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having some one else join your sex life?

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 Okay so pretty much Ive been thinking about giving my husband a 3 sum. Heres the thing years ago he had the chance to have one ( i had a friend of mine join) he could of had a three sum an he backed out an said he didnt want to go threw with it becuase it was a friend of mine an he didnt want me to think that he wanted her like that as any more then a one time three sum.

Okay well  in reality my husband only wants one once just to say he has done an to try something new. Which I do believe  because we'ev tried many things in an out of the bed room just once to say that we've tried them. ...  Any ways Ive really been thinking about trying to find some one to do this with for him but I wouldnt even know where to start any suggestions? Im sure people will bash but it isnt really going to change my mind , we've been together for years an I know he isnt going any where I would jsut like to give him that experience so he can say hes tryed it.  I would preefer it not be some one we know or close with maybe some one I could make my friend later on or just some one we see this one time I dont know but I dont even know where to start any ideas?

Thanks in advance , I will answer any questions any one has but doubtfull I will respond to any bashing jsut because im in a good mood to day an dont fell llike dealing with any thing negative. !

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:29 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Nov. 19, 2012 at 2:10 PM
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Quoting Anonymous:

 yes I understand what your saying he had backed out before when it was one of my friends. An I think it was becuase it was one of my friend i mean thats what he says. He still brings it up an teases about it so I would assume he wants to try. I mean he says he does.   Im not a jealous person any more but he is jsut not when it comes to girls if that makes sense?  did any of that makes sense lol? HE has said many times he just wwants it to be a one time thing an nothing more jsut so he can say he has tried it .

Quoting Anonymous:

hmmmm that's a slippery slope you're treading on there momma...I was in the lifestyle for sometime...i saw the good and the bad sides regarding couples swinging (I was the toss in)...swinging or sharing your partner can be something that creates a stronger bond, but also one that can tear it apart....You really never know completely how either one of you will react until it's presented to you...if you or he has any jealous tendencies whatsoever regardless if you find a girl from your neighborhood, a mutual gal pal or an adult dating site it can be nearly deadly for your marriage (IMO)..

A couple months ago, dh and I had the chance to bring home a girl for both of us to share....at the last minute, he changed his mind, telling me he didn't want that, that sex between us, was just that between us (and honestly I was somewhat relieve)..

So, some fantasies, are good to live out, while others are better to be kept as fanasies...

Regardless, alot of communication BEFORE and groud rules need to be set up....

 

i personnally think, (granted i don't know you), that you and hubs need to have a long serious heart to hear talk about bringing someone into your bed...I understand you're bi (read in prior post on thread)..and so am i..(hell most women i think are lmao)...But anywho...he was uncomfortable with your gal pal bc you both knew her..that would only make for an awkard situation for a minute or 2...You may feel ( or he may) feel completely different when you see him giving it some other fem

for hubs and I, after our failed and greatful attempt of each of us sharing partner..and altho when he was single he had 3sums, and i had many......something is completely different when it's the one you love and comitted to vs a FWB and a toss in...

for some (men and women) there is a HUGE emotional tie with sex...while others, view it only as an activity like going to the movies, out to eat, the mall etc....You may want to do some serious soul searching and heartfelt talks with hubs and asking both of you some hard questions before you come to a conclusion....

Regardless, good luck!

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 19, 2012 at 2:11 PM

 

Quoting Anonymous:

try meetme.com i did and it worked.

 if you dont mind me asking did it turn out going well ? or did you meet a crap ton of  creeps lol? just curious. To me I just think it would be fun to let my husbnad have this experience lol. not to say its for ever one though lol. ..

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Nov. 19, 2012 at 2:20 PM
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No not really, i didnt talk to guys on their(most were creeps), just girls,( we were wanting a girl to join) i mean there were some that acted interested, but only wanted to trade dirty photos(Im not into that), but i did find alot of women in my area that was interested. or you can try craigslist.......

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 19, 2012 at 2:23 PM

 

Quoting Anonymous:

No not really, i didnt talk to guys on their(most were creeps), just girls,( we were wanting a girl to join) i mean there were some that acted interested, but only wanted to trade dirty photos(Im not into that), but i did find alot of women in my area that was interested. or you can try craigslist.......

 I agree no one wants your pics sent out to abunch of people you dont know an not knowing whats going to happen with them! I mean we honestly want some one that isnt a friend or something because that makes my husband feel akward lol Thnks

mom2hadley
by Heather on Nov. 19, 2012 at 2:26 PM
I couldn't share my husband with anyone.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 19, 2012 at 2:28 PM

 

Quoting mom2hadley:

I couldn't share my husband with anyone.

 I couldnt on a regular basis I would not be okay with him having sex with some one else all the time or ever just him. I  couldnt handle him being in a relationship with any one else either but as far as a one time thing I think I could be fine with that one though.

potgieter
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 2:39 PM

dh and i were seriously considering it. We have a friend who was game and we were all sorted. 

then my husband looked at me and he told me he doesnt want to risk me feeling any sort of way after i see him f*ck someone else. He said that if we have a 3some, he will pay most of the attention to the other girl because she will be new and untried and he hasnt been with anyone else in so long, he wont be able to resist. So he asked me how I would feel if he payed most of the attention to her, how would I feel if she didnt pay enough attention to me, would I be able to handle being partially left out - seeing him finish in her.... 


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 19, 2012 at 2:42 PM

 my husband has already stated before when we talked about it he would still be more into me then any one else. An he wont finish in any one not even me lol no way he would risk any pregnancys even with a condom on lol.

Quoting potgieter:

dh and i were seriously considering it. We have a friend who was game and we were all sorted. 

then my husband looked at me and he told me he doesnt want to risk me feeling any sort of way after i see him f*ck someone else. He said that if we have a 3some, he will pay most of the attention to the other girl because she will be new and untried and he hasnt been with anyone else in so long, he wont be able to resist. So he asked me how I would feel if he payed most of the attention to her, how would I feel if she didnt pay enough attention to me, would I be able to handle being partially left out - seeing him finish in her.... 

 

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Nov. 19, 2012 at 2:46 PM
I'm kinda going threw the same thing I want a 3 sum so bad but no girl to have one with
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 19, 2012 at 2:48 PM

 lol well atleast im not the only one ! I understtand its not for every one but im pretty confident that my husband an I would be just fine afterwards lol. Weve  always been open to things because we know that niether of us are going any whre lol

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm kinda going threw the same thing I want a 3 sum so bad but no girl to have one with

 

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