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Buying a porn mag for your son? Buying a vibrator for your DD?

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Am i the only one who thinks that is kind of going to far? Is everyone brain dead here or lying or what? I just read a post about a women who got her 12 yr old son a porn mag and another one about a mom getting her 15 yr old dd a vibrator. I mean yeah i am well aware my kids are going to grow up and have sex and watch porn and do all kinds of things i don't want to think about right now but i don't think getting a porn magazine for my 12-13 yr old son is a positve thing to post about on here. Yeah lets get him addcited to porn REALLY young! Yeah yeah i know not everyone gets addicted to porn and it can be healthy but really a 12 year old? Am i alone here on thinking this is a tad overboard?

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 18, 2012 at 11:55 PM
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thetrollcat
by Meow on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:24 AM

LOL masterbating with a teddy bear? Did you really?

Quoting BabiiYarellie:

She can masterbate like we did back in my day. With her fingers and a teddy bear. Fuck that shit.


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BabiiYarellie
by Silver Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:25 AM
Lmao.... I keep running into you ;).... hahaha... and Idk.. it was soooooo long ago.... ;)


Quoting thetrollcat:

LOL masterbating with a teddy bear? Did you really?

Quoting BabiiYarellie:

She can masterbate like we did back in my day. With her fingers and a teddy bear. Fuck that shit.



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Jessica_Esqueda
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:27 AM

If you find that she is already masturbating with objects, then buying her a safe object is less offensive. I just don't understand the attitude of "you're horny? Here's a dildo!". What is that teaching our kids about sexual morality? 

Quoting thetrollcat:

Porn magazine I agree with some that say that is not appropriate, I agree that is not an actual sex tool. Boys are perfectly content using their hands.

Girls, well in the other post I did catch one poster stating girls getting infectiosn from using objects. I would much rather provide a safe toy for my daughter verses wondering what she is shoving up there.... Thats a safty issue, porn magazine is not.

I do think its something I wil lconsider and talk to my 17 year old about, being safe if she masterbates with object. I never thought about that....




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Bellarose0212
by Gold Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:28 AM

I don't care what other people do but I probably wouldn't do either.

I will inform my children (of either gender) about masturbation and sexuality. So, they will know masturbation is healthy and normal. I don't think a sex toy is necessary to explore your body or find sexual release. I will have conversations about sexuality and birth control, provide more materials for reading, and provide barrier birth control if necessary (or let them know where to get it for free).

I wouldn't want to buy a porn mag because I generally disagree with pornography and how women are portrayed therein. I will talk to any future sons about this, about how using pornography hands your sexuality over to someone else and sets you up with a whole lot of false expectations about what true sexual relations and relationships with real girls will be like. I guess the only time I would buy porn intended for my son is if I somehow found some pron that provided more healthy and normal images of females and sexual intercourse. But, even that, would be something to really consider and would have a lot to do with his age and maturity. I might not actually give it, but let him know there are alternatives to "mainstream" porn or soemthing like that.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:36 AM

While I entirely agree that's true, I still feel I'm one of the few who just can't be helped without... I've spent countless hours getting to know my body and what feels good and what doesn't, reading up on the anatomy, talked to sex educators, even tryied new techniques and positions every time so I don't get stuck in a "rut" and my body becomes used to just masturbating one particular way, and I STILL have so much trouble getting there, even with toys. Vibrators cut my average time from almost two hours down to about forty-five minutes. Without one, I can achieve a slight peak, and it does feel good, but it's not anything near an orgasm, and requires both hands to do so (clitoral and vaginal stimulation combined).

Lmao I'm sorry, that's probably way tmi and completely off topic.

But yes, as far as teens go, I completely agree. The stress relief alone can take the edge off and that's fine. :)

Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

It's not easy. But if one is motivated... lol. 

Seriously though, the reason so many people, women especially, have such a hard time enjoying themselves is because we have gotten used to a quick reaction to a toy. A woman who has taken the time to learn her body CAN achieve orgasm without a vibrator. 

Which is beside the point, anyways. Teens can achieve plenty of stress relief and tension release from the act of masturbation, even without reaching orgasm. Though many people debate that it's easier for a teen to reach orgasm than an adult, due to the increased hormones.  

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm sorry, but exactly how easy is it for you to get yourself off? I couldn't even have an orgasm until I bought my first vibrator. :\ Frankly if I'd had one earlier than I did (bought it at 21) I wouldn't have even bothered with sex. For some people, yeah, it's either battery-operated toys or carpal tunnel, lmao.

Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

Of course we are sexual beings. I'm on my way to becoming a psychologist-- I know this. But just because we are sexual beings and teens' hormones are in overdrive does NOT mean they need to have sex. They need to learn a bit of restraint and masturbate instead. 

And masturbation, especially the innocent masturbation of virgin children, does NOT require pornography or battery operated gadgets.  

Quoting Anonymous:

The thing is at that age kids are horny because there hormones are in overdrive. It's a natural thing to do at that age. We are sexual beings like it or not.


Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

I think it's entirely too far. Teens masturbate. They don't need dirty magazines and sex toys to achieve an orgasm. It's completely unnecessary and desenitizes them, both physically and mentally, to sex in general. I think it's really disturbing that so many parents seem to think it's a good idea to put these objects in the hands of our kids. 

Yes, sex will happen. Hopefully not while either of my children are minors and not in a committed (lifelong??) relationship. But it WILL happen eventually. In my opinion, giving our children pornography and sexual paraphenalia is just encouraging them to be introduced to sex earlier than they need to be. The lax attitude that so many parents have about sex and sexuality scares the hell out of me.

So no... I don't think it's healthy at all.  






MamaSusieQ045
by Silver Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:26 AM
I agree!

Quoting Retrokitty:

I wouldn't buy porn for my son only because its illegal and he can easily find it elsewhere. I'm fine with my children masturbating and if my daughters anything like me a hand does nothing. I would have no problem buying something. Though it would be awkward for me.
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rissamom224
by Gold Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 2:29 AM
Well I originally asked because I couldn't take seriously that a mother would buy their child a " vibrator" or "nude magazine" and I figured you were a new comer that had no experience with the trolls.
But reading the other replies I'm seeing that OPs were serious.
Smdh.


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Quoting rissamom224:

How long have you been on cafemom?


Why do u ask? Maybe a year or two but i wasnt on for months.

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thetrollcat
by Meow on Nov. 19, 2012 at 2:34 AM

My point is I wouldnt discourage my teen from buying one, Im not buying the damn thing. If she really wants a dildo she can buy one herself. Im just saying a dildo is legal and really for sanity reasons safer for a girl. Porn for a boy has no real purpose compared to a girl having a dildo.

Quoting Jessica_Esqueda:

If you find that she is already masturbating with objects, then buying her a safe object is less offensive. I just don't understand the attitude of "you're horny? Here's a dildo!". What is that teaching our kids about sexual morality? 

Quoting thetrollcat:

Porn magazine I agree with some that say that is not appropriate, I agree that is not an actual sex tool. Boys are perfectly content using their hands.

Girls, well in the other post I did catch one poster stating girls getting infectiosn from using objects. I would much rather provide a safe toy for my daughter verses wondering what she is shoving up there.... Thats a safty issue, porn magazine is not.

I do think its something I wil lconsider and talk to my 17 year old about, being safe if she masterbates with object. I never thought about that....



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I'm not the cat lady type. I'm more like an actual cat. I want affection when I want it and on my own terms. The rest of the time I want to claw out your eyes and piss in your shoes.  

*marking the 599968yth post/reply being mean, evil, horrible, which makes me worse than anonymous*

jonsgirl99
by Bronze Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 2:35 AM
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What happened to protecting the innocence of you children....??? Sex should not be thought of as casual, but intimate!! No wonder this world is going to hell in a handbasket our children are not being taught how to make inimate connections in any way shape or form!!

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:52 AM

No, because those items for masturbation are not harmful or illegal. That is a ridiculous comparison. 

Quoting semamaearth:

Lo!! That's such a ridiculous argument. it's like buying tie kids cigarettes, beer or weed and saying, "well, I'd rather them get it from me"


Quoting Anonymous:

No, you probably are not but I rather supply my kid and know what they are and are not doing rather than them going out and getting unclean or unsafe items on their own.



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