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The audacity!!!

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
I got on the site wishuponahero and looked for people that needed help in my city. I found a single mom that needed clothes for her kids. I contacted her and it turns out she's homeless. She has a 2 month old and a 6 year old and she lost her 6 month old last year due to a heart condition.
We go to my moms on Thanksgiving and everyone is welcome. Well, I asked her if she wanted to go. She said yes, that was a couple weeks ago.
She started texting me asking me if I was going to pick her up Wednesday. I kept telling her no, we're having it on Thanksgiving which is Thursday. She said ok, then she would ask again the next day.
Finally on Tuesday I said I'd pick her up if she wanted to help me cook. She said yes.
So yesterday I went and picked her up, we came back to my house and she fell asleep while nursing her son, I understand that.
When she woke up she didn't help. Dh got home and we were talking and he asked her if she wanted to stay here until she got on her feet again, she said she would like that.
Well around 8:45 last night (15 minutes before ds gets his bath) she asked us to drive her somewhere and drop her off.
Ok, so we did. Well she takes us to this one house where this guy owes her money because she used her fs to buy him food. He wasn't there so she has us drive her somewhere else. On the way to the other house she asks if we will babysit her son so she can go out drinking.
Abso-fucking-lutely not! No. Nope. Sorry boutcha bad luck, lady but NO!
So we drop her off and instantly she starts texting and calling me, asking if she left something in the car. Nope, sure didn't.
Just now she texts me and asks if she can stay with us.
WTF?! No! That offer was before we knew she was a raging alcoholic! We don't drink, at all, we lead a very safe life for our son, we try to set good examples for him.
Ugh!
Dh will get a laugh out of this one! I didn't text her back, I don't even know what to say!!
Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 22, 2012 at 11:40 AM
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Lunarprancer
by Betsy on Nov. 23, 2012 at 11:14 AM

It's the way she spoke of  her.

Quoting 702girly:


Quoting Lunarprancer:

So she's not wortthy of your compassion because she drinks?  Have you walked in her shoes?

What more do you expect her to do? Seriously. She told her she could stay in her home. How is the OP not compassionate?


With light and love

othermom
by Ruby Member on Nov. 23, 2012 at 11:19 AM

Wow, that is one reason  not to invite a stranger in your home. I would feel bad for the kids though. That is so sad. It was wonderful of you to try to help. Wishuponahero is a great site/

hautemama83
by Emerald Member on Nov. 23, 2012 at 11:25 AM
Its odd you say you lead a "very safe" life with your son, but let a complete stranger into your home. And even offer to let her live with you. That doesn't seem safe to me. Actually I'd think that's a lot less safe than drinking occasionally.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 23, 2012 at 11:57 AM
She doesn't drink occasionally. Her words were "Sunday through Monday". She leaves her son with complete strangers so she can go drink then she walks through the worst part of town with him at 6am.


Quoting hautemama83:

Its odd you say you lead a "very safe" life with your son, but let a complete stranger into your home. And even offer to let her live with you. That doesn't seem safe to me. Actually I'd think that's a lot less safe than drinking occasionally.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 23, 2012 at 11:58 AM
It is a good site, I love it. It just hurts to know that the people on there may be like her :-/


Quoting othermom:

Wow, that is one reason  not to invite a stranger in your home. I would feel bad for the kids though. That is so sad. It was wonderful of you to try to help. Wishuponahero is a great site/


layawatling
by Laya on Nov. 23, 2012 at 12:02 PM
This, totally.

Quoting DaiTilley:

You don't lead a very safe life for your son if you impulsively invite a homeless person whom you don't even know to live with you.
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hautemama83
by Emerald Member on Nov. 23, 2012 at 12:03 PM
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I wasn't referring to her drinking. I was referring to what you said. Essentially you don't partake in "risky" behaviors in order to lead a safe life for your son, however you allow complete strangers not only into your hone but offer them to LIVE there. That is far more risky than anything else.

Quoting Anonymous:

She doesn't drink occasionally. Her words were "Sunday through Monday". She leaves her son with complete strangers so she can go drink then she walks through the worst part of town with him at 6am.







Quoting hautemama83:

Its odd you say you lead a "very safe" life with your son, but let a complete stranger into your home. And even offer to let her live with you. That doesn't seem safe to me. Actually I'd think that's a lot less safe than drinking occasionally.

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othermom
by Ruby Member on Nov. 23, 2012 at 1:45 PM


Quoting Anonymous:

It is a good site, I love it. It just hurts to know that the people on there may be like her :-/


Quoting othermom:

Wow, that is one reason  not to invite a stranger in your home. I would feel bad for the kids though. That is so sad. It was wonderful of you to try to help. Wishuponahero is a great site/



I have been on wishupoahero since 2007 and have helped many people on there. Have been scammed a few times, but i don't let it get me down. I would never invite a person to my home though. I love to help people when I can and try to go out of my way to. I would feel horrible for that baby if she is drinking and stuff and not doing what she could to get back on her feet.

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