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having some one else join your sex life?

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 Okay so pretty much Ive been thinking about giving my husband a 3 sum. Heres the thing years ago he had the chance to have one ( i had a friend of mine join) he could of had a three sum an he backed out an said he didnt want to go threw with it becuase it was a friend of mine an he didnt want me to think that he wanted her like that as any more then a one time three sum.

Okay well  in reality my husband only wants one once just to say he has done an to try something new. Which I do believe  because we'ev tried many things in an out of the bed room just once to say that we've tried them. ...  Any ways Ive really been thinking about trying to find some one to do this with for him but I wouldnt even know where to start any suggestions? Im sure people will bash but it isnt really going to change my mind , we've been together for years an I know he isnt going any where I would jsut like to give him that experience so he can say hes tryed it.  I would preefer it not be some one we know or close with maybe some one I could make my friend later on or just some one we see this one time I dont know but I dont even know where to start any ideas?

Thanks in advance , I will answer any questions any one has but doubtfull I will respond to any bashing jsut because im in a good mood to day an dont fell llike dealing with any thing negative. !

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:29 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:10 PM

 

Quoting Anonymous:

Are you uncomfortable with your marriage? Why outsource?

 Oh yeah were very content an comfortable with our realtionship . nothing he is pushing. We just thought maybe it wouuld be something new to try just once. just so we can say hey weve tried that . Weve tried alot of different things an some we continued to do sme we jsut did once.

potgieter
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:13 PM

if you are a needy person, can YOU handle it?


Quoting Anonymous:

 Luckly yes my husbnad has alot of control lol. He had the chance to have a 3 sum we had already got things started an he was ready to go but stoped an said he couldnt go threw with it lol. So Im not worried about control... lol.  He understands im a needy person so as far as keeping attention on me I think he could handle it lol.

Quoting potgieter:

He says that, but I dont think he would... I dont think any man who is willing to have a 3some would, in the moment, be able to be fair... thats just my and dh's opinion... 

though, as you know, its your opinion and if you choose to go through with it, I hope for your sake, your husband has more control than mine..... I know if it were another man, my husband would probably get neglected by me a little... 

Quoting Anonymous:

 my husband has already stated before when we talked about it he would still be more into me then any one else. An he wont finish in any one not even me lol no way he would risk any pregnancys even with a condom on lol.

Quoting potgieter:

dh and i were seriously considering it. We have a friend who was game and we were all sorted. 

then my husband looked at me and he told me he doesnt want to risk me feeling any sort of way after i see him f*ck someone else. He said that if we have a 3some, he will pay most of the attention to the other girl because she will be new and untried and he hasnt been with anyone else in so long, he wont be able to resist. So he asked me how I would feel if he payed most of the attention to her, how would I feel if she didnt pay enough attention to me, would I be able to handle being partially left out - seeing him finish in her.... 


 


 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:17 PM

 oh yeah Im sure I can handle it , mainly because I know he can handle my needs with out me saying any thing. That an mentally I would be well preped before going in to the situation (if that makes sense?) I know my husband loves me , I also know he wouldnt leave me for the world. In the past I put my husband threw some massive shit an I know if he didnt care he def wouldnt be here today. As far as us having a 3 sum it woulld be nothing more then that one night of sex to him... We have way more put into us then he would ruin for some random.. an believe me hes had his chances lol.

 

Quoting potgieter:

if you are a needy person, can YOU handle it?

 

Quoting Anonymous:

 Luckly yes my husbnad has alot of control lol. He had the chance to have a 3 sum we had already got things started an he was ready to go but stoped an said he couldnt go threw with it lol. So Im not worried about control... lol.  He understands im a needy person so as far as keeping attention on me I think he could handle it lol.

Quoting potgieter:

He says that, but I dont think he would... I dont think any man who is willing to have a 3some would, in the moment, be able to be fair... thats just my and dh's opinion... 

though, as you know, its your opinion and if you choose to go through with it, I hope for your sake, your husband has more control than mine..... I know if it were another man, my husband would probably get neglected by me a little... 

Quoting Anonymous:

 my husband has already stated before when we talked about it he would still be more into me then any one else. An he wont finish in any one not even me lol no way he would risk any pregnancys even with a condom on lol.

Quoting potgieter:

dh and i were seriously considering it. We have a friend who was game and we were all sorted. 

then my husband looked at me and he told me he doesnt want to risk me feeling any sort of way after i see him f*ck someone else. He said that if we have a 3some, he will pay most of the attention to the other girl because she will be new and untried and he hasnt been with anyone else in so long, he wont be able to resist. So he asked me how I would feel if he payed most of the attention to her, how would I feel if she didnt pay enough attention to me, would I be able to handle being partially left out - seeing him finish in her.... 

 

 

 

 

 

 

piratehooker
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 3:55 PM

I don't mean to offend but I am almost 40 and I have learned throughout my life so far that some risks just aren't worth taking.  You might view this totally different when you are 30 and regret it.  You said he was already aprehensive.  I would look at this as a blessing and focus on something else that you two would like to do together,  go outside the box in another sexual area. I just really believe it's not work it.  Me and my DH discussed this when we were together a few years and even though our curiosity is certainly peaked, it's nothing we would want to do due to the risk of damage (that you didn't mean to happen) to your relationship.  We were in our 30s when we met.  

Quoting Anonymous:

Im 23 an he is 25 weve been together since I was 16 an he was 19 . Weve been married 3 of those years. We have 2 kids (which had nothing to do with the subject lol) 

Quoting piratehooker:

If you don't mind me asking, how old are you?


Quoting Anonymous:

 


Quoting piratehooker:

This is just nasty. Improve your blow job skills, go to a sex shop and buy a swing. Make some porn.

 oh no weve done all those things. as far as blowjobs go I do damn good at those he can barely handle them lol. I just think maybe its more of something to try one time to say youve done it.


 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 19, 2012 at 4:00 PM

 lol no I dont take it to offense at all lol. The only reason ive borught it back up is because he is always teasing about it even after he had backed out the first time.  We've done alot of other stuff sexually, from making our own videos, to sex toys , to differnt places, positions, to porn ect.

If it was something thing he was intrested in going threw with I woud be okay with it but I would never preasure him into do it either justt as he wouldnt preasure me if that makes sense? but its not something I would make forbidden either . Im not sure if that made sense or not lol

Quoting piratehooker:

I don't mean to offend but I am almost 40 and I have learned throughout my life so far that some risks just aren't worth taking.  You might view this totally different when you are 30 and regret it.  You said he was already aprehensive.  I would look at this as a blessing and focus on something else that you two would like to do together,  go outside the box in another sexual area. I just really believe it's not work it.  Me and my DH discussed this when we were together a few years and even though our curiosity is certainly peaked, it's nothing we would want to do due to the risk of damage (that you didn't mean to happen) to your relationship.  We were in our 30s when we met.  

Quoting Anonymous:

Im 23 an he is 25 weve been together since I was 16 an he was 19 . Weve been married 3 of those years. We have 2 kids (which had nothing to do with the subject lol) 

Quoting piratehooker:

If you don't mind me asking, how old are you?


Quoting Anonymous:

 


Quoting piratehooker:

This is just nasty. Improve your blow job skills, go to a sex shop and buy a swing. Make some porn.

 oh no weve done all those things. as far as blowjobs go I do damn good at those he can barely handle them lol. I just think maybe its more of something to try one time to say youve done it.


 

 

 

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