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so embarrassing, I can't believe I assumed

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A few months ago I met a mom through my moms group. Its a Christian moms group, but open to moms of all faiths. This mom and I hit it off and today I invited her to attend mass with me. She looks at me odd like and says I hope you're not trying to convert me. I said I wasn't. She said you know Im muslim right? I said no. I just assumed she was Christian. But it makes sense. She was always asking religious questions that any Christian would know. But I thought it was because she's not from here. Anyway, im going to Juma? with her on Friday and she's coming to mass with me on Sunday. Im kinda looking forward to worshipping with her, but a bit nervous too. What can I expect? Should I buy a hijab to show respect?
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 19, 2012 at 5:56 PM
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ABeautifulQadar
by on Dec. 1, 2012 at 8:36 PM

I know I dont understand converting for someone else it needs to be in your heart. I met my husband a couple months after I converted so when I tell ppl I recently converted they think it was for him I guess they dont realize that Muslim men can marry Muslim, Jewish and Christian women because those religions are all descendents of Abraham. Its Muslim women who can only marry a Muslim man. It has to do with keeping the children Muslim and the rights that we have in Islam that can only truley be enforced by a Muslim man.

What was your religion before converting?

Quoting Momof5kids84:

Cool. It's refreshing to hear of someone that converts for a reasons not related to a man. Don't take that the wrong way. I became LDS after marrying my husband, but I studied the religion and went through several missionary teaching sessions before I converted. I love meeting new people.

Quoting ABeautifulQadar:

I actually went from Catholic to atheist before I converted. Crazy I know. I had been through a horrible event in my life and had a horrible experience with the Catholic church and I just turned away from God instead of realizing at first it was the religion I had an issue with. I had a serious relationship with a Muslim man who wasnt very religious but I was curious about his beliefs so I started studying the religion and continued even after the relationship ended and as I read I fell in love with the religion and was able to regain my faith in God again.

Quoting Momof5kids84:

I mean this with absolutely no disrespect, but why did you convert?



Quoting ABeautifulQadar:

I was Catholic before I converted :) When I go to the mosque I dont wear makeup or nail polish but youre not Muslim so some light makeup is ok!



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Momof5kids84
by on Dec. 1, 2012 at 9:26 PM
I was not baptized into any religion. My mom and dad occasionally went to Baptist churches, but it was never a regular thing. I met my husband, who was inactive, and we married and we got pregnant. I wanted to raise my children in a church with a strong belief in God. We tried many churches, but nothing really fit. So, out of curiousity, I asked him what church he attended. He said that he grew up LDS. So, we went to a ward where we lived. It was really weird and foreign to me, but it was comfortable. It didn't become a spiritual experience for me until several months later.

Do Muslims believe in the 12 tribes of Isreal? My understanding of the Quran, I'm never sure how to spell it, is limited. I briefly studied it in a world history class in college.


Quoting ABeautifulQadar:

I know I dont understand converting for someone else it needs to be in your heart. I met my husband a couple months after I converted so when I tell ppl I recently converted they think it was for him I guess they dont realize that Muslim men can marry Muslim, Jewish and Christian women because those religions are all descendents of Abraham. Its Muslim women who can only marry a Muslim man. It has to do with keeping the children Muslim and the rights that we have in Islam that can only truley be enforced by a Muslim man.

What was your religion before converting?

Quoting Momof5kids84:

Cool. It's refreshing to hear of someone that converts for a reasons not related to a man. Don't take that the wrong way. I became LDS after marrying my husband, but I studied the religion and went through several missionary teaching sessions before I converted. I love meeting new people.



Quoting ABeautifulQadar:

I actually went from Catholic to atheist before I converted. Crazy I know. I had been through a horrible event in my life and had a horrible experience with the Catholic church and I just turned away from God instead of realizing at first it was the religion I had an issue with. I had a serious relationship with a Muslim man who wasnt very religious but I was curious about his beliefs so I started studying the religion and continued even after the relationship ended and as I read I fell in love with the religion and was able to regain my faith in God again.

Quoting Momof5kids84:

I mean this with absolutely no disrespect, but why did you convert?





Quoting ABeautifulQadar:

I was Catholic before I converted :) When I go to the mosque I dont wear makeup or nail polish but youre not Muslim so some light makeup is ok!



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Anonymous
by Anonymous 12 on Dec. 1, 2012 at 10:16 PM

You sound like a bigot. 

Quoting mahasin510:

Please dont be sorry. I sound like a bigot or did I hit a nerve? Just asking questions and making observations

Quoting Anonymous:

Im sorry. You sound like a bigot.


Quoting Anonymous:

Muslims are not the only one that suffer discrmination. Disabled individuals,skinny,obese,people of color,height challenged etc experience bias. Why do Muslims feel they have a special case?immigrant muslims usually cluster in the cultural groups and sometimes shun converts. I work with several muslim women and the indians stay together,and I never see them with the converts especially the women from Costa Rica. I see Muslims selling alcohol,pork and cigarettes in poor minority communities. Then they have the audacity to protest any slight they receive. They send millions of dollars back home,but they don't help the communities they poison. But they want to cry a river about how people are biased against.yes, like in any religion there are good and bad.



Quoting Anonymous:

I am not Muslim,just asking. Muslims aren't the only ones discriminated against.Gay people and people of color face the same thing.But if you truly believe,you will trust God and just do it.its fabric I just don't understand. This is just an excuse





Quoting WLNL0507:

It's called having different levels of faith, which Allah has described. Even our Prophets were tested in their faith. BeautifulQadar is like a brand new baby in the religion as a new convert. As with ANY life change, it is a learning process. She believes in Islam and feels it in her heart as the true faith of God. This is MOST important. After she declares her faith, everything else will come in its time. Allah knows her intentions and He is the only one who can truly judge anyone. You can NOT pick and choose what you want in Islam and if she never descides to wear hijab then yes she will be held accountable for that. Living in this country, it is extremely hard to wear hijab. I've been wearing it for 12 years and I still struggle. Not because I don't want to wear it but because of the ignorant glares and comments from people. If you need to work, it's a battle to get a job because the first thing they see when you walk in is your hijab. So, it's not easy. As a Muslim we should NOT judge anyone else because we do not know what their struggles are.

Quoting Anonymous:

I know it is your choice, but I have heard so much about Muslim women dressing modestly, not showing their hair to certain males etc. IF the Holy Quran commands it and you disobey, then yes you have committed a sin. Just because others dont follow the command doesnt make it ok. you make Islam look like a buffet religion-I'll do a little of this, skip that and I think I will practice that. Why have you decided not to wear hijab? Oh and I know it is between you and Allah, but you put it out there to be questioned.

Quoting ABeautifulQadar:

Its our choice. We are commanded in the Holy Quran to cover but not every Muslim woman does. Visit countries like Morocco and Egypt and there are plenty of Muslim women without one and wearing makeup. Is it a sin? Yes and Inshallah one day I will wear a hijab but right now I am not and its between me and God.







Quoting Anonymous:

Why don't you have on a scarf and  your neck is showing. Also I thought Muslim women didnt wear makeup

Quoting ABeautifulQadar:

Yes I cant believe I forgot to tell you to dress modestly too lol try to avoid anything too tight and make sure your legs and arms are covered to ankles and wrists. I have seen women in jeans in my mosque. I wear an abaya when I go. This pic is from our wedding celebration at home but this is what I would wear with hijab.







babyblue415
by champagne on Dec. 1, 2012 at 11:31 PM

 I never once said that all muslims are terrorists. Also I grew up in Sweden. yeah I'm a full blooded swedish person. not that that has something to do with it but in Sweden is full of muslims and i went to school with tons of muslims yeah i was chillin with most of them. Thing is, shit is personal for me. All muslim claim that their religion is so peaceful,and we all know thats bullshit so dont even give me that shit. Again, my point is that yeah all them muslim people wanna come to sweden and act like now we have to become muslim like motherfucker u wanna be muslim a 100 % then stay in your muslim country. oh wait ya killing people like crazy over there, i thought u said ti was peaceful. wanna come over to our country and be like bitch follow my muslim rules and respect my rules but yet we are now not aloud to sing our national song no more because "we are racist" ? like bitch we let ya in to our country and ya tryna take over... at the end of the day. Fuck ya'll and yeah i have no problem with muslims and they wanna follow our rules but god forbid i go to a muslim country and be like now all ya gonna turn christians lol ya fucking crazy man...

Quoting Momof5kids84:

You sound so very uneducated. I am Mormon, and I understand what lack of respect feels like. Trust me, it stems mostly from misinformation and ignorance. Most Muslims are not terrorists or extremists.

Quoting babyblue415:

 My point is that muslim people want everybody to respect them but as soon as it comes to them respecting other people its a no go. i hate that shit. if i go to a muslim country then i have to wear a hijab or they would probably stone me to death but if they go to another county is like who gives a shit i'm muslim and you will have to do what i say basically. and they wanna talk about some peaceful shit motherfucker  show me respect and i'll give it back other than that u can go chocke on dick


Quoting ABeautifulQadar:

Why would wearing a hijab be disrespectful? Women who wear hijab wear it everywhere even in a church or temple. And in a mosque all Muslim women have to wear hijab. Not sure if non Muslims asked too in every mosque.


Quoting babyblue415:


 is she wearing a hijab? will she take hers off to show respec for you?


 

 

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