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my six year old isnt having christmas this year *edit*

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We have the money, and even had the toys, but she has always gotten what she has wanted and this year her ungratefulness for everything she owns and gets is has shown... for her birthday she got a dsi from her daddy and a bunch of other toys, but she wanted to open the gifts I got her and I told her to wait til later... I told her I will bring them out later that night because I wanted to give her time to play with her toys from her dad. While I was outside bringing in groceries, she went in the closet and got her toys out anyways. I called her dad and I took all her toys for the week. It broke my heart but she needed to learn a lesson and thought she did but appearantly not...

We have spent over 800 dollars for christmas presents and I had them in my closet. Noone is allowed in my room but everytime I went in my room today, the closet door was opened so I suspected she did it so tonight I sent her in there to put something away and went in after she was done and again the door was open so I confronted her, and she admitted to opening the door to see her gifts... I asked her what all she saw because I was just going to take those gifts and give them to the less fortunate children but she refused to answer so I took all but four small little gifts and brought them out, showed them to her, and explained she wasn't getting them... we took them to the police station, and I had her drop some of them off in the box of toys for tots, and we got back in our car and went home... when we come back from our vacation, Monday she is going to take the rest back to the store and get the money and buy gifts for her sister and other people...

All she is left with is four little toys with stockinng stuffers and everytime she goes back in the closet a toy will get taken and given to someone who will appreciate it...

My two year old is still having christmas and she will still have all the toys we bought her but my six year old is going to learn a lesson the hard way... it breaks my heart but I refuse to have a spoiled brat

Edit:
Well got to go to bed... we have to be up in a couple hours to go out of town for thanksgiving...

But I do want to say one thing... it is kinda funny how I posted the same thing on my fb status and got a different... everyone was all for what I was doing including my family.
I am not doing this to be mean or hateful or to take christmas away from my child... I am doing this to teach her a valuable lessons, and no this is not what normal six year olds do. That is not what I remember growing up and that is not what I want my kids to do... I have rules and I expect them to be obeyed and if they are broken then there will be consequences nomatter if it is christmas or not... she broke my rules and now she has to deal with the consequences. She still has toys, it is just not as much as she would have had..

I am not here to be her friend... I am here to be her mother . And although this hurts me, I have to follow through and I will because she has to learn this lesson.. she willingly did this knowing the consequences for her actions, and now I have to follow through with what I said and punish her so maybe next time this won't happen...

Goodnight ladies... I have to be up in four hours
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by on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:13 AM
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areyouatroll
by on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:20 AM
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I do not agree with you.
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by Anonymous on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:23 AM

i think that was more her being excited for christmas..

DS is getting spoiled.. keeps wanting more than what he got, not appreciating what he's given, etc... so this year, yea -he's not getting many toys. he knows why too and maybe next year, he'll be more deserving of it. as far as i'm concerned, presents are about things you DESERVE- not things you are entitled to... if your behavior deems you dont respect/appreciate your current items, you shouldnt get more to disrespect.

melakay1981
by Platinum Member on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:23 AM
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 I am a little biased right now but hear me out.  I am not saying that what you are doing is 100% wrong but what if something where to happen to her in the next year (god forbid).  Would you be able to live with yourself next Christmas?  The only reason I say this is my daughter was diagnosed with brain cancer over the summer and before she went in for surgery the Dr told us that there was a high possibility that she could bleed out on the table.  She was a perfectly healthy 10 year old up until that day.  She made it though a surgery that she shouldn't have with no complications whatsoever, thank god.  I still sit in fear every single day that something could happen to her.  Just wanted to bring it to your attention how fast your life can change.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:24 AM
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 i agree with this. I think she is going overboard a little. I don't know how many time when i was small i would see the gifts under the tree and try to rip the paper in a spot where my parents wouldn't see just to see if i could get a peak at what was in it.My kids don't know where i hide the gifts and i also put a lock on my closet door just to be safe.

Quoting moosesmom:

I'm sure there's more to this. You live with her and I don't. But all I read about was an eager child who couldn't wait to see her gifts. The anticipation was killing her!! Lol.

 

Mrs.Pedro
by Gold Member on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:24 AM
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Why would you not give her all her birthday stuff at once? That's just odd to me since I've never heard of it. I would be mad she didn't listen to me, but I never would have withheld her gifts in the first place...

I admit to peeking at my toys and stuff for Christmas. Didn't ruin my happiness on Christmas morning, and my mom was just happy that I was happy. None of that ever made me spoiled and I fail to see how any of what you described as being ungrateful... If anything it just sounds like she's super excited for Christmas and disrespectful of your wishes since she didn't want to wait like you asked or not peek like you asked.
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newmom2009
by on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:25 AM
I agree on one hand. Yes she may be just "a kid" but shes also old enough to understand right and wrong. Now heres a question..after the first time you noticed the closet door open did you confront her? Did you tell her ok this is whats going to happen if you go snooping again? Because lets be realistic, kids are nosey especially about presents. If you didn't and just took her presents away then I don't agree.
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uriahadel
by Platinum Member on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:25 AM
Yea there is more to it... from the time she was really little, she never showed gratitude for anything, and she never smiles or is happy when she receives anything, and I thought that was just her personality, but this year it really started showing, and when I took her gifts away on her birthday, it didn't bother her... tonight when I took them and made her take them to the police station, it didn't bother her... I think it bothers me more then it does her... I honestly don't think she believes I will go through with it, but I am, and on christmas it is going to break her heart and that is when it is going to hit the fan... it is already breaking my heart but I know I have to go through with this... my other child is very grateful for everything she gets but my oldest is and has never been grateful


Quoting moosesmom:

I'm sure there's more to this. You live with her and I don't. But all I read about was an eager child who couldn't wait to see her gifts. The anticipation was killing her!! Lol.

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SavdNSanctified
by Platinum Member on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:28 AM
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She's 6. She's eager for Christmas. I don't know a single person that didn't try to find their gifts when they were kids.

I don't agree with what you did, and I don't think it's a good idea to use donations as punishments. Donating things is supposed to be a positive thing that your child is encouraged to do. Not a punishment.

Give the poor kid a Christmas, buy a lock for your door, and don't spend $800 on one kid and then wonder why she acts spoiled.
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il0vemyb0yz
by on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:28 AM
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i think its fair. all you people who dont think its ok ho do u suggest it is handles cause ill i c is telling her how fucked up she is. do u think she should give it to her anyway? let her do what she wants? i agree with you mama i think its perfectly ok to teach your kid to be grateful that way and its ok that you let her get spoiled thats what you do whith your children just try to make sure she is spoiled with manners and respect

TAG_ur_it
by Platinum Member on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:28 AM
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meh.   i've been fighting with my kids to clean their room for weeks now.  mommy got fed up and told them that every day that i had to fight with them to get it done and they still didn't do anything, i would take $20 out of their christmas budget. DS gets $150 and the girls get $125.  SD isn't here yet, so she'll still get the full amount, but my 2 are losing theirs pretty quickly.

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