Hi ladies, I have a friend at work who started living with us a month ago, she needed a place to go since her and her 2 kids were being evicted (single mom, couldn't afford rent for 2 mo.s because she had to fix her car), so we gladly took her in. One day we were discussing family and I told her how many siblings I have, told her about them and when I got to one of my brothers, he ears perked up. He is a single dad to 2 kids, but doesn't have a job, he's got a whole set of problems, can't hold down a job, has a 3rd grade reading level, pathological liar, unhygeinic, doesn't even have a car, the list goes on. He really needs to concentrate on himself and his kids tho, that's for sure. Well, I just found out last night that they were skyping, they've been talking via facebook for a while now, but I just found out yesterday. I warned my friend about him but she still seems interested. I really don't want her to get hurt by him, or vice versa. I love them both, but there's something I find very wrong here. I'm technically not suppose to know, DH found out everything from her (I was at work when she was skyping him) and she asked that he not tell me since she knows I told her off the bat it wouldn't be a good idea to talk to him. So now I partly feel betrayed and lied to because she told me she wouldn't talk to him, and he never said anything to me about it.
I moved states a while ago and I finally landed a job 6 months ago and I formed a friendship with her, she was my first and still one of my only friends here. I don't want this to hurt our friendship and I am trying not to kill my brother at this point. Its much more complicated than it sounds. So, what would you say to them? Thanks if anyone can help! :-)