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so embarrassing, I can't believe I assumed

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A few months ago I met a mom through my moms group. Its a Christian moms group, but open to moms of all faiths. This mom and I hit it off and today I invited her to attend mass with me. She looks at me odd like and says I hope you're not trying to convert me. I said I wasn't. She said you know Im muslim right? I said no. I just assumed she was Christian. But it makes sense. She was always asking religious questions that any Christian would know. But I thought it was because she's not from here. Anyway, im going to Juma? with her on Friday and she's coming to mass with me on Sunday. Im kinda looking forward to worshipping with her, but a bit nervous too. What can I expect? Should I buy a hijab to show respect?
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 19, 2012 at 5:56 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:33 PM
Where are the kids? Just curious:)


Quoting ABeautifulQadar:

Thats kind of weird that she didnt tell you LOL I am Muslim and yes I suggest wearing a hijab out of respect.I dont wear hijab everyday but I do when I go to mosque. It doesnt have to be overwhelming a simple scarf draped over the head is ok and most mosques have them for you to use. I converted and was really nervous too when I first went! The men and women are separated men pray in front and women in the back. This way men are not looking at us inappropiatly when we all pray. Are you just going to observe or participate in prayer?


NiceMom06
by Gold Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:36 PM
I haven't seen a lot people wearing jeans but do you have black pants. The turtle neck is fine. I like to hear the prayers , its nice to learn about different people. Relax and have fun with your nice friend.

Quoting Anonymous:

Its pretty cold here, so that shouldnt be a problem lol. Are jeans and a turtle neck ok?




Quoting NiceMom06:

yes , you need one and you can't wear short anything. You must be covered.Like no tank top or short sleeves.


My sister and kids are muslims, I have gone with them a couple of times.

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ABeautifulQadar
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:38 PM

My hijabs are nothing more than a beautiful scarf the square shaped ones work the best and buy a little safety pin and ask your friend to wrap it for you. I still wrap horribly so my sister in law and bff wrapped me for my wedding :)

Honestly learning the Muslim prayers isnt an overnight thing. I was a new convert when I met my husband and he taught me how to pray. I would pray behind him and follow his lead and he spoke the prayer out loud in Arabic as they will do in the mosque. When I started praying alone I said the english translation. You can try to follow but it involves a lot of prostrating and getting up and down. Have you ever seen a Muslim pray? We pray 5x a day and each prayer has a different number of prostrations. You should perform wudu before you enter the mosque and before you pray. Its a way that we wash. Just ask your friend to show you :)

If you have the time watch this video and enjoy your visit to the mosque :)

Quoting Anonymous:

I would love to buy one to keep, a nice pretty one with the pretty pin. I didn't realize I could just observe. I think that would be weird, i would love to participate. Are there certain prayers I should know? Will it be in English or Arabic? I know there are certain prayers we say in Latin, sorry if im asking a ton of questions.


Quoting ABeautifulQadar:

Thats kind of weird that she didnt tell you LOL I am Muslim and yes I suggest wearing a hijab out of respect.I dont wear hijab everyday but I do when I go to mosque. It doesnt have to be overwhelming a simple scarf draped over the head is ok and most mosques have them for you to use. I converted and was really nervous too when I first went! The men and women are separated men pray in front and women in the back. This way men are not looking at us inappropiatly when we all pray. Are you just going to observe or participate in prayer?



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Peytonsmom6308
by Gold Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:41 PM
I have to say I have no idea about Muslims or anything but I know that there are several very nice Muslim women on here that are great at answering questions! So here's a bump.
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ABeautifulQadar
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:44 PM

Yes I cant believe I forgot to tell you to dress modestly too lol try to avoid anything too tight and make sure your legs and arms are covered to ankles and wrists. I have seen women in jeans in my mosque. I wear an abaya when I go. This pic is from our wedding celebration at home but this is what I would wear with hijab.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:44 PM
Thanks. I know next to nothing about islam. But I like learning about different religions. I hope she'll teach me enough that I won't be uncomfortable. In the catholic church we do a lot of kneeling, standing, kneeling again so im used to that. I didn't even think to youtube anything. Thanks.


Quoting ABeautifulQadar:

My hijabs are nothing more than a beautiful scarf the square shaped ones work the best and buy a little safety pin and ask your friend to wrap it for you. I still wrap horribly so my sister in law and bff wrapped me for my wedding :)

Honestly learning the Muslim prayers isnt an overnight thing. I was a new convert when I met my husband and he taught me how to pray. I would pray behind him and follow his lead and he spoke the prayer out loud in Arabic as they will do in the mosque. When I started praying alone I said the english translation. You can try to follow but it involves a lot of prostrating and getting up and down. Have you ever seen a Muslim pray? We pray 5x a day and each prayer has a different number of prostrations. You should perform wudu before you enter the mosque and before you pray. Its a way that we wash. Just ask your friend to show you :)

If you have the time watch this video and enjoy your visit to the mosque :)

Quoting Anonymous:

I would love to buy one to keep, a nice pretty one with the pretty pin. I didn't realize I could just observe. I think that would be weird, i would love to participate. Are there certain prayers I should know? Will it be in English or Arabic? I know there are certain prayers we say in Latin, sorry if im asking a ton of questions.





Quoting ABeautifulQadar:

Thats kind of weird that she didnt tell you LOL I am Muslim and yes I suggest wearing a hijab out of respect.I dont wear hijab everyday but I do when I go to mosque. It doesnt have to be overwhelming a simple scarf draped over the head is ok and most mosques have them for you to use. I converted and was really nervous too when I first went! The men and women are separated men pray in front and women in the back. This way men are not looking at us inappropiatly when we all pray. Are you just going to observe or participate in prayer?





Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:46 PM
Glad to see you are wearing makeup, cause I always wear a bit of eyeliner. Lol


Quoting ABeautifulQadar:

Yes I cant believe I forgot to tell you to dress modestly too lol try to avoid anything too tight and make sure your legs and arms are covered to ankles and wrists. I have seen women in jeans in my mosque. I wear an abaya when I go. This pic is from our wedding celebration at home but this is what I would wear with hijab.


kissmiss213
by Platinum Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:49 PM

i think you just need to have your head covered, and i dont think you wear your shoes, and usually women and men are seperated, but i dont know how conservative her place is, so just ask :) i would love to take my kids to different places of worship, but i dont know anyone here that isnt christian (very small town), and i would feel awkward just walking into the temple (we only have one and no mosque),lol.

ABeautifulQadar
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:50 PM

I was Catholic before I converted :) When I go to the mosque I dont wear makeup or nail polish but youre not Muslim so some light makeup is ok!

ABeautifulQadar
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:51 PM

Thank you for reminding me lol we can wear shoes in the mosque, but not in the prayer area

Quoting kissmiss213:

i think you just need to have your head covered, and i dont think you wear your shoes, and usually women and men are seperated, but i dont know how conservative her place is, so just ask :) i would love to take my kids to different places of worship, but i dont know anyone here that isnt christian (very small town), and i would feel awkward just walking into the temple (we only have one and no mosque),lol.


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