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How long could you stay in a sexless relationship/ marriage?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
Before you couldn't take it anymore and decided to leave?
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 21, 2012 at 7:47 AM
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by on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:03 PM

I think you should have directed your question to only those who have dealt w/ this issue, because obviously people who haven't been in this situation do not 'get it.'

by Anonymous 28 on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:04 PM

I have been in a sexless marriage for several years and I'm fine with it. DH, eh, probably not so much, but I think he's too much of a wuss to leave me over it. I've told him to get it elsewhere, don't know if he is or not & don't care.

by Anonymous 29 on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:10 PM
I just got out of a very passionate sex filled relationship. Everything in the bedroom was great... but he was a closet alcoholic and cant take responsibility for his actions or for himself. Yes the sex was off the hook but there has got to be more to a relationship than sex.
Get some toys and take care of yourself before you do something youll probably regret later.
by Gold Member on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:12 PM
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Quoting sweetieiv:

It sounds like lack of sex is a minor problem,y'all have major relationship issues and trying to fix them can't only fall on your shoulders and for being as young as the two of you are for basically having to beg for sex is just one more nail in the coffin of your relationship. I agree you should probably leave. My DH and I have been married for almost 12 years and together for 14. We made an agreement since the begining of our relationship that if one of us wanted sex we would never turn the other down for sex and for 14 years not one time have either of us said no,nor acted like hurry up and get it over. So my husband is one man who has never been told no,I have a headache or i'm to tired. You sound like no amount of toe curling sex would help your relationship.I'm sorry that you are going through this and if you ever need to talk message me.

Good Luck
by on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:14 PM

Until death does us part. Sex is not everything (or even the main thing) in my marriage. I love my DH. 

by Gold Member on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:19 PM


Quoting MamatoKy:

 I couldnt. I'd probably leave. but then again, I am not married sooooo


by on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:19 PM

I got pregnant with DD and it seemed like once I got pregnant with her DH just didn't want anything to do with me sexually unless he was drunk. After I had her, he never touched me. I can count on one hand how many times we had sex during our marriage. We were married for 3 years before I finally had enough.

by on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:20 PM

I wouldn't leave.  Marriage, to me, means a lot more than sex.

by Anonymous 30 on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:21 PM

same here.... but its been 10 days since we last had sex... i need it to have that closeness, that intimacy... without it, i feel as if he's nothing more than just a friend who keeps hogging the blankets and the bed-- which is annoying. i like having that stress reliever- so when he DOES hog stuff, i'm okay with it cuz i'm sexually satisfied..

but he's not into it... he's not touching me, wanting to be with me. he'd rather watch porn, i suppose.

Quoting Anonymous:

We have had sex maybe 10 times or so in the past two years.

If it doesn't change, I will leave.

I've tried everything, seduction, communication and he says he still wants me but gives me all these excuses. I know he's not cheating.

I just I have to have that intimacy. Once a week I'd be happy.

by Anonymous 31 on Nov. 21, 2012 at 12:25 PM

Quoting Anonymous:

We have had sex maybe 10 times or so in the past two years.

First off, 10 times in two years is not a sexless marriage, many people I know have gone through periods where over a year has passed since the last time...

Secondly, if you are thinking of leaving him, but have only tried to address the issue of not enough sex for you, I think you need to look deeper and figure out what is really the problem.  Either sit down with your hubby and talk about how youa re feelign and ASK HIM if there is somethign else going on with your relationship that is not working for him. Also ask yourself if there is something more that is not working for you.  If you can't figure it out together, seek out a marriage counselor.

Why would you throw away a relationship if the only thing you miss is sex every week?  Perhaps you have some self-esteem issues that make you feel unloved if you are not having sex?  Maybe there is a loss of emotional connection between the two of you?  Maybe he is depressed and stressed out,and sohis libido is down due to more pressing and important issues?

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