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is this legal? update×2

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ok so i have a sd (17) will be 18 july 13th .i have a 3 year old and my husband is a truck driver hes only home for a day a week sometimes less .

in the end of march im going to england my dad and aunt are getting married and im taking my 3 year old with me .im going to be gone for a month i havent seen my family in over 2 years .

i cant take my sd with me not only can i not afford another 1400$ ticket she has her last bit of school before she graduates.

and because she has a history of blatant lying my family asked me to leave her home .il be staying with my mum .

right now sd  keeps telling me she will call cps for abondonment if i leave her for a month on her own (yes shes a bit of a drama llama and she hates me so she will do anything to piss me off ).

i want to know is that true can i get in trouble for leaving a almost 18 year old at home alone for a month even though her dad will be home every now and then ??? i googled it but i cant find what im looking for

anyone have any idea ? oh i live in missouri .



Update

OK so I called the cops and asked about the situation. Legally in my state
She is a adult at 17 so I wont get into trouble. But because she keeps whining about it I
Called dh and he's going to try to arrange something with either
SD friends family or sil.

Also just to clear this up my dad is not marrying my aunt they
Are marrying other people 3 weeks apart.

Also I'm sorry for my grammar and spelling I'm dyslexic. But I'm really trying to make this understandable so bear with me.

Update2

Sil has agreed to take SD for the time that I'm not home. Problem solved
Thanks to those that did not bash me.



Also I want to add I do love my SD. She's a mess and I dislike her behavior
But other wise she's a good kid.
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 21, 2012 at 9:24 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Nov. 21, 2012 at 10:21 PM

Well if it's legal in your state and she's a good kid then I'd think it was okay.....maybe have a friend stay over a few nights a week to check in on her.  She's not going to do anything nutty is she?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 21, 2012 at 10:23 PM

i cant wait... i feel so guilty for feeling that way but i seriously cant wait for her to leave shes a decent kid other than the lying but that is a huge cause of stress for me and causes problems with my marriage and family . right now half my dh family are not talking to me because they believe her bs they dont know me well enough to know that its not true and she took advantage of that fact ..cant wait till shes gone

Quoting opal10161973:

I bet you can't wait until she's 18.  She sounds like a charmer.  note: sarcasm

Quoting Anonymous:

yes she likes to remind me when ever she can that im legally nothing to do with her and i have no rights to her ...untill it suits her that is . same with the attitude of im a adult untill it suits her and then shes a innocent child .

she enjoys playing victim thats why shes making this out to be awful abuse already if i do leave .in july she called the cops because i interupted her eating a pop tart to go shopping witch she chose to leave at home she could have eaten it or took it with her  (she asked me to take her that morning to get some pizza rolls ) basically she lied to the cops caused a huge argument with me and said she hadent eaten all day .but i made her lunch about 2 hours before .i even showed the cop the plates in the sink .like i said any exscuse to piss me off and play victim .

Quoting opal10161973:

Isn't SD legally your DH's responsibility?  How could you get into trouble for that?  If someone is stopping in to visit with her regularly, I don't see how you could get into trouble at all.  She will be almost 18 at that point. 

OMG....  what I would have given at 17 to have the house to myself for a month.  Why does she not realise how great that is?




BShip2010
by Gold Member on Nov. 21, 2012 at 10:25 PM
Your dad and aunt are getting married?? Is that what we are trying to figure out if It's legal?
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smurfbitebug
by on Nov. 21, 2012 at 10:25 PM
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 well I'm going to be bashed to hell for this one. But... does it really matter?

If she calls CPS she will just be taken to a place that she likes much less than your place for the remaining months until she turns eighteen and then she'll be booted. So I would call her bluff, personally.

She is damn near an adult and should damn well be acting more like one by now. Bash away.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Nov. 21, 2012 at 10:25 PM

Check with your state laws, in my state, 17 is considered an adult. As long as you leave her with money and means to take care of herself, I believe it is legal. Being said, there is no way in hell I would leave a 17 year old in my home for a month by herself. Is there anyway you can find someone to stay with her, someone for her to stay with, or at least someone who can check on her? I would have LOVED my mom to have left me home for a month at 17, but I know I would have done some stupid crap during that month!

kikibix
by Platinum Member on Nov. 21, 2012 at 10:30 PM


Quoting smurfbitebug:

 well I'm going to be bashed to hell for this one. But... does it really matter?

If she calls CPS she will just be taken to a place that she likes much less than your place for the remaining months until she turns eighteen and then she'll be booted. So I would call her bluff, personally.

She is damn near an adult and should damn well be acting more like one by now. Bash away.

I totally agree. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 21, 2012 at 10:30 PM

yes i have a 3 year old and her aim is to get him removed she will use this to make me look like im a neglectful mother .and also just to complain to everyone how evil i am .which im not i dont think she even thinks about the possibilaty that she could be removed . i think she really just want me to be out of the picture maybe shes hoping i could get arrested over it idk .

Quoting smurfbitebug:

 well I'm going to be bashed to hell for this one. But... does it really matter?

If she calls CPS she will just be taken to a place that she likes much less than your place for the remaining months until she turns eighteen and then she'll be booted. So I would call her bluff, personally.

She is damn near an adult and should damn well be acting more like one by now. Bash away.


homeschoolx3
by on Nov. 21, 2012 at 10:33 PM
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Quoting Anonymous:

yes she likes to remind me when ever she can that im legally nothing to do with her and i have no rights to her ...untill it suits her that is . same with the attitude of im a adult untill it suits her and then shes a innocent child .

she enjoys playing victim thats why shes making this out to be awful abuse already if i do leave .in july she called the cops because i interupted her eating a pop tart to go shopping witch she chose to leave at home she could have eaten it or took it with her  (she asked me to take her that morning to get some pizza rolls ) basically she lied to the cops caused a huge argument with me and said she hadent eaten all day .but i made her lunch about 2 hours before .i even showed the cop the plates in the sink .like i said any exscuse to piss me off and play victim .

Quoting opal10161973:

Isn't SD legally your DH's responsibility?  How could you get into trouble for that?  If someone is stopping in to visit with her regularly, I don't see how you could get into trouble at all.  She will be almost 18 at that point. 

OMG....  what I would have given at 17 to have the house to myself for a month.  Why does she not realise how great that is?


One, I'm calling you out on your BS story, two sounds to me like it's YOU who likes to play the victim. Sounds to me like you plan on pulling a fast one, why else would you post "anonymously? Oh and btw they can and WILL haul you to jail if you should chose to leave a child by themself for a month, that's granted you are telling the truth.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 21, 2012 at 10:33 PM

looks like in my state she would be considerd an adult ...phew

Anonymous
by Anonymous 10 on Nov. 21, 2012 at 10:34 PM
Sure leave her home alone and when u come back she will be pregnant! She's still in hs and your house would become the party/orgy spot smh DON'T DO IT!
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