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I bought my 15 y/o DD a vibrater.

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We have always had a really open relationship about sex and her boyfriends. Shes been dating her current for abut a year and half, he is a a junior. Last week she went on a group date to our county fair. A couple days later she ask if she could be placed on the pill. I told her sure. I ask her why and if she was ready. She told told me at the fair she and her boyfriend "hooked up" (oral sex). She said after that it was kinda awkward and both of them felt weird about it. She said she doesn't think either of them are really ready to go there yet but that when they are together it's just kinda hard to stop (hence the want for pills).

 I told her that they both are probably not ready for sex but more sexually frustrated than anything else. I told her thats completely normal and that sex before both of them are really ready isnt the answer. She knows sex is a very emotional act, especially your first, and can't be taken back. I also told her there are things they an do as a couple and be herself to releave some of the tension. I talkedher about heavy petting and mutual masturbation and sex toys (for her own personal use). We talked about setting limits and protecttion a little more indepthly than before.

e looked up sex toys on amazon and I helped her pick something out small and talked to her about proper care for it when it get's here. We also discussed putting her on depo. We went and bought condoms for her room and purse, dental dams, spermacide from amazon.

I'm proud of her for being open with me. I would rather know and help than not know and pop up with a grand child or her being regretful for doing something she was not prepared for. I hope that when she really is ready she will come to me again.

How would you have handled it?

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2012 at 7:25 PM
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jpoveda2000
by Member on Nov. 24, 2012 at 7:11 AM

Do you live in Europe?

laranadtony
by Ruby Member on Nov. 24, 2012 at 7:13 AM
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Quoting Anonymous:

you will be a grandma sooner than later

Yeah, you have to watch those vibrators. They will get you pregnant even if they have no batteries in them.

Don't sweat the petty things;Don't pet the sweaty things!

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:08 AM
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Well, be that as it may, this is AMERICA. That would be groovy if everyone thought like that. I'm not knocking you for being the best mother you know how to be. I know ALOT of mothers who thought that if they are this open with their children they could protect them when in fact all you've done is taken them to the next level. She is going to get tired of that vibrator and start looking for the real thing.

I have 14 and 16 year old girls. We (my entire family) teach them to focus on themselves by getting a good education and becoming successful FIRST. Then one day a good man will find you. I keep it very, very real with my girls. I'm not ignorant enough to think to think they will never have sex, but there is no way in hell I would introduce it to them in any fashion.I let them know I am not their friend I am their MOTHER and they know they can come to me and their dad for anything, anytime.

like I said I am not bashing your parenting skills. But at this rate and teaching in that style you will be a grandma sooner than later.

Quoting Anonymous:

Why do you say that. In Europe, where my parenting style is often practiced, teens statistically have lower rates of pregnancy/STDs, wait longer,  less regretful about sex.

Quoting Anonymous:

you will be a grandma sooner than later


HipLikeJunk
by Gold Member on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:11 AM

I think it's really great that you are so open, honest, understanding and nonjudgemental. (:`

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:13 AM

Ah hahahaha. Who are you? The vibrator defender? Its not the vibrator. When her daughter gets tred of it she is going to go get the real thing. I get so sick of lame ass girls like you. Think before you quote.

Quoting laranadtony:


Quoting Anonymous:

you will be a grandma sooner than later

Yeah, you have to watch those vibrators. They will get you pregnant even if they have no batteries in them.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:16 AM
You don't have a real shred of proof. I completly disagree

Quoting Anonymous:

Well, be that as it may, this is AMERICA. That would be groovy if everyone thought like that. I'm not knocking you for being the best mother you know how to be. I know ALOT of mothers who thought that if they are this open with their children they could protect them when in fact all you've done is taken them to the next level. She is going to get tired of that vibrator and start looking for the real thing.

I have 14 and 16 year old girls. We (my entire family) teach them to focus on themselves by getting a good education and becoming successful FIRST. Then one day a good man will find you. I keep it very, very real with my girls. I'm not ignorant enough to think to think they will never have sex, but there is no way in hell I would introduce it to them in any fashion.I let them know I am not their friend I am their MOTHER and they know they can come to me and their dad for anything, anytime.

like I said I am not bashing your parenting skills. But at this rate and teaching in that style you will be a grandma sooner than later.


Quoting Anonymous:

Why do you say that. In Europe, where my parenting style is often practiced, teens statistically have lower rates of pregnancy/STDs, wait longer,  less regretful about sex.



Quoting Anonymous:

you will be a grandma sooner than later


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:17 AM
Nope America

Quoting jpoveda2000:

Do you live in Europe?

laranadtony
by Ruby Member on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:23 AM


Quoting Anonymous:

Ah hahahaha. Who are you? The vibrator defender? Its not the vibrator. When her daughter gets tred of it she is going to go get the real thing. I get so sick of lame ass girls like you. Think before you quote.

Quoting laranadtony:


Quoting Anonymous:

you will be a grandma sooner than later

Yeah, you have to watch those vibrators. They will get you pregnant even if they have no batteries in them.


Well, first of all, I am far from a girl!

Second of all, you assumption is wrong. Most of the girls that use them see them as "safe" because there is no pregnancy and no STDs.

Don't sweat the petty things;Don't pet the sweaty things!

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:31 AM

lol. what do you want me to tell you? LMAO. I have witnessed this shit for myself. I would expect you to diagree. You will be a grandma- Soon. Believe that. lol. Maybe you should move to Europe

Quoting Anonymous:

You don't have a real shred of proof. I completly disagree

Quoting Anonymous:

Well, be that as it may, this is AMERICA. That would be groovy if everyone thought like that. I'm not knocking you for being the best mother you know how to be. I know ALOT of mothers who thought that if they are this open with their children they could protect them when in fact all you've done is taken them to the next level. She is going to get tired of that vibrator and start looking for the real thing.

I have 14 and 16 year old girls. We (my entire family) teach them to focus on themselves by getting a good education and becoming successful FIRST. Then one day a good man will find you. I keep it very, very real with my girls. I'm not ignorant enough to think to think they will never have sex, but there is no way in hell I would introduce it to them in any fashion.I let them know I am not their friend I am their MOTHER and they know they can come to me and their dad for anything, anytime.

like I said I am not bashing your parenting skills. But at this rate and teaching in that style you will be a grandma sooner than later.


Quoting Anonymous:

Why do you say that. In Europe, where my parenting style is often practiced, teens statistically have lower rates of pregnancy/STDs, wait longer,  less regretful about sex.



Quoting Anonymous:

you will be a grandma sooner than later



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 24, 2012 at 11:38 AM

Lol, first of all, what are you a boy? Most of the GIRLS who use them are LONELY.

Quoting laranadtony:


Quoting Anonymous:

Ah hahahaha. Who are you? The vibrator defender? Its not the vibrator. When her daughter gets tred of it she is going to go get the real thing. I get so sick of lame ass girls like you. Think before you quote.

Quoting laranadtony:


Quoting Anonymous:

you will be a grandma sooner than later

Yeah, you have to watch those vibrators. They will get you pregnant even if they have no batteries in them.


Well, first of all, I am far from a girl!

Second of all, you assumption is wrong. Most of the girls that use them see them as "safe" because there is no pregnancy and no STDs.


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