and the baby Jesus is super mad at her for fooling around. Then you should have made her get down on her knees and pray for forgiveness, then spend the next couple months reading the entire bible. You might want to go ahead and have her clit removed just to be on the safe side.

[thetrollcat]

unbelievable you let her date so young... SMH

[Fields456]

I would do the same thing

[notjstanothrmom]

I hope my kids and I will be able to have a similar relationship.

[LovelyMommy24]

I'm not in this position and won't be for some time, but it sounds like you made the right decision!

I'm not so sure I'd tell my dh I bought our daughter a vibrator. LOL. 

[Anonymous]

this is seriously the trashiest, tackiest thing I've ever read here. which is saying something.

Quoting Homeschoolmom99:

We bought our 12 year old son a Hustler and our 22 year old DD a toy all in the same day! We also got the son these rags at pride that said Cum rag on it.

[livelaughlov26]

You're a lot smarter then most moms. It's better then her being confused and ashamed and endingup prego.