So my friend texted me this morning saying she found weed in her fiance's truck. (Just enough maybe to make one joint. She found it in a baggie and also found papers) She was all like I'm done, idk how much more I can take. I asked if she confronted him yet and she said no that he was sleeping. I told her not to blow up at him and when she finally calmed down, talk to him. She said no and that she's done. She asked if she could stay here tonight but I'm going to the movies so I won't be home until late and she said she would just go to her sisters. I then texted her and said that if it were me, I would just talk to him but I wouldn't be too upset. I mean yeah, he hid it from you but I don't see the issue. I guess I'm a little more understanding. Not saying I'd be ok with hubby doing it every night or day but every once in a while, I wouldn't care. Well, she texted me saying she flushed the weed down the toilet and said once he gets up she's telling him to get the hell out or she would.
I don't see why she has to blow up like this (she does it all the time over the littlest things)...I just think when you've been in a relationship for a long time and you are planning on marrying this person, sit down and talk about it! Ask questions. This guy is a damn good guy to her. I love my friend but she's not perfect. She's real needy and nags him all the time, not to mention her kids are bad as hell and one is highly special needs. He watches them when she works and bends over backwards for her...maybe he needs the weed to deal with it all. And weed isn't that bad...at least it isn't something worse!
I just think she's just jumpimg to conclusions too fast and is messing up a good thing. I hate seeing her down, saying how she hates her life and she's never gonna be happy, she'll be single forever...
Do you think she's overreacting? How would you handle it if it were you in her position?
on Nov. 20, 2012 at 8:08 AM