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i want a divorce

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
And i already hinted..beg.. Asked.. But husband ignores it. we dont get along.. Im not a fan of his kids and never really develop good relatioship with them. He kept me isolated and tried to keep me dependent to him.he threaten to take our kids away from me.i have no job.i dont love him anymore and want this to be over.its not fair to me.to our kids..to his kids.. Miserable wife.. Unhappy mother.. Reluctant stepmom
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:53 PM
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akrall83
by Silver Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:06 PM
It's still abuse. Seek help from your local women's shelter and get away.
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abaggett
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:07 PM
Well no point of putting yourself and kids through it. If your unhappy just leave. If he's not gonna give you a response, actions speak louder then words. Several states offer services to help you with a divorce at no charge. I was in an abusive marriage and I left with the support of my family. Get a good support system. In the state of Texas they have what's called legal aid and its a free service that provides you with an attorney at no cost and handles all the legality of your case. It os very hard to remove the children from the mothers custody unless he can prove she is unfit. I wish you the best of luck.
Mamasgirl524
by Platinum Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:08 PM
It very well may be that you and their father didn't have the best relationship but whatever it is I don't judge. Being a step parent is really hard!

Quoting Anonymous:

No.im not cruel to them.we just dont click together.and im thinking its better we split ways..i guess i dont have good marriage with their dad from the beginning and thats a factor in not having good relationship with thwm as well.or im just one of those who arent shaped to b a stepmom




Quoting Mamasgirl524:

Lol you're not a fan of his kids!


Girl don't hint do it! You deserve to be happy.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:09 PM
Yes.he has control of finances and the vehicles.he knew i cant run away and bring two toddlrrs away without money or vehicle


Quoting LilynAustin:

He threatens to take the kids away?  Yeah, NEVER going to happen.

Take the first step, go file the paper work for divorce and child support/custody.  Unless you are a raging alcoholic or drug user he cannot take your biological children away from you.  Get out of there.  Seriously, it sounds like an abusive/controlling situation.  Men who are abusive will use your kids against you, use finances, make threats, etc etc.  Please don't take this anymore.  Get help and get out.

I am willing to bet your husband is verbally, emotionally, and financially abusing you.  I am also willing to bet he uses money to keep you from leaving.  He controls all the money, the car, the bank accounts, right?  So, how could you possibly live without him?  I am also willing to bet that he uses the kids against you as well.  Does he ever threaten to take them away or call CPS on you?

These are empty threats.  Pack up, and move on.  He can't do anything.  If my hunch is correct you can get a free lawyer if you are a victim of domestic violence (which includes financial/emotional/verbal abuse).    

I'm sorry I take this very seriously.  Not just abuse cases, but every case where a woman feels she doesn't have a way out.  You do.  Everyone deserves to be happy.  The only person who can change your circumstances is you.


nelliesmommy
by NoTtOdaY:) on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:11 PM
Go to a shelter. Get a job. Move on...Good luck!
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CutieCrab
by Jen on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:12 PM
Do it
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:17 PM
I feel guilty.. I feel like an evil stepmom.


Quoting Mamasgirl524:

It very well may be that you and their father didn't have the best relationship but whatever it is I don't judge. Being a step parent is really hard!



Quoting Anonymous:

No.im not cruel to them.we just dont click together.and im thinking its better we split ways..i guess i dont have good marriage with their dad from the beginning and thats a factor in not having good relationship with thwm as well.or im just one of those who arent shaped to b a stepmom






Quoting Mamasgirl524:

Lol you're not a fan of his kids!



Girl don't hint do it! You deserve to be happy.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:18 PM
Im gonna start researching.before he locks the laptop and take my fon away again.


Quoting nelliesmommy:

Go to a shelter. Get a job. Move on...Good luck!

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:19 PM
Youre right.its just hard and scary to take the first step.i need to do some planning.


Quoting abaggett:

Well no point of putting yourself and kids through it. If your unhappy just leave. If he's not gonna give you a response, actions speak louder then words. Several states offer services to help you with a divorce at no charge. I was in an abusive marriage and I left with the support of my family. Get a good support system. In the state of Texas they have what's called legal aid and its a free service that provides you with an attorney at no cost and handles all the legality of your case. It os very hard to remove the children from the mothers custody unless he can prove she is unfit. I wish you the best of luck.

Mamasgirl524
by Platinum Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:22 PM
I'll say this and honestly I don't care what anyone thinks. I'm a step mom and I won't say I can't stand my sd but she's the same age as my daughter and extremely sheltered. She is shy and I feel guilty punishing her like I do daughter. It's hard to follow someone else's parenting while she's here every other weekend. You know? I raised my daughter for 5 years and helped her grow into the beautiful independent child she is. I had no part in how this child was raised and it complicates things. I just deal with it and try to treat both children the same although it's hard.

Quoting Anonymous:

I feel guilty.. I feel like an evil stepmom.




Quoting Mamasgirl524:

It very well may be that you and their father didn't have the best relationship but whatever it is I don't judge. Being a step parent is really hard!





Quoting Anonymous:

No.im not cruel to them.we just dont click together.and im thinking its better we split ways..i guess i dont have good marriage with their dad from the beginning and thats a factor in not having good relationship with thwm as well.or im just one of those who arent shaped to b a stepmom








Quoting Mamasgirl524:

Lol you're not a fan of his kids!




Girl don't hint do it! You deserve to be happy.


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