My daughter actually said, what i feared she would say
My daughter is 13 about about 8 months ago we told her the truth about my husband not being her real father. For a couple of years since she was 10 she was asking why her last name was different and i just told her i would explain it to her when she was older. Well about 8 months ago, she got mad and started screaming that she was adopted, at that moment my husband decided to go tell her the truth, i didn't want her to know and i started crying and ran outside, he told her, i heard her crying and i came back inside because i had to be there for her. we talked to her and we all cried and i explain stuff to her and that was the end of it.
Here is the back story. When my daughter was a baby her bio was abusive and on drugs, we split up before her first birthday, he stalked me and i had to leave state to get away from him, i tried letting him be a part of her life at the beginning when we split up until i found out he was doing drug around her. Well i moved to Florida she was about a year old. I met my now husband. He was 21 single, no children, no responsibility. when i met him she clinged to him, we got together, moved into together and started taking care of her as if she was his own. He come home from work one night she walked up to him with her arm in the air saying daddy, daddy. From that moment on he became her daddy. she called him daddy, he has always loved her like a daddy would. we went on to have another child together and getting married and he always treated the same as our son.
Now: she is 13 at that age where she is getting really difficult, the attitude, screaming, fighting with us all the time. tonight he told her to make her bed and she started screaming, and then they started arguing. then she yelled out " you are not even my real daddy" ! OMG, that was my fear, the reason why i didn't want her to know yet. i got mad and told her that i don't ever won't her say that again because that man has and always will be here daddy, he takes care of her, feeds her, clothes her, buys her christmas present and loves her, he has always been her daddy. i told her that he took on a job that he didn't have to but he did because when he met me he not only fell in love with me but he fell in love with her too. He told her, before we met all he cared about was partying but when we met he stop because he had a daughter. No matter what she will always be his daughter.
I knew this was going to happen, that is why i didn't want her to know, this is why i ran outside when he told her. I know she only said it because she knew it would hurt him but i hurt me too, because i know he loves her. He loves her just as much as any dad could love his daughter. i told her that she need to think about how many of her friends don't have daddy in their life, she has one, it may not be the man who got me pregnant but he is her daddy. Any man can make a baby it takes a real man to be a daddy.
Thanks i just had to let it out.