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OK so I always cook for Thanksgiving- by myself- and I go big. So this year my dads wife wanted to do thanksgiving and to be honest we don't have the money to buy all the food for the whole deal anyways- so I agreed. As Thanksgiving grew closer I started getting antsy about not being the one cooking. My dads wife is a HORRIBLE cook. This is not me being a bitch stepdaughter either- I like my dads wife but her cooking is so bad its offensive. So of course dh is NOT looking forward to going to eat bad food. I ask dads wife what I should bring- she says sweet potatoes and stuffing. Fine. Then she asks me if I can make gravy cause she doesn't know how and my dad said if she's making the mashed potatoes- he's going to need lots of gravy (ya even her own husband knows her cooking is bad). I make the most amazing mashed potatoes. Like so good that a 5 pound tray isn't enough for 6 people. So I'm itching to make them. Last night I was going to buy the stuff to make sweet potatoes and stuffing and dh says "you have to make mashed potatoes- I can't have a Thanksgiving without mashed potatoes or without good mashed potatoes- I spend all year looking forward to your potatoes and if i have to eat her garbage cooking I at least need good potatoes"

So I break down and make the potatoes (I make them the night before and bake them) . Now I feel bad. She wanted to make them. I was gonna disguise it as a"potato casserole" since they're in a baking dish and all and to be honest she's kind of dense but i don't think that will fool anyone and I don't wanna come off as bitchy or stepping on toes. Every year I go down to their house the Saturday after thanksgiving and cook Thanksgiving for my dad (they cant come to our Thanksgiving at our house because we have a cat and 2 dogs and they are both highly allergic) . 2 years ago my dad spent 100k remodeling her kitchen and I think she really wants to host a big meal in it without me doing all the cooking so im trying to decide if I should just not bring the potatoes and tell dh to suck it up or if I should bring them and hope she doesn't get offended.



Yes a whole post about mashed potatoes- its definitely Thanksgiving.
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 22, 2012 at 8:46 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Nov. 22, 2012 at 9:27 AM

Why do you only make mashed potatoes once a year?

The ingredients aren't seasonal.

Maevelyn
by Gold Member on Nov. 22, 2012 at 9:29 AM

well if you don't take them he has a whole dish to himself when he gets home. Why didn't you offer to help? Show her how it's done KWIM?

Maevelyn
by Gold Member on Nov. 22, 2012 at 9:30 AM

No, don't take them. Is the quality of the food really worth hurting her feelings?

Quoting Anonymous:

I wish but we had a whole conversation (like 3 actually) about how bad she wanted to make potatoes. I'm thinking of just heating the tray when we get home and letting dh go to town but I want to bring them sooooo bad.


Quoting Roxygurl:

Can you play dumb and say you thought you were supposed to bring the potatoes too?



If not keep them at the house and eat them when y'all get home.


aiyess
by Gold Member on Nov. 22, 2012 at 9:33 AM
Don't bring it because it will only hurt her feelings.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 22, 2012 at 9:34 AM
THESE mashed potatoes yes. They aren't exactly healthy and they take an excruciatingly long time to make and I just don't have that kind of time on my hands. We eat very clean and healthy 362 days a year but Thanksgiving is one of those 3 days of the year where I ignore all our usual eating preferences and go all out


Quoting Anonymous:

Why do you only make mashed potatoes once a year?

The ingredients aren't seasonal.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 22, 2012 at 9:36 AM
No. I'm not going to bring them. If anything I'll play dumb to dh-"oops I completely forgot the potatoes at home- my bad"


Quoting Maevelyn:

No, don't take them. Is the quality of the food really worth hurting her feelings?

Quoting Anonymous:

I wish but we had a whole conversation (like 3 actually) about how bad she wanted to make potatoes. I'm thinking of just heating the tray when we get home and letting dh go to town but I want to bring them sooooo bad.





Quoting Roxygurl:

Can you play dumb and say you thought you were supposed to bring the potatoes too?





If not keep them at the house and eat them when y'all get home.




weezer_cookie
by Platinum Member on Nov. 22, 2012 at 9:36 AM
Sounds like you shouldnt bring them. Can you show up early to help her in the kitchen? I know good cook or bad, having an extra set of hands is always nice.

Quoting Anonymous:

I wish but we had a whole conversation (like 3 actually) about how bad she wanted to make potatoes. I'm thinking of just heating the tray when we get home and letting dh go to town but I want to bring them sooooo bad.




Quoting Roxygurl:

Can you play dumb and say you thought you were supposed to bring the potatoes too?





If not keep them at the house and eat them when y'all get home.

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bluemountain75
by SoftballMom on Nov. 22, 2012 at 9:38 AM
Either play dumb or don't bring them. Have some respect for the poor woman. She's trying and it might hurt her feelings. Idk
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Nov. 22, 2012 at 9:39 AM
just say you got confused and made the mashed potatoes then realized what you did so you made the sweet potatoes casserole too and you didnt know what to do with the mashed so you brought them too!
iamcafemom83
by Ruby Member on Nov. 22, 2012 at 9:40 AM
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Honestly...I would let her do her thing. Don't bring the potatoes. It is Thanksgiving, but I think that if she wants to cook and host, you should e a good guest by appreciating all she has done. Even if it tastes horrible, so what? You are spending time with your family. The food should be the accent. Not the main show. At least for this year:)

Leave the potatoes at home. Twofold, you will not insult your gracious host and you will have something yummy for later.

Just my opinion.
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