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what would you do...advice opinions please

Anonymous
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im in a dilemma and I need advice from others.

IF you could choose which would you do.

move to family farm and live next door to a sibling that you hate and is only greedy and takes and causes friction.....but you could live in a home free only paying utilities and be allowed to take over the farm land and use it such as in gardening, hay, cleaning up the woods, etc.

or

move far away and be free from all of the tension but lose on ever getting any land in the future when my parents die and it all go to the sibling that is the problem which they would eventually sell.

this has been in the family for over 50 years.

am i being too stubborn or should I stand my ground and demand my fair share?

what would you do? is it worth it to literally fight for the land?

thanks

i want serious answers!

 

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:55 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:56 PM

I'd do option 1, but sell after the parents pass on.

mommy_me
by ~The Three B's~ on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:56 PM

 That is tough. If the land is worth it, fight for it.

But if not, I wouldnt waste my life living around someone who makes me miserable

FL2AK
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:57 PM

I would move on and make a life for my family away from the chaos.  There is no way I would raise my kids around a hateful relative.

emeraldangel2.0
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:59 PM


Quoting FL2AK:

I would move on and make a life for my family away from the chaos.  There is no way I would raise my kids around a hateful relative.

this. land or money isn't worth happiness


pittiesmom
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 9:00 PM
I'd move to the farm and put up a big fence and get large dogs to ward off evil relatives.
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D.O.E.
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 9:03 PM

we were in pretty much the same situation, guess who ISN'T living on the farm?

me and dh can make our OWN lives in our OWN home, which is much more satisfactory than living on land and in a house which isn't ours, and where his family would always look down on us for being there.

do what is best for your family, but remember, the easy road isn't always the best road. sometimes it is the road which is harder, and less traveled, which is the best route and brings the best surprises in life.

jbirdsladie27
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 9:04 PM
Can't you put up a fence? LOL

I'd let him know he's NOT welcome & you want no contact & do deal # 1
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XJetX
by Gold Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 9:05 PM
Take the farm. I'd rather live off the land anyways.
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megm11511
by Silver Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 9:07 PM
Take the farm. That's my and dh's dream lol
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onethentwins
by Platinum Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 9:10 PM

I'd go with option 2.

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