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I bought my 15 y/o DD a vibrater.

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

We have always had a really open relationship about sex and her boyfriends. Shes been dating her current for abut a year and half, he is a a junior. Last week she went on a group date to our county fair. A couple days later she ask if she could be placed on the pill. I told her sure. I ask her why and if she was ready. She told told me at the fair she and her boyfriend "hooked up" (oral sex). She said after that it was kinda awkward and both of them felt weird about it. She said she doesn't think either of them are really ready to go there yet but that when they are together it's just kinda hard to stop (hence the want for pills).

 I told her that they both are probably not ready for sex but more sexually frustrated than anything else. I told her thats completely normal and that sex before both of them are really ready isnt the answer. She knows sex is a very emotional act, especially your first, and can't be taken back. I also told her there are things they an do as a couple and be herself to releave some of the tension. I talkedher about heavy petting and mutual masturbation and sex toys (for her own personal use). We talked about setting limits and protecttion a little more indepthly than before.

e looked up sex toys on amazon and I helped her pick something out small and talked to her about proper care for it when it get's here. We also discussed putting her on depo. We went and bought condoms for her room and purse, dental dams, spermacide from amazon.

I'm proud of her for being open with me. I would rather know and help than not know and pop up with a grand child or her being regretful for doing something she was not prepared for. I hope that when she really is ready she will come to me again.

How would you have handled it?

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2012 at 7:25 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 21, 2012 at 10:05 PM

15 yr olds should not be having sex

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Dec. 21, 2012 at 10:56 PM

If the only real orgasm you've had is while masturbating, I feel sorry for you. The first real one I had was with my husband...much better than masturbating (yes, I do that on occasion). It is still better with him. I still disagree with this whole thread. Sex is for marriage....period. What a wacked out society we have.

Quoting newmom3012:

It's mastUrbate - at least spell it correctly!  If you have never had an orgasm that resulted from mastUrbating, then I highly doubt you've had a REAL orgasm.  Also - fucking to get pregnant does NOT equal getting enjoyment from said fucking.  You're fertile.....your husband's fertile - that has absolutely DICK to do with you climaxing.  You might want to draw yourself a warm bath, light some candles, and double click your mouse (that would be your clit) a few times and see if it doesn't make you a happier person.  

clappingshoutingI'll be cheering you on!

Quoting Anonymous:

I've had plenty of orgasms in my life time...no I don't need to masterbate that's what I have a husband for...and seeing as how we are having baby #4 I think that sept is just fine thank u very much


Quoting newmom3012:

How does a vibrator = "go off have sex get pregnant".  She talked to her daughter about mutual masturbation and other NONSEX activities to do with her BF....and the vibrator is for masturbation.  Girls who masturbate are typically more educated and more aware of their bodies, pregnancy, and protecting themselves because they aren't ashamed of their body.  No one should be ashamed of masturbating, and EVERYONE should masturbate BEFORE they have sex.  I have a feeling a lot of you women have never truly orgasmed before, in which case - maybe OP should buy YOU the vibrators....


Quoting Anonymous:

I by no mean attend to bash and yes while it's a good thing putting her on BC...I still don't see the need for getting her a toy. That's like telling her sure go off have sex get pregnant. I hope everything works out for u tho.





Quoting Anonymous:

 Her sex life isnt mine. I can't force her or pressure her o wait like I did. I would like for her to, but that needs to be her choice. I can't decide when shes ready for that step. The most I can do it help her really know when she is ready for that step and make sure she is protected.



Quoting Anonymous:

Wow I'm sorry but I don't agree with this at all...yes it's good that she is open with you but why in the world would u be ok with her being sexually active at 15?


 







humblemommy
by Silver Member on Dec. 23, 2012 at 7:00 AM
Different stokes for different folks I guess...merry xmas!:)


Quoting CABZS:

Honestly it would have been nice if my mother hadn't been such a prude. I see no issue with mom taking her to get one if she wanted one. Getting one probably wouldn't have been so overwhelming if my mother would have steered me properly.



Ok it may not be a necessity but if DD wanted one why not take her to get one? I don't get what is gross.



Better to learn from mom than some nasty porn site, or not care for your toy properly bc one was uneducated.




Quoting humblemommy:

My point exactly...you've gone to the store with your friends...not your mom at 15 right? I had an awesome open relationship with my mom at 15, but she didnt need to buy me a vibrator.






Quoting CABZS:

What is so gross? And what should be private is using it, but buying it whatever. I've gone into stores with friends and bought toys around them.







I think it is wonderful to have an open relationship, less curiousity. Our son is almost 13 and we have a very open relationship with him. It is a relief to know he is now comfortable to come to us about anything.







It will be the same way with our DD.








Quoting humblemommy:

This is awkward and gross. Having a sex toy is something that should be private and not shared with others, especially your mom! She is more than capable of discovering her body and what she likes without the use of a vibrator! I did, and I didn't need my mom buying me a vibrator! Buy her some condoms and get her ass on depo.




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