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The audacity!!!

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
I got on the site wishuponahero and looked for people that needed help in my city. I found a single mom that needed clothes for her kids. I contacted her and it turns out she's homeless. She has a 2 month old and a 6 year old and she lost her 6 month old last year due to a heart condition.
We go to my moms on Thanksgiving and everyone is welcome. Well, I asked her if she wanted to go. She said yes, that was a couple weeks ago.
She started texting me asking me if I was going to pick her up Wednesday. I kept telling her no, we're having it on Thanksgiving which is Thursday. She said ok, then she would ask again the next day.
Finally on Tuesday I said I'd pick her up if she wanted to help me cook. She said yes.
So yesterday I went and picked her up, we came back to my house and she fell asleep while nursing her son, I understand that.
When she woke up she didn't help. Dh got home and we were talking and he asked her if she wanted to stay here until she got on her feet again, she said she would like that.
Well around 8:45 last night (15 minutes before ds gets his bath) she asked us to drive her somewhere and drop her off.
Ok, so we did. Well she takes us to this one house where this guy owes her money because she used her fs to buy him food. He wasn't there so she has us drive her somewhere else. On the way to the other house she asks if we will babysit her son so she can go out drinking.
Abso-fucking-lutely not! No. Nope. Sorry boutcha bad luck, lady but NO!
So we drop her off and instantly she starts texting and calling me, asking if she left something in the car. Nope, sure didn't.
Just now she texts me and asks if she can stay with us.
WTF?! No! That offer was before we knew she was a raging alcoholic! We don't drink, at all, we lead a very safe life for our son, we try to set good examples for him.
Ugh!
Dh will get a laugh out of this one! I didn't text her back, I don't even know what to say!!
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 22, 2012 at 11:40 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 22, 2012 at 11:50 AM
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I do lead a safe, drug free, alcohol free, healthy food, clothing, shelter, loving life for him. I was taught to help the less fortunate. I want him to know the same.


Quoting DaiTilley:

You don't lead a very safe life for your son if you impulsively invite a homeless person whom you don't even know to live with you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 22, 2012 at 11:50 AM
Wow what a slap in the face for offering a helping hand!
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 22, 2012 at 11:52 AM
Sounds like she is into drugs too... Wouldnt doubt it
evelynolivesmom
by Gold Member on Nov. 22, 2012 at 11:52 AM

 She's homeless for a reason. Those poor kids. I wouldn't pick her up either.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 22, 2012 at 11:54 AM
Yea and last night dh was like "promise me you won't do this anymore, k?"
It sucks when people do stuff like that, I feel so horribly for her son.
Her 6 year old is in another state with her family.


Quoting Anonymous:

Wow what a slap in the face for offering a helping hand!

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 22, 2012 at 11:54 AM
Idk if I could turn my back on her. I think I would have a real long talk with her and tell her the offer still stands, and that we expect her to not drink at any time as long as she is staying with us, and that we expect her to look for a job and put away so much for a place and whatnot. I couldn't throw two kids back out on the street. :/
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 22, 2012 at 11:55 AM
Yea. :( her 6 year old is in another state with her family. She fixed her baby a bottle and was propping it up so she could go outside and have a cigarette and I decided to hold the bottle. I had to take it away because it was burning my hand through the bottle! That poor baby had to have been getting burnt!


Quoting evelynolivesmom:

 She's homeless for a reason. Those poor kids. I wouldn't pick her up either.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Nov. 22, 2012 at 11:57 AM
I know. If I had it my way I would do that. I'd tell her she can stay if she doesn't drink, she has to apply and get a job and ill give her a ride. She has to apply for daycare assistance. She would have to stay in the house and not go out drinking and being stupid.
I just don't think dh is going to go for it at all. Her 6 year old isn't in her custody, he is in another state with her family but her 2 month old is with her.


Quoting Anonymous:

Idk if I could turn my back on her. I think I would have a real long talk with her and tell her the offer still stands, and that we expect her to not drink at any time as long as she is staying with us, and that we expect her to look for a job and put away so much for a place and whatnot. I couldn't throw two kids back out on the street. :/

DaiTilley
by Gold Member on Nov. 22, 2012 at 11:57 AM
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Regardless of how healthy YOUR lifestyle is, inviting someone in whom you don't know is potentially inviting in very unhealthy factors; if you invite a crackhead to live with you, you are putting your child in the position of living with a crackhead. You don't know this woman. She could be an alcoholic, a drug addict, a violent criminal...
We do a LOT of volunteer work, tithe 10% of our income and donate to charities on top of that, but I would never put my son in harm's way by bringing someone I don't know into my home.


Quoting Anonymous:

I do lead a safe, drug free, alcohol free, healthy food, clothing, shelter, loving life for him. I was taught to help the less fortunate. I want him to know the same.




Quoting DaiTilley:

You don't lead a very safe life for your son if you impulsively invite a homeless person whom you don't even know to live with you.


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evelynolivesmom
by Gold Member on Nov. 22, 2012 at 11:57 AM

 That's horrible! Maybe her family should take all of her kids

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