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Buying a porn mag for your son? Buying a vibrator for your DD?

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Am i the only one who thinks that is kind of going to far? Is everyone brain dead here or lying or what? I just read a post about a women who got her 12 yr old son a porn mag and another one about a mom getting her 15 yr old dd a vibrator. I mean yeah i am well aware my kids are going to grow up and have sex and watch porn and do all kinds of things i don't want to think about right now but i don't think getting a porn magazine for my 12-13 yr old son is a positve thing to post about on here. Yeah lets get him addcited to porn REALLY young! Yeah yeah i know not everyone gets addicted to porn and it can be healthy but really a 12 year old? Am i alone here on thinking this is a tad overboard?

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2012 at 11:55 PM
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Lovemyboys1212
by Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:00 AM
I agree with you! I would never!
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:01 AM
The thing is at that age kids are horny because there hormones are in overdrive. It's a natural thing to do at that age. We are sexual beings like it or not.


Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

I think it's entirely too far. Teens masturbate. They don't need dirty magazines and sex toys to achieve an orgasm. It's completely unnecessary and desenitizes them, both physically and mentally, to sex in general. I think it's really disturbing that so many parents seem to think it's a good idea to put these objects in the hands of our kids. 

Yes, sex will happen. Hopefully not while either of my children are minors and not in a committed (lifelong??) relationship. But it WILL happen eventually. In my opinion, giving our children pornography and sexual paraphenalia is just encouraging them to be introduced to sex earlier than they need to be. The lax attitude that so many parents have about sex and sexuality scares the hell out of me.

So no... I don't think it's healthy at all.  


semamaearth
by Silver Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:03 AM
Lo!! That's such a ridiculous argument. it's like buying tie kids cigarettes, beer or weed and saying, "well, I'd rather them get it from me"


Quoting Anonymous:

No, you probably are not but I rather supply my kid and know what they are and are not doing rather than them going out and getting unclean or unsafe items on their own.


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philly_mom
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:03 AM
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If you had taken the time to read the woman's post about buying her daughter a vibrator, you would have grasped that it was actually a very informed and responsible decision on the mother's part.  I hope to be that open and honest with my daughter (should I ever have one... I only have a son) some day.

As for the porn magazine for a 12 year old... that's going a bit far and is rather trashy, in my opinion.  A 12 year old shouldn't be sexually active, period, and if he is, I don't think the parents should encourage it.

Jessica_Esqueda
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:03 AM

Of course we are sexual beings. I'm on my way to becoming a psychologist-- I know this. But just because we are sexual beings and teens' hormones are in overdrive does NOT mean they need to have sex. They need to learn a bit of restraint and masturbate instead. 

And masturbation, especially the innocent masturbation of virgin children, does NOT require pornography or battery operated gadgets.  

Quoting Anonymous:

The thing is at that age kids are horny because there hormones are in overdrive. It's a natural thing to do at that age. We are sexual beings like it or not.


Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

I think it's entirely too far. Teens masturbate. They don't need dirty magazines and sex toys to achieve an orgasm. It's completely unnecessary and desenitizes them, both physically and mentally, to sex in general. I think it's really disturbing that so many parents seem to think it's a good idea to put these objects in the hands of our kids. 

Yes, sex will happen. Hopefully not while either of my children are minors and not in a committed (lifelong??) relationship. But it WILL happen eventually. In my opinion, giving our children pornography and sexual paraphenalia is just encouraging them to be introduced to sex earlier than they need to be. The lax attitude that so many parents have about sex and sexuality scares the hell out of me.

So no... I don't think it's healthy at all.  





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hax0rm0m
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:03 AM

does your 12 year old have a computer/ipod touch/xbox 360/nintendo wii/ anything of that nature?  it's not like you can prevent him from looking at porn. 


a porn magazine is pretty tame nowadays, and I don't think that's what they mean when they talk about porn addiction.

Retrokitty
by Ruby Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:03 AM
My SO said he started masturbating at 8. All his friends were the same. Heck even babies do it.


Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

I think it's entirely too far. Teens masturbate. They don't need dirty magazines and sex toys to achieve an orgasm. It's completely unnecessary and desenitizes them, both physically and mentally, to sex in general. I think it's really disturbing that so many parents seem to think it's a good idea to put these objects in the hands of our kids. 

Yes, sex will happen. Hopefully not while either of my children are minors and not in a committed (lifelong??) relationship. But it WILL happen eventually. In my opinion, giving our children pornography and sexual paraphenalia is just encouraging them to be introduced to sex earlier than they need to be. The lax attitude that so many parents have about sex and sexuality scares the hell out of me.

So no... I don't think it's healthy at all.  


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4noodles4me
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:05 AM
I had to read that post twice! I smh and wonder wth is wrong with people today?!!
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:05 AM
I agree with you
Jessica_Esqueda
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:05 AM

I'm aware of this. My one and two year olds touch themselves. It's normal and healthy. Introducing unnecessary objects (i.e. porn and toys) into that equation is what is unnatural and unhealthy at such a young age. 

Quoting Retrokitty:

My SO said he started masturbating at 8. All his friends were the same. Heck even babies do it.


Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

I think it's entirely too far. Teens masturbate. They don't need dirty magazines and sex toys to achieve an orgasm. It's completely unnecessary and desenitizes them, both physically and mentally, to sex in general. I think it's really disturbing that so many parents seem to think it's a good idea to put these objects in the hands of our kids. 

Yes, sex will happen. Hopefully not while either of my children are minors and not in a committed (lifelong??) relationship. But it WILL happen eventually. In my opinion, giving our children pornography and sexual paraphenalia is just encouraging them to be introduced to sex earlier than they need to be. The lax attitude that so many parents have about sex and sexuality scares the hell out of me.

So no... I don't think it's healthy at all.  





For delicious allergy-friendly recipes, follow my blog, Cooking With Food Allergies! 

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