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I would never place a child up for adoption - Edited for explanation as to why

Anonymous
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The contents of my uterus are just that, in my uterus and therefore mine.

I have had two abortions. I could never have placed a child up for adoption, and in one instance, I did not want to be pregnant. Therefore, I took care of it.

For me it's just too hard, wondering always wondering, where your child is. I knew as soon as I gave birth, I would resind the offer, to give my child away. And I knew I would change my mind right away. I would break some couple's heart. And ruin my kid's life all at the same time. Abortion was a much better option for me.

And open adoption would have sent me into a suicidal depression. Seeing pictures would have even been worse, so adoption was a no go for me.

When a woman says I cannot have kids, I get that and I am sorry. But it isn't MY fault. I did NOT make you barren. You don't own my uterus, nor can you rent it like you do an apartment or car.

I do think adoption can be a beautiful thing, but it's not for me. I could NEVER go through 9 months of pregnancy and hand a child to someone else. And at the times of my abortions, I could not properly care for a child. No way would I have had a child homeless, but I could never give it away to someone else either.

The first abortion I was young and stupid. We were using condoms and used them everytime, but I guess one broke.

The second time, I was financially stable and engaged. We were trying and had some money saved for a crib and clothing and toys, etc. I found out I was pregnant and we were both excited. Happy. Two weeks later he was hit head on by a drunk driver and killed. He was making a lot more money and without his income I lost the apartment, had no where to go, and the money we saved for the other stuff barely paid for the abortion.

I now have three kids and a wonderful husband so yes I did go on to have children.

 

Posted by Anonymous on Nov. 23, 2012 at 11:19 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Nov. 23, 2012 at 11:21 PM

BUMP!!!

CodenameDuchess
by on Nov. 23, 2012 at 11:22 PM
I feel the same way.
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by Anonymous 2 on Nov. 23, 2012 at 11:24 PM

I feel the same way.

lovehimforever
by Gold Member on Nov. 23, 2012 at 11:24 PM
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good for you . to each there own. I for 1 however have placed a child for adoption and i would much rather do that then have an abortion. 

Josie_P
by on Nov. 23, 2012 at 11:24 PM
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I understand how you feel. But I would not have my son if every women felt the same as you. But I do completely understand what you are saying, although my son's incubator just dropped him off at the orphanage and disappeared. Ah well, he's much better here =D

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Nov. 23, 2012 at 11:25 PM
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As a surrogate, I must be satan to you then.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Nov. 23, 2012 at 11:25 PM
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Nobody gives a fuck. Give yourself as many abortion pats on the back as you want.
Pita369
by Bronze Member on Nov. 23, 2012 at 11:25 PM
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Well that's your choice... I gave up my son because I knew I couldn't do it alone and I do not see abortion as a form of birth control. I gave him life and his parents gave him the life I couldn't provide for him. All I can do is hope that one day i will see him again.
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by Anonymous 5 on Nov. 23, 2012 at 11:25 PM
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So you would be sad to give your child away but killing it is no biggie. I've never understood that one.
Teacher101
by on Nov. 23, 2012 at 11:25 PM
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This is tough... see I could never have an abortion, but I also don't think I could follow through with adoption. I suppose my only option would have been to lean hard on my family or raise the kid in poverty.

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