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See if I EVER lend you money again!!! UPDATE.

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We stupidly loaned money to my BIL and his wife. They claimed that they had no money for food. They have a little boy (22 months) which is the only reason I agreed to lend them money. I didn't want the poor boy to have to suffer. We talked to them about being more responsible witht their money and told them this is the only time we will lend you money and you must pay it back. I would have rather had them come and work for us for the money but they live too far away. Anyways, they promised they would be more responsible, pay us back as soon as they could, etc. That was back in February. Yes, February. We have asked several times for the repayment. We don't need the money but feel that they should pay it back because that was the agreement. They keep claiming that they can't pay us yet because they don't have enough money. I get on Facebook this morning and see this status update from the wife.

"$463 dollars later and I am finished shopping for _____ (BIL)!!! He's going to love his Christmas gifts!"


They only owed us $150. As I said the amount is not what is bothering me. They made a promise to repay us and apparently are going to break that promise. I wouldn't be near as upset if that money had went toward bills or even their son's Christmas but for BIL, really?!? He is a grown man. Grrrrr!!!!! Vent over.

Yes, I know it was dumb to lend them the money and we are never doing it again. I am assuming they will never pay us back.


Update: Thanks for all the great advice! I didn't say anything to her or BIL about the money. We do $20 sibling gifts in DH's family. For the next eight years they will get a card saying "Merry Christmas! Instead of giving you a gift, we have decided to take $20 off of the debt you owe us!" We are hoping this will prove our point. No more money will be given to them. I would have just bought food for them instead of giving them money in the first place but they live in another state so that wasn't an option. I'll have to update again after Christmas and let you know what their reaction is! ;)

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 23, 2012 at 10:40 AM
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mommysangelface
by Emerald Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 6:39 PM

i would have commented


"thats awesome. you did put aside $150 to pay us back with right? its been 9 months"


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Godgaveme4
by Gold Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 6:40 PM
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 When we lend money to family and even friends we do it out of love.  If they pay us back, great.  If not it is not enough for us to start a family feud.  We like to help when we can.  WE never know when we will be the one's needing the help.

ETA:  The card seems a little immature IMO.

mommytothree07
by Gold Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 6:58 PM
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TranquilMind
by Ruby Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 7:00 PM

Copy her Facebook status and send it to her with a request for the money now.


You know you will never see it again, but it's worth a try.  I learned long ago that money you give to relatives who don't handle money well is gone (one side of family is like this).  Consider it a gift and move on.

TranquilMind
by Ruby Member on Dec. 29, 2012 at 7:01 PM

I would do this privately, not on Facebook itself.  This is a private matter. 

Quoting mommysangelface:

i would have commented

 

"thats awesome. you did put aside $150 to pay us back with right? its been 9 months"



Anonymous
by Anonymous 56 on Feb. 26, 2013 at 9:18 PM

So what happened on Christmas?

iamcafemom83
by Ruby Member on Feb. 26, 2013 at 9:20 PM
Lmao did you do it?
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