why i prefer my committed relationship to marriage
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We've discussed marriage our entire 5 years together, but always come to the mutual conclusion that it isn't necessary.
Why not, you may ask? My question is: why so? For the financial reasons? Because society tells you that's what you're supposed to do? To make a man prove he loves you (even though many a marriage have failed regardless of that show of commitment)?
I feel like committed relationships are stronger than a lot of marriages are these days. In a committed relationship, neither party is legally bound to each other...they are bound by love and desire to be together. Either party could easily walk away at any time, without the legal hassle and dismantling of a "contract"...but they choose not to. Nobody in a committed relationship is stuck with a no longer desired spouse because they "can't afford a divorce". Nobody in a committed relationship is stuck in a loveless marriage forced to turn a blind eye to their spouse's indiscretions just because they "don't believe in divorce".
Look at the history of the conditions of marriage...who is or is not allowed to marry based on social class, race, sexual orientation, etc. I mean come on, if marriage is such a holy and god-given gift, why have humans put their own conditions on it?
Marriage always has been and always will be simply about money. A contract, if you will. Now instead of paying off your daddy for your hand with a few acres and a mule, your future husband is supposed to get a ring to show the world that he possesses you. And women have the audacity to bitch about the size, shape, type, and cost of their symbol of love? Please...it's simply about money. Sure, some marriages were based on love and have kept that basis alive, but plenty have dissipated because the focus was improper from the beginning.
I will never consider a marriage to carry more weight than a committed relationship. Ever.
Actually, if you are in a committed relationship and have any property or children together, when you split, you do have to go through a process much like a divorce to split the possessions, determine custody of a child, etc.
I have no problem with unmarried committed relationships, but from people I know who have split after many years, it can be just as difficult as a divorce.
i can see what you are saying about your personal relationship but you cant say all marriage is about money. i married my dh because he begged me to . on his knees. begged me to be with him forever. your SO is happy with his ability to walk at any time..... so whatever. :)
to me, marriage has never been about money, my marriage is about utual love and desire to be together. we wanted to be joined in every sense that we could be because of how committed we are and how much we love each other. you shouldn't take your assumptions about marriage and married couples and make then general statements. most married couples I know are happy and got married because they love each other and are still in love with each other. not some twisted married because of money and stayed in a loveless unfaithfull partnership
We get it! Marriage is just a piece of paper to you. Good grief!
I agree somewhat, marriage, committed relationships whatever, the bond that keeps people together should have nothing to do with paperwork or jewelry and is nobody's business but the two involved. I do think, however that saying marriage has always been about money is very disrespectful.
S/o What would you do if you found out your 17yo had sex?